Unfortunately a friend of mine. Married same day as me, but he went in with rose-colored glasses. Divorced before their first anniversary after he found out she cheated on him while they were planning their wedding.
Sun.. My wife and I split up for almost 6 months after our first was born. We were a total mess. Actually hated each other. Based on one of your other polls, you may need to split and re focus for a while. Above all, keep your baby happy and safe!
Sunset, are you considering divorce? I thought you were married, but I read the question wrong & thought you were asking about marriage, not divorce. I know it has been rocky for you, even before the baby.
He got a job and starts August 3rd, and yes I've been seriously considering it. I was about ready to just leave but the SOH community talked me into going to counseling for at least a month first. He wit go so I'll go alone like everything else but
It could still help. In case you missed my other poll, I confessed to the SOH community that there is someone else. I've fallen for an anonymous user on SOH and I was about to meet him but again, they talked me out of it and said I need to exhaust my
Options before I make any huge decisions like that. So we didn't meet and I'll be going to counseling probably sometime in late August/early-mid September.
I agree that it is better to try to save a marriage. I tried everything, including"How to Save Your Marriage Alone."And prayer cards that you pray for him & your marriage everyday.Only God sustained me during that time. It was a lot of pain & growth.
I know that I did everything possible to try to save my marriage. He continued to lie, cheat, and verbally abuse me. He did not want to change his behavior.
SL, co-parenting can be very tough on a marriage. I speak from experience. My SO is my opposite in most ways, including our parenting approaches. The first year of our firstborn's life was tumultuous. At the time, I hadn't yet realized that much...
...of it was abusive or controlling on his part. My story is going to be different than yours, but the point is this: if your SO is doing things that you can't abide, you need to have a very serious discussion before you ever consider leaving. You..
...may not see the effects immediately because your baby is so little, but I think you owe him and yourself a very serious attempt at fixing your marriage. I'm saying this from a very humble place and I'm hoping you know that.
My first marriage lasted Bout a year and a half. Luckily we had no kids so it was relatively easy.
The thing I learned is that before you get a divorce, go back to the good times and remember what made them good.. then repeat. See if that helps.
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