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political May 17th, 2017 5:48pm

A parent should always put his/her child before him/herself

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ovcourse California
05/18/17 6:23 pm

That's a slow path to divorce.

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rons WOKE is sick
05/18/17 10:11 am

No, my wife always put me as #1 the breadwinner, she #2 the management, #3 was the son to manage, and #4 was the dog because he's the dog.

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Amykl Temecula, CA
05/17/17 7:42 pm

Well....relationship wise....my husband and I put us first (without neglecting the kids) we provide a stable foundation for our kids.....almost 25 years later it works for us. We are one of the few married parents among their friends parents, and they feel safe, secure and have set a great example 😊

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theNobamist Silicon Valley
05/17/17 6:46 pm

What do they tell you on airplanes? Put the mask on yourself first, then your kid.

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truspec Texas
05/17/17 4:26 pm

Disagree. Mostly because you used absolutes

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american6 Moderate Libertarian
05/17/17 3:28 pm

The key word is "Always". It's pretty hard to make a blanket statement like that. I'm sure there's some situation where it would be best to put the parent before the child.

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ronderman North Carolina
05/17/17 3:23 pm

Agree. Spouse should go in front of the children.

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leilu SoCal
05/17/17 3:14 pm

Not always, but most if the time.

MrMilkdud
05/17/17 2:55 pm

Agree. Even when a parent needs to put their immediate needs before their child's, it should be in the spirit of and with the overall goal of doing what is best for their child.

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jakecrs905 Long Island, NY
05/17/17 2:43 pm

Except when the oxygen masks drop down on a plane.

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sea California
05/17/17 2:13 pm

Parents need to take care of themselves before they take care of their kids. They do their kids no favors by becoming a burden on their kids later in life.

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screename1 Alaska
05/17/17 1:38 pm

No. My wife comes before my kids. We need a strong, healthy relationship before we can have the emotional strength to give to our kids as we need to. I believe it makes for healthier kids.

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screename1 Alaska
05/17/17 1:41 pm

Oops, I read that wrong, but my answer is still the same. There are times I need to take care of my needs, so that I can be the best dad for them.

political Georgia
05/17/17 1:55 pm

Your intent for caring for yourself is so that you can provide for your kids which is actively putting your kids before yourself.

jarod California
05/17/17 2:43 pm

Caring for yourself before your kids is putting your needs before theirs ..

political Georgia
05/17/17 2:49 pm

If you are truly putting your needs ahead of yourself - sure

Sometimes, people put their needs at the expense of their children. Other times, a person must care for him/herself to care for the needs of their children.

political Georgia
05/17/17 2:49 pm

Ahead of your kids* in the opening sentence

screename1 Alaska
05/17/17 3:31 pm

Good point. I guess the end result is putting my kids ahead of myself.

CoffeeNow Powderpuff Leftist
05/17/17 12:30 pm

No that's retarded. Always secure your own mask before assisting others

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Zod Above Pugetropolis
05/17/17 11:48 am

Parent or not, you always put on your own oxygen mask before attempting to help others. Including (maybe especially) helping your kids.

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political Georgia
05/17/17 11:50 am

The logic behind that is so that you are able to assist your child. That isn't equivalent to valuing yourself more than your child.

Zod Above Pugetropolis
05/17/17 11:57 am

"A parent should always *put* his/her child before him/herself"

Who said anything about value? The answer is still no though.

political Georgia
05/17/17 12:02 pm

Do you believe a parent should sacrifice his/her life to protect his/her child's life theoretically?

Zod Above Pugetropolis
05/17/17 12:40 pm

Not necessarily. If it might mean leaving the younger kid(s) orphaned, for example. Way too broad a statement to say it always applies, or even that it mostly does. And, as with the oxygen mask example, many times the only sensible or "right" action is to take care of yourself first, to secure or improve your ability to help any others.

LoyalOkie E Pluribus Unum
05/17/17 11:38 am

1) Faith
2) Family
3) Country
4) Self

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CoffeeNow Powderpuff Leftist
05/17/17 2:06 pm

1) Self
2) Family
3) Memes
4) Pizza
5) Country
6) Faith in memes

bluerum29 optimistic idealist
05/17/17 11:36 am

Sometimes you have to do what's best for you in a given situation, it may be better for the kids in the long run, just not in the moment

HammeringMan Gods Away On Business
05/17/17 11:19 am

Survival of the family unit is a priority over the individual. Gallant self sacrifice may not be the smartest choice for other members of the family

Cole12 ...
05/17/17 11:15 am

Even from an evolutionary perspective, no.

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jarod California
05/17/17 11:13 am

"Always" prompted me to say disagree.

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jarod California
05/17/17 11:16 am

It's like ashwink said... What if my child is a murderer whom I haven't talked to in years? I wouldn't put him/her before me.

political Georgia
05/17/17 11:45 am

Your child's actions might change your parenting methods, but it should not change your love for your child.

jarod California
05/17/17 11:49 am

I would not love my child if he/she killed numerous innocent people.

political Georgia
05/17/17 11:50 am

That's not right.

jarod California
05/17/17 11:57 am

How is it not right? If they chose to take the lives of the innocent that's their problem. I haven't spoken to my child in years, thus I do not love them.

political Georgia
05/17/17 12:00 pm

Your child may have disobeyed you, but you are to still love your child. Just think of the prodigal son - the son left his father and was consumed with the world. Nevertheless, his Father still loved him and welcomed him back with open arms. While you might be disappointed with your son, you are to love him not his sins.

jarod California
05/17/17 12:02 pm

"disobeyed"? He did much more than "disobey" me. He repeatedly broke the law, taking numerous lives of the innocent. A mass murderer deserves no such empathy, whether they are my child or not.

jarod California
05/17/17 12:03 pm

And how did this conversation get to "loving" our children anyway? The poll is stating that we should always put out children before us. No, we shouldn't, not always. There are certain circumstances that I would put myself before my child. This doesn't even mention "love".

political Georgia
05/17/17 12:04 pm

The Holy Spirit can accomplish extraordinary things.

political Georgia
05/17/17 12:05 pm

You only put your child before yourself because of love. Can you imagine any other reason for putting your child before yourself?

jarod California
05/17/17 12:09 pm

My opinion stands.

Jazzy5 USA
05/17/17 11:09 am

Disagree...each situation that comes up, requires the adult to make the right decision.
Sometimes, the child will come first and sometimes it won't.

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soh12
05/17/17 11:05 am

If my child is a druggie loser that robs stores then he or she is worthless

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political Georgia
05/17/17 11:07 am

That's rough.

gluxford1 Arizona
05/17/17 10:51 am

Strongly agree.

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Jack14 Massachusetts
05/17/17 10:51 am

Always is a strong word.

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political Georgia
05/17/17 10:53 am

Yep - it wasn't worded this way on accident.