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JustBob July 16th, 2013 1:47pm

Your brother plans on changing his last name to his wife's when they get married. Do you think any less of your brother?

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iBakes California
07/16/13 8:20 am

Why is that ridiculous?

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JustBob Your anger fascinates me
07/16/13 6:55 am

Logically I don't think it would matter, but sitting with him at the bar, uncontrollably laughing at him, logic would take a back seat.

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kilokalex Sanity is for the weak
07/16/13 9:52 am

My wife has the balls and my last name.

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iBakes California
07/16/13 8:23 am

Ha. I love it when people say crazy crap like that. Then I give them the benefit of a doubt & assume they have dementia and think it's last century. ;)

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Octopus
07/16/13 7:09 am

People should do whatever they're comfortable with. Personally, when I'm getting married I'm just keeping my own name. I've heard of spouses trading last names, hyphenating, or even combining the two into a new word.

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iBakes California
07/16/13 11:00 am

So does that mean a man unwilling to change his name to his wife's isn't fully committing to marriage?

You aren't making ANY sense.

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Kay41 the Midwest
07/16/13 9:52 am

You would actually think less of him? Wow.

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HayleyS looking up.
07/16/13 8:20 am

Yes I do.

My brother is one of the very last people to carry on our last name.

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HayleyS looking up.
07/16/13 8:21 am

Well I don't like the way it is phrased.

I would be sad. But I wouldn't like him any less or anything.

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iBakes California
07/16/13 12:27 pm

Oh lord, please don't start with the "I'm blind & deserve special treatment on an app" thing again. I don't have the patience for that today. You're right, traditional doesn't equal misogynistic, you just happen to be both.

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MrLucchese If curious, ask.
07/16/13 6:51 am

It's different, but it's not unheard of. It's his choice, really. I would question who wears the pants in the house, though. Haha

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susanr Colorado
07/16/13 6:52 am

No. Why would I?

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TomLaney1 Jesus is Lord
07/16/13 11:29 am

iBakes, I didn't get up this morning with nothing better to do than tangle with you. I expressed an opinion, which is what we're here for. You're obviously of a younger generation that's less respectful of traditions - AND others' opinions.

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TomLaney1 Jesus is Lord
07/16/13 9:47 pm

iBakes, your m.o. in debating seems to be to quickly judge and label your opponent and then force him to defend himself - sort of the "rope-a-dope" strategy of Ali translated to argument. I've taken your punches in hopes that there's a human in there

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dramaschick All ways in my head
07/16/13 10:12 am

Bakes its your husband isn't it

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iBakes California
07/16/13 11:32 am

I'm trying to figure out where you're coming from. If you don't have the cognitive ability to explain your stance, just say so. Don't be all whiny and hypocritical, as usual.

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TomLaney1 Jesus is Lord
07/16/13 10:15 am

Kay - Only slightly less - of his poor judgment, not him as a person.

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TomLaney1 Jesus is Lord
07/16/13 9:53 pm

Well, I'm out of it - your game is only fun for the puny little insecure morons who play it, and you're not playing me any more.

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JustBob Your anger fascinates me
07/16/13 9:17 am

Put your foot down, tell him how it's going to be then. Lol

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fixitlater My Life
07/16/13 2:44 pm

I considered taking hers because I have no relationship with my family and a negative relationship with my father.

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TomLaney1 Jesus is Lord
07/16/13 6:00 pm

You're not going to get me to say men are more important than women. That's not the point I'm making here - the point is, I feel that way because...
IT'S TRADITION!
That's all!

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kilokalex Sanity is for the weak
07/16/13 9:51 am

Then he needs to grab his nuts and say no.

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JustBob Your anger fascinates me
07/16/13 9:21 am

Worded as my thoughts to gauge if I'm thinking right. I, personally wouldn't be sad or happy. But I'd torment him 'bout it, and yea, kinda look down, not saying it's right, but it is how I feel about it.

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MrMilkdud
07/16/13 7:30 am

Yes, because specifically in the case of my brothers it would indicate a drastic, sudden, and complete departure from the traditions and values they held their entire lives.
I'd lose respect for anyone who changed so much in a relationship.

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JustBob Your anger fascinates me
07/16/13 9:26 am

I'm not changing mine either. Bolsac is a proud name and Lisa will just have to get used to it :)

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TomLaney1 Jesus is Lord
07/16/13 9:37 pm

it altogether. Tradition is more important to me than to others, that's all.
Sorry, I often resort to theology to explain my views because God is central to me. I'm also longwinded because I'm a retired English and Speech teacher. Hope this little

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FemmeAdamWest in the Tardis library
07/16/13 8:32 am

Not at all. I wish I could get my husband to take my last name!

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Kay41 the Midwest
07/16/13 6:57 am

I wouldn't have a problem with it as long as he doesn't.

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FemmeAdamWest in the Tardis library
07/16/13 8:34 am

I think I could handle SOH better if I just pretended many of its users had dementia, thanks for the idea :)

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dramaschick All ways in my head
07/16/13 7:06 am

No. But I would make fun of him constantly for his wife obviously having the balls in the relationship.

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TomLaney1 Jesus is Lord
07/16/13 9:25 pm

obviously doesn't work for everybody. But I'm far from alone - many Folks like the way things were before the world went crazy in the sixties. Tradition is important - it was one of John Wesley's four pillars by which he tested anything -

iBakes California
07/16/13 10:10 am

I don't know who that question was directed to but I do, yes.

iBakes California
07/16/13 10:53 am

People were surprised at first but it isn't a big deal. It's his name, it's not like it's tattooed on his face or something.

iBakes California
07/16/13 8:00 am

Why does changing his last name equal not having any balls?

TomLaney1 Jesus is Lord
07/16/13 12:12 pm

No being whiny or hypocritical. I'm a conservative bu nature - not just politically and theologically - so much so that I'm accused of being OCD. I like routines and traditions and dislike change, especially degenerative change in the language and

iBakes California
07/16/13 6:36 pm

It's a longer running tradition though, and by your own words you abide to tradition. I guess at least you admit there's a major double standard within your belief.

TomLaney1 Jesus is Lord
07/16/13 10:55 am

rlands - same answer I just gave kay - it's as disrespectful, for lack of a better word, as asking him to sign a pre-nup. It's an unwillingness to fully commit to marriage and its accompanying traditions. IMHO.

theawesomer Nowhereland
07/16/13 8:03 am

Depends on how awesome or otherwise socially recognized the name is

theawesomer Nowhereland
07/16/13 8:04 am

I would totally change my name to Mr. Bond or Mr. Gates

TomLaney1 Jesus is Lord
07/16/13 8:04 am

Yes - that's ridiculous, just like hyphenation.

Unless his last name is Hitler, of course.

Kris Humidity Central
07/16/13 10:15 am

No, he has to keep it. It's a warning he's one of them. Every police office in southeast Michigan knows our last name. And my bro is proving to be carrying on the tradition of being a worthless piece of....

TomLaney1 Jesus is Lord
07/16/13 9:51 pm

but you're really just a judgmental jackass, and your judgments are far from the last word on any topic. I'll match actual intellects with you any day, but that's not what you want - you want to make others look bad to make yourself feel bigger.

iBakes California
07/16/13 10:17 am

How is him taking his wife's last name poor judgment?

Kay41 the Midwest
07/16/13 10:17 am

That is what I was about to ask.

JustBob Your anger fascinates me
07/16/13 9:15 am

Do you personally know any man that did change his name to his wife's?

dramaschick All ways in my head
07/16/13 8:11 am

I'm just being silly. You know the whole if the women doesn't take your name then she doesn't respect you as a man crap

TomLaney1 Jesus is Lord
07/16/13 12:18 pm

in society. The traditions of marriage are important to me and it seems disrespectful to me that women started rejecting their husbands' names with the rise of "feminism." The same goes for awkward hyphenated surnames. I like the starus quo ante.