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KatG June 2nd, 2014 3:39am

What are the top three most important things to having a successful marriage?

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MrWolfe Nashville
06/01/14 9:33 pm

Ok, it's after hours... so here goes:

My late dad used to say, 'son, there are two rules to keeping a woman happy. Keep money in her pocket, and keep her well-fucked.'

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dale41 Putting the FU in fun
06/01/14 8:44 pm

The wife is always right, the wife is always right, and the wife is always right.

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dawl adulting
06/01/14 9:01 pm

Can someone just tell me what it takes for someone to ask you for coffee? Let's start there.

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comppete Las Vegas
06/01/14 8:45 pm

Beyond everything else; Trust 100%
Selflessness
Always remember why you fell in love.

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bMyComrade Beantown
06/01/14 8:46 pm

Talk things out, respect each other, and forgive a lot.

Also, have really good sex, a lot. A lot, a lot. Haha :D

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citethesource Socialist and Atheist
06/01/14 10:56 pm

1. A spouse
2. Ten billion dollars
3. Probably something dumb like "communication"

***not married and likely not going to be anytime soon, for various reasons.

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inge MIA
06/01/14 8:52 pm

Communication, respect, passion.

That would be my guess. I divorced so what do I know.

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madeit Houston Area
06/01/14 9:37 pm

Unconditional love, frequent forgiveness, a willingness to sacrifice for the good of the other. Everything else takes care of itself after that.

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Shazam Scaramouche, OH
06/01/14 9:39 pm

Having said all of that, i think where most men fall down is they stop treating their SOs like women. They stop wooing them, stop making them feel special and gorgeous and the one thing they cannot get nearly enough of. If treating them that way

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commonsense America isnt racist
06/01/14 9:07 pm

Forgiveness is huge. I do it daily.
Trust and Respect for your SO
Playfulness

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Shazam Scaramouche, OH
06/01/14 9:33 pm

I see a ton saying communication. I kinda disagree. I would put empathy much higher. Being able to see an issue through another's eyes is mucho mucho. Next, I'd list patience. Last I'd list realistic expectations. I cannot tell you how many times I

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Shazam Scaramouche, OH
06/01/14 9:40 pm

Wouldn't get you the girl, why the fuck would you expect it would get you to KEEP the girl?

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moonshot More often I know nothing
06/02/14 3:29 am

Trust, commitment, and forgiveness.

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GrandmaALiCE
06/03/14 7:53 am

- A sense of humor is essential
- Patience - lots of it!
- Commitment to the relationship; don't give up, just because you are going through a rough time.

(Not necessarily in the above order ... All three are important.)

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knh85 ...
06/02/14 4:30 am

GOOD communication, the ability to compromise, forgiveness.

4. Trust
5. Sex, often :)

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Shazam Scaramouche, OH
06/01/14 9:28 pm

It's cause all the good guys are midwestern men!

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TopsQueen Oregon Coast
06/02/14 12:28 pm

Forgiveness, acceptance, patience.

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RossDMands Miami Township, OH
06/03/14 3:23 am

Vasectomy.
Being Deaf.
Die Early.

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Rob Be Safe Be Smart
06/03/14 7:08 am

SOH worked for me :)

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Zod Above Pugetropolis
06/01/14 9:14 pm

Trust, respect, sense of humor.

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TierasPet
06/01/14 8:47 pm

Love
Trust
Understanding

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Zimmeress Make Me Laugh
06/02/14 7:18 pm

Communication, respect and equality.

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Rob Be Safe Be Smart
06/01/14 9:40 pm

Couple of strong pretty women like yerselves prolly intimidate the nice ones and only the douchebags have the strength to ever talk to you. Try uglying yerselves up a little maybe.

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cowboy Proud Father
06/02/14 5:54 am

Faith, understanding, and trust.

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jmw7477 Indiana
06/03/14 4:25 am

Accept the other person's quirks. Find things you enjoy doing together. Find things you enjoy doing apart.

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Pauln95klkkk
06/01/14 8:48 pm

Common shared values, trust, sense of humor.

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mac Oregon
06/03/14 6:00 am

Respect
Devotion
Communication
Bonus: laugh together

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dxstap Bloomington, Indiana
06/03/14 2:45 am

A marriage is an unequal partnership. If each participant strives to contribute more than half to the relationship then the result is a successful marriage.

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Shazam Scaramouche, OH
06/01/14 9:36 pm

Have asked M/F friends who were pissed to high holy hell at the SOs if they would expect the same - whatever that was - from a friend or family member, and if they would be as pissed with them. Almost always the answer is nope and nope.

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pinkyusuck The Carribean. I wish.
06/03/14 6:15 am

1. A foundation based on each partner loving God more than they love each other, or themselves. 2. Loving each other more than themselves or their children. 3. Lots of sex, and the willingness to experiment in the bedroom to please their spouse.

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blitz6799 Chicagoland
06/02/14 9:44 am

1. A spouse - can't have one without it
2. & 3. Unknown

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sdbrev210 The Pursuit of Happiness
06/01/14 9:06 pm

A loving, forgiving, servant heart.

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Shazam Scaramouche, OH
06/03/14 6:28 am

PINK - check your neck!

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itsOkay no longer answering here
06/03/14 10:10 am

Common goals.
Common values and culture.
Common deep commitment to making it work.

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Shazam Scaramouche, OH
06/02/14 8:16 pm

KAT - my folks raised me right! I'm a catch!

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revp01
06/03/14 5:44 am

1. Don't be selfish (in all aspects)
2. Listen more than you talk
3. For each criticism/complaint you may have about your spouse, find 10 things you appreciate about him/her.

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WhoAreYou Up In The Trees
06/03/14 10:26 am

1. Honesty
2. Trust
3. Understanding that I am and will always be right

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fredd TrumpLand
06/01/14 10:37 pm

Ask me again in 30 years.

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KatG Liberal in Ohio
06/02/14 7:58 pm

I like the last one....you don't see that one thrown out there much, but it's true.

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dxstap Bloomington, Indiana
06/03/14 2:51 am

I know ur intent is good but equality can lead to score keeping. Instead each party should attempt to contribute more than half. Then the marriage is more than the sum of two people.

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Zimmeress Make Me Laugh
06/02/14 7:19 pm

Good lord, Wolfe!

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nicolebliss31
06/03/14 8:13 am

Respect communication and love

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dawl adulting
06/03/14 7:38 am

Omg POF is an adventure! I should have kept a log of those crazies.

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MrWolfe Nashville
06/02/14 8:05 pm

haha... yeah, he was a funny dude

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BradenP bp80847
06/04/14 9:21 am

1) Keep religious faith.
2) Don't over compromise. In other words, don't give in every time to your husband/wife. Basically, this is for the guys.
3) Make sure to get out on a free night every once in a while. Kids can become a nightmare, go out.

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Rob Be Safe Be Smart
06/01/14 8:42 pm

Communication, understanding, physical love, not necessarily in that order..but I've never been married so at least that's what I think it would take.

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thursday Kansas
06/03/14 4:16 am

Because doctors make the best married people. ;)

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