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KatG June 2nd, 2014 3:39am

What are the top three most important things to having a successful marriage?

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BradenP Hartland, WI
06/04/14 9:21 am

1) Keep religious faith.
2) Don't over compromise. In other words, don't give in every time to your husband/wife. Basically, this is for the guys.
3) Make sure to get out on a free night every once in a while. Kids can become a nightmare, go out.

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Shiggybythebay Proud Bay Area Native
06/04/14 7:08 am

Trust Respect Generosity

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myk27x
06/03/14 1:54 pm

1) Compromise.
2) Honesty/Openness/Trust
3) Compatibility (habits, neuroses, sexual appetite, etc.)

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WhoAreYou Up In The Trees
06/03/14 10:26 am

1. Honesty
2. Trust
3. Understanding that I am and will always be right

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elianastar Gab.ai FreeSpeech
06/03/14 10:24 am

1. Mutual respect
2. Appreciation of humor
3. Recognizing partner isn't SUPPOSED to meet EVERY need; each needs *other* friends & activities separate from "pod"

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itsOkay no longer answering here
06/03/14 10:10 am

Common goals.
Common values and culture.
Common deep commitment to making it work.

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nicolebliss31
06/03/14 8:13 am

Respect communication and love

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GrandmaALiCE
06/03/14 7:53 am

- A sense of humor is essential
- Patience - lots of it!
- Commitment to the relationship; don't give up, just because you are going through a rough time.

(Not necessarily in the above order ... All three are important.)

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AussieGirl Oz the Land of Wonder
06/03/14 7:19 am

Devotion to only each other. Respect for each other in every way. Trust. (Great Q! My daughter was married this weekend and it was such a joyous event! She and her new husband had a 7 year courtship and will have a lifetime of joy and love together!)

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KatG Liberal in Ohio
06/06/14 5:14 pm

My son got married last weekend.

pinkyusuck The Carribean. I wish.
06/03/14 6:15 am

1. A foundation based on each partner loving God more than they love each other, or themselves. 2. Loving each other more than themselves or their children. 3. Lots of sex, and the willingness to experiment in the bedroom to please their spouse.

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pinkyusuck The Carribean. I wish.
06/03/14 6:15 am

If you get those three right, everything else can be worked out in a mutually satisfactory manner.

mac Oregon
06/03/14 6:00 am

Respect
Devotion
Communication
Bonus: laugh together

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revp01
06/03/14 5:44 am

1. Don't be selfish (in all aspects)
2. Listen more than you talk
3. For each criticism/complaint you may have about your spouse, find 10 things you appreciate about him/her.

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rons on top of the world MA
06/03/14 4:52 am

1. Respect their opinions
2. Don't harp
3. Find a hideout

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rons on top of the world MA
06/03/14 4:52 am

Oh yeah, don't try to change anyone!

jmw7477 Indiana
06/03/14 4:25 am

Accept the other person's quirks. Find things you enjoy doing together. Find things you enjoy doing apart.

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RossDMands Miami Township, OH
06/03/14 3:23 am

Vasectomy.
Being Deaf.
Die Early.

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BrittneyBunny Maryland
06/03/14 3:55 am

My husband would agree to the vasectomy part!! Haha

dxstap Bloomington, Indiana
06/03/14 2:45 am

A marriage is an unequal partnership. If each participant strives to contribute more than half to the relationship then the result is a successful marriage.

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Zimmeress Make Me Laugh
06/02/14 7:18 pm

Communication, respect and equality.

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dxstap Bloomington, Indiana
06/03/14 2:51 am

I know ur intent is good but equality can lead to score keeping. Instead each party should attempt to contribute more than half. Then the marriage is more than the sum of two people.

TopsQueen Oregon Coast
06/02/14 12:28 pm

Forgiveness, acceptance, patience.

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blitz6799 Chicagoland
06/02/14 9:44 am

1. A spouse - can't have one without it
2. & 3. Unknown

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mikeey1962 on SOH where else
06/02/14 6:48 am

Trust, respect, and patients!

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thursday Kansas
06/03/14 4:16 am

Because doctors make the best married people. ;)

cowboy All Lives Matter
06/02/14 5:54 am

Faith, understanding, and trust.

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knh85 ...
06/02/14 4:30 am

GOOD communication, the ability to compromise, forgiveness.

4. Trust
5. Sex, often :)

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ozzy
06/02/14 3:33 am

Desire, lust, and tolerance

moonshot More often I know nothing
06/02/14 3:29 am

Trust, commitment, and forgiveness.

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citethesource Socialist and Atheist
06/01/14 10:56 pm

1. A spouse
2. Ten billion dollars
3. Probably something dumb like "communication"

***not married and likely not going to be anytime soon, for various reasons.

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fredd TrumpLand
06/01/14 10:37 pm

Ask me again in 30 years.

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madeit Houston Area
06/01/14 9:37 pm

Unconditional love, frequent forgiveness, a willingness to sacrifice for the good of the other. Everything else takes care of itself after that.

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Shazam Scaramouche, OH
06/01/14 9:33 pm

I see a ton saying communication. I kinda disagree. I would put empathy much higher. Being able to see an issue through another's eyes is mucho mucho. Next, I'd list patience. Last I'd list realistic expectations. I cannot tell you how many times I

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Shazam Scaramouche, OH
06/01/14 9:36 pm

Have asked M/F friends who were pissed to high holy hell at the SOs if they would expect the same - whatever that was - from a friend or family member, and if they would be as pissed with them. Almost always the answer is nope and nope.

Shazam Scaramouche, OH
06/01/14 9:39 pm

Having said all of that, i think where most men fall down is they stop treating their SOs like women. They stop wooing them, stop making them feel special and gorgeous and the one thing they cannot get nearly enough of. If treating them that way

Shazam Scaramouche, OH
06/01/14 9:40 pm

Wouldn't get you the girl, why the fuck would you expect it would get you to KEEP the girl?

knh85 ...
06/02/14 11:39 am

I agree and should have put empathy first in my comment.

KatG Liberal in Ohio
06/02/14 7:56 pm

Best answer

Shazam Scaramouche, OH
06/02/14 8:16 pm

KAT - my folks raised me right! I'm a catch!

dawl adulting
06/03/14 7:13 am

Shazzy yes you are!
I agree with empathy being key. And you nailed it with what men aren't doing right- you should teach a class lol.

Shazam Scaramouche, OH
06/03/14 7:16 am

Nah - You're the pro on that one!

MrWolfe Nashville
06/01/14 9:33 pm

Ok, it's after hours... so here goes:

My late dad used to say, 'son, there are two rules to keeping a woman happy. Keep money in her pocket, and keep her well-fucked.'

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chickencookie
06/01/14 9:34 pm

☺️

Zimmeress Make Me Laugh
06/02/14 7:19 pm

Good lord, Wolfe!

KatG Liberal in Ohio
06/02/14 7:56 pm

I would have liked your dad!!

MrWolfe Nashville
06/02/14 8:05 pm

haha... yeah, he was a funny dude

Zod Above Pugetropolis
06/01/14 9:14 pm

Trust, respect, sense of humor.

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chickencookie
06/01/14 9:13 pm

Im taking notes.

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commonsense Read another book
06/01/14 9:07 pm

Forgiveness is huge. I do it daily.
Trust and Respect for your SO
Playfulness

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KatG Liberal in Ohio
06/02/14 7:58 pm

I like the last one....you don't see that one thrown out there much, but it's true.

sdbrev210 The Pursuit of Happiness
06/01/14 9:06 pm

A loving, forgiving, servant heart.

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dawl adulting
06/01/14 9:01 pm

Can someone just tell me what it takes for someone to ask you for coffee? Let's start there.

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inge MIA
06/01/14 9:02 pm

Lol, share the tips when you get some.

chickencookie
06/01/14 9:12 pm

Lol. Aw. You will it have it someday.

Shazam Scaramouche, OH
06/01/14 9:28 pm

It's cause all the good guys are midwestern men!

inge MIA
06/01/14 9:30 pm

Send some this way.

Rob Be Safe Be Smart
06/01/14 9:40 pm

Couple of strong pretty women like yerselves prolly intimidate the nice ones and only the douchebags have the strength to ever talk to you. Try uglying yerselves up a little maybe.

dawl adulting
06/01/14 9:41 pm

Yes Shazzy do as Inge says⬆️⬆️⬆️

dawl adulting
06/01/14 9:43 pm

Rob lmao thanks! Nah not even douchebags lately for me to complain about!

Rob Be Safe Be Smart
06/01/14 9:49 pm

Well at least there's that.

BrittneyBunny Maryland
06/03/14 3:58 am

Hey, I met my husband online and our first date was Starbucks. That could always be an option but just watch out for the crazies.

Shazam Scaramouche, OH
06/03/14 6:28 am

PINK - check your neck!

dawl adulting
06/03/14 7:06 am

Brittney thanks I've tried that but I could try again I suppose .

Rob Be Safe Be Smart
06/03/14 7:08 am

SOH worked for me :)

dawl adulting
06/03/14 7:27 am

Rob that's so sweet!
Brit - literally all of them. Except the religious ones.

BrittneyBunny Maryland
06/03/14 7:29 am

D- i used plenty of fish and filtered it like crazy. My older brother used it for booty calls. LOL. It's all about filters.

dawl adulting
06/03/14 7:38 am

Omg POF is an adventure! I should have kept a log of those crazies.

BrittneyBunny Maryland
06/03/14 7:40 am

LOL that's where I met Swervin at!!! Hahaha. I seriously had to block people and filter who could message me on that site. I had like 50yo men sending me messages.

dawl adulting
06/03/14 7:54 am

You are lucky!! Even with filters people managed to get through or just ignored my preferences. I've even had couples ask me if I would play with them. Had to get out lol!!

inge MIA
06/01/14 8:52 pm

Communication, respect, passion.

That would be my guess. I divorced so what do I know.

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Zimmeress Make Me Laugh
06/02/14 7:20 pm

Honey, at least you know what you need! Never settle for less. Especially when you know yourself so well.

Pauln95klkkk
06/01/14 8:48 pm

Common shared values, trust, sense of humor.

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TierasPet
06/01/14 8:47 pm

Love
Trust
Understanding

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bMyComrade Stumptown
06/01/14 8:46 pm

Talk things out, respect each other, and forgive a lot.

Also, have really good sex, a lot. A lot, a lot. Haha :D

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comppete Las Vegas
06/01/14 8:45 pm

Beyond everything else; Trust 100%
Selflessness
Always remember why you fell in love.

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dale41 Lets play two
06/01/14 8:44 pm

The wife is always right, the wife is always right, and the wife is always right.

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dale41 Lets play two
06/01/14 9:16 pm

Thanks. Now if only I can find someone.

dale41 Lets play two
06/01/14 9:27 pm

One of these days.

pinkyusuck The Carribean. I wish.
06/03/14 6:22 am

Pssh. Sounds like a recipe to be whipped.

Rob Be Safe Be Smart
06/01/14 8:42 pm

Communication, understanding, physical love, not necessarily in that order..but I've never been married so at least that's what I think it would take.

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Shazam Scaramouche, OH
06/01/14 9:29 pm

HEY! You came up for air! Drink some gatorade, we'll see you in a few days!

Rob Be Safe Be Smart
06/01/14 9:37 pm

Just bopping my head out for a minute. It's a really busy week for me.