Do you know someone who was married and divorced before 25?
SL, after the first child the relationship gets very hard. It usually gets better. Both the man and the woman go through hard times.
Just wanted you to know this before making any decision
Sun.. My wife and I split up for almost 6 months after our first was born. We were a total mess. Actually hated each other. Based on one of your other polls, you may need to split and re focus for a while. Above all, keep your baby happy and safe!
I have a friend who was married at 20. At the time everyone thought they shouldn't get married and didn't say anything. Now they are divorced.
Married twice, two kids (one from each), and two divorces before she was 25.
Me. He was physically and mentally abusive.
Well I'm only 20 and seriously considering it so...don't feel bad.
We all make mistakes at a young age. We just have to learn from them.
My son has a friend who was married and divorced three times before the age of 30.
Sunset, are you considering divorce? I thought you were married, but I read the question wrong & thought you were asking about marriage, not divorce. I know it has been rocky for you, even before the baby.
LM, I'm traveling. Thought I'd have a little fun and change my zip code as I went 😎
My first marriage lasted Bout a year and a half. Luckily we had no kids so it was relatively easy.
The thing I learned is that before you get a divorce, go back to the good times and remember what made them good.. then repeat. See if that helps.
Ah I see Lol.
Please give it a lot of thought Sunset. How is the job situation now?
At least a handful of people.
SL, co-parenting can be very tough on a marriage. I speak from experience. My SO is my opposite in most ways, including our parenting approaches. The first year of our firstborn's life was tumultuous. At the time, I hadn't yet realized that much...
Twss I thought you were in stl?
...may not see the effects immediately because your baby is so little, but I think you owe him and yourself a very serious attempt at fixing your marriage. I'm saying this from a very humble place and I'm hoping you know that.
That was supposed to go up a comment. Lol. Not sure what happened there
Sun...see section below. Posted on wrong spot somehow
Actually, no. All my friends are all-in or never-in.
I agree that it is better to try to save a marriage. I tried everything, including"How to Save Your Marriage Alone."And prayer cards that you pray for him & your marriage everyday.Only God sustained me during that time. It was a lot of pain & growth.
A few people so far.
I know that I did everything possible to try to save my marriage. He continued to lie, cheat, and verbally abuse me. He did not want to change his behavior.
Unfortunately a friend of mine. Married same day as me, but he went in with rose-colored glasses. Divorced before their first anniversary after he found out she cheated on him while they were planning their wedding.
...of it was abusive or controlling on his part. My story is going to be different than yours, but the point is this: if your SO is doing things that you can't abide, you need to have a very serious discussion before you ever consider leaving. You..
He got a job and starts August 3rd, and yes I've been seriously considering it. I was about ready to just leave but the SOH community talked me into going to counseling for at least a month first. He wit go so I'll go alone like everything else but
It could still help. In case you missed my other poll, I confessed to the SOH community that there is someone else. I've fallen for an anonymous user on SOH and I was about to meet him but again, they talked me out of it and said I need to exhaust my
Options before I make any huge decisions like that. So we didn't meet and I'll be going to counseling probably sometime in late August/early-mid September.