What are the top three most important things to having a successful marriage?
1) Keep religious faith.
2) Don't over compromise. In other words, don't give in every time to your husband/wife. Basically, this is for the guys.
3) Make sure to get out on a free night every once in a while. Kids can become a nightmare, go out.
Trust Respect Generosity
3) Compatibility (habits, neuroses, sexual appetite, etc.)
3. Understanding that I am and will always be right
1. Mutual respect
2. Appreciation of humor
3. Recognizing partner isn't SUPPOSED to meet EVERY need; each needs *other* friends & activities separate from "pod"
Common values and culture.
Common deep commitment to making it work.
Respect communication and love
- A sense of humor is essential
- Patience - lots of it!
- Commitment to the relationship; don't give up, just because you are going through a rough time.
(Not necessarily in the above order ... All three are important.)
Devotion to only each other. Respect for each other in every way. Trust. (Great Q! My daughter was married this weekend and it was such a joyous event! She and her new husband had a 7 year courtship and will have a lifetime of joy and love together!)
My son got married last weekend.
1. A foundation based on each partner loving God more than they love each other, or themselves. 2. Loving each other more than themselves or their children. 3. Lots of sex, and the willingness to experiment in the bedroom to please their spouse.
If you get those three right, everything else can be worked out in a mutually satisfactory manner.
Bonus: laugh together
1. Don't be selfish (in all aspects)
2. Listen more than you talk
3. For each criticism/complaint you may have about your spouse, find 10 things you appreciate about him/her.
1. Respect their opinions
2. Don't harp
3. Find a hideout
Oh yeah, don't try to change anyone!
Accept the other person's quirks. Find things you enjoy doing together. Find things you enjoy doing apart.
My husband would agree to the vasectomy part!! Haha
A marriage is an unequal partnership. If each participant strives to contribute more than half to the relationship then the result is a successful marriage.
Communication, respect and equality.
I know ur intent is good but equality can lead to score keeping. Instead each party should attempt to contribute more than half. Then the marriage is more than the sum of two people.
I stand corrected. Good point!
Forgiveness, acceptance, patience.
1. A spouse - can't have one without it
2. & 3. Unknown
Trust, respect, and patients!
Because doctors make the best married people. ;)
Actually they are the worst,
Faith, understanding, and trust.
GOOD communication, the ability to compromise, forgiveness.
5. Sex, often :)
Desire, lust, and tolerance
Trust, commitment, and forgiveness.
1. A spouse
2. Ten billion dollars
3. Probably something dumb like "communication"
***not married and likely not going to be anytime soon, for various reasons.
Ask me again in 30 years.
Unconditional love, frequent forgiveness, a willingness to sacrifice for the good of the other. Everything else takes care of itself after that.
I see a ton saying communication. I kinda disagree. I would put empathy much higher. Being able to see an issue through another's eyes is mucho mucho. Next, I'd list patience. Last I'd list realistic expectations. I cannot tell you how many times I
Have asked M/F friends who were pissed to high holy hell at the SOs if they would expect the same - whatever that was - from a friend or family member, and if they would be as pissed with them. Almost always the answer is nope and nope.
Having said all of that, i think where most men fall down is they stop treating their SOs like women. They stop wooing them, stop making them feel special and gorgeous and the one thing they cannot get nearly enough of. If treating them that way
Wouldn't get you the girl, why the fuck would you expect it would get you to KEEP the girl?
I agree and should have put empathy first in my comment.
KAT - my folks raised me right! I'm a catch!
Shazzy yes you are!
I agree with empathy being key. And you nailed it with what men aren't doing right- you should teach a class lol.
Nah - You're the pro on that one!
Ok, it's after hours... so here goes:
My late dad used to say, 'son, there are two rules to keeping a woman happy. Keep money in her pocket, and keep her well-fucked.'
Good lord, Wolfe!
I would have liked your dad!!
haha... yeah, he was a funny dude
Trust, respect, sense of humor.
Im taking notes.
Forgiveness is huge. I do it daily.
Trust and Respect for your SO
I like the last one....you don't see that one thrown out there much, but it's true.
A loving, forgiving, servant heart.
Can someone just tell me what it takes for someone to ask you for coffee? Let's start there.
Lol, share the tips when you get some.
You know it Inge ;-)
Lol. Aw. You will it have it someday.
It's cause all the good guys are midwestern men!
Send some this way.
Couple of strong pretty women like yerselves prolly intimidate the nice ones and only the douchebags have the strength to ever talk to you. Try uglying yerselves up a little maybe.
Yes Shazzy do as Inge says⬆️⬆️⬆️
Rob lmao thanks! Nah not even douchebags lately for me to complain about!
Well at least there's that.
Hey, I met my husband online and our first date was Starbucks. That could always be an option but just watch out for the crazies.
@Shazam, You misspelled 'Southern.'
PINK - check your neck!
Brittney thanks I've tried that but I could try again I suppose .
What site(s) have you tried?
SOH worked for me :)
Rob that's so sweet!
Brit - literally all of them. Except the religious ones.
D- i used plenty of fish and filtered it like crazy. My older brother used it for booty calls. LOL. It's all about filters.
Omg POF is an adventure! I should have kept a log of those crazies.
LOL that's where I met Swervin at!!! Hahaha. I seriously had to block people and filter who could message me on that site. I had like 50yo men sending me messages.
You are lucky!! Even with filters people managed to get through or just ignored my preferences. I've even had couples ask me if I would play with them. Had to get out lol!!
Communication, respect, passion.
That would be my guess. I divorced so what do I know.
Honey, at least you know what you need! Never settle for less. Especially when you know yourself so well.
Common shared values, trust, sense of humor.
Talk things out, respect each other, and forgive a lot.
Also, have really good sex, a lot. A lot, a lot. Haha :D
Beyond everything else; Trust 100%
Always remember why you fell in love.
The wife is always right, the wife is always right, and the wife is always right.
You are so smart!
Thanks. Now if only I can find someone.
I'm with you dale!
One of these days.
Pssh. Sounds like a recipe to be whipped.
Communication, understanding, physical love, not necessarily in that order..but I've never been married so at least that's what I think it would take.
HEY! You came up for air! Drink some gatorade, we'll see you in a few days!
Just bopping my head out for a minute. It's a really busy week for me.