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"Always" prompted me to say disagree.

The key word is "Always". It's pretty hard to make a blanket statement like that. I'm sure there's some situation where it would be best to put the parent before the child.

Parent or not, you always put on your own oxygen mask before attempting to help others. Including (maybe especially) helping your kids.

Always is a strong word.

The logic behind that is so that you are able to assist your child. That isn't equivalent to valuing yourself more than your child.

Yep - it wasn't worded this way on accident.

Not necessarily. If it might mean leaving the younger kid(s) orphaned, for example. Way too broad a statement to say it always applies, or even that it mostly does. And, as with the oxygen mask example, many times the only sensible or "right" action is to take care of yourself first, to secure or improve your ability to help any others.

Except when the oxygen masks drop down on a plane.

Disagree. Mostly because you used absolutes

1) Faith
2) Family
3) Country
4) Self

1) Self
2) Family
3) Memes
4) Pizza
5) Country
6) Faith in memes

Agree. Spouse should go in front of the children.

No that's retarded. Always secure your own mask before assisting others

Parents need to take care of themselves before they take care of their kids. They do their kids no favors by becoming a burden on their kids later in life.

It's like ashwink said... What if my child is a murderer whom I haven't talked to in years? I wouldn't put him/her before me.

That's not right.

Well....relationship wise....my husband and I put us first (without neglecting the kids) we provide a stable foundation for our kids.....almost 25 years later it works for us. We are one of the few married parents among their friends parents, and they feel safe, secure and have set a great example 😊

Strongly agree.

"A parent should always *put* his/her child before him/herself"

Who said anything about value? The answer is still no though.

"disobeyed"? He did much more than "disobey" me. He repeatedly broke the law, taking numerous lives of the innocent. A mass murderer deserves no such empathy, whether they are my child or not.

Disagree...each situation that comes up, requires the adult to make the right decision.
Sometimes, the child will come first and sometimes it won't.

Even from an evolutionary perspective, no.

No. My wife comes before my kids. We need a strong, healthy relationship before we can have the emotional strength to give to our kids as we need to. I believe it makes for healthier kids.

Oops, I read that wrong, but my answer is still the same. There are times I need to take care of my needs, so that I can be the best dad for them.

Yes and no.

Sometimes you have to do what's best for you in a given situation, it may be better for the kids in the long run, just not in the moment

Your child may have disobeyed you, but you are to still love your child. Just think of the prodigal son - the son left his father and was consumed with the world. Nevertheless, his Father still loved him and welcomed him back with open arms. While you might be disappointed with your son, you are to love him not his sins.

And how did this conversation get to "loving" our children anyway? The poll is stating that we should always put out children before us. No, we shouldn't, not always. There are certain circumstances that I would put myself before my child. This doesn't even mention "love".

The Holy Spirit can accomplish extraordinary things.

You only put your child before yourself because of love. Can you imagine any other reason for putting your child before yourself?

If my child is a druggie loser that robs stores then he or she is worthless

What do they tell you on airplanes? Put the mask on yourself first, then your kid.

Why?

Good point. I guess the end result is putting my kids ahead of myself.

No, my wife always put me as #1 the breadwinner, she #2 the management, #3 was the son to manage, and #4 was the dog because he's the dog.

Caring for yourself before your kids is putting your needs before theirs ..

If you are truly putting your needs ahead of yourself - sure

Sometimes, people put their needs at the expense of their children. Other times, a person must care for him/herself to care for the needs of their children.

Ahead of your kids* in the opening sentence

Your intent for caring for yourself is so that you can provide for your kids which is actively putting your kids before yourself.

Your child's actions might change your parenting methods, but it should not change your love for your child.

Agree. Even when a parent needs to put their immediate needs before their child's, it should be in the spirit of and with the overall goal of doing what is best for their child.

I would not love my child if he/she killed numerous innocent people.

How is it not right? If they chose to take the lives of the innocent that's their problem. I haven't spoken to my child in years, thus I do not love them.

Do you believe a parent should sacrifice his/her life to protect his/her child's life theoretically?

That's a slow path to divorce.

My opinion stands.

That's rough.

It's true though.

Survival of the family unit is a priority over the individual. Gallant self sacrifice may not be the smartest choice for other members of the family

No, ; )