Well....relationship wise....my husband and I put us first (without neglecting the kids) we provide a stable foundation for our kids.....almost 25 years later it works for us. We are one of the few married parents among their friends parents, and they feel safe, secure and have set a great example 😊
The key word is "Always". It's pretty hard to make a blanket statement like that. I'm sure there's some situation where it would be best to put the parent before the child.
Agree. Even when a parent needs to put their immediate needs before their child's, it should be in the spirit of and with the overall goal of doing what is best for their child.
Parents need to take care of themselves before they take care of their kids. They do their kids no favors by becoming a burden on their kids later in life.
No. My wife comes before my kids. We need a strong, healthy relationship before we can have the emotional strength to give to our kids as we need to. I believe it makes for healthier kids.
If you are truly putting your needs ahead of yourself - sure
Sometimes, people put their needs at the expense of their children. Other times, a person must care for him/herself to care for the needs of their children.
Not necessarily. If it might mean leaving the younger kid(s) orphaned, for example. Way too broad a statement to say it always applies, or even that it mostly does. And, as with the oxygen mask example, many times the only sensible or "right" action is to take care of yourself first, to secure or improve your ability to help any others.
How is it not right? If they chose to take the lives of the innocent that's their problem. I haven't spoken to my child in years, thus I do not love them.
Your child may have disobeyed you, but you are to still love your child. Just think of the prodigal son - the son left his father and was consumed with the world. Nevertheless, his Father still loved him and welcomed him back with open arms. While you might be disappointed with your son, you are to love him not his sins.
"disobeyed"? He did much more than "disobey" me. He repeatedly broke the law, taking numerous lives of the innocent. A mass murderer deserves no such empathy, whether they are my child or not.
And how did this conversation get to "loving" our children anyway? The poll is stating that we should always put out children before us. No, we shouldn't, not always. There are certain circumstances that I would put myself before my child. This doesn't even mention "love".
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