My grandparents, while fairly young and very healthy, decided to move into a retirement home so their kids would never have to decide for them. My parents insist on living independently. Are/Were you prepared to decide when your parents are ready?
My siblings and I always joke that we'll just put my dad in a home and my mom can do whatever she wants. My dad's turning into quite the crotchety old man.
decision. I have power of attorney, but I would discuss it with him.
My paternal grandmother cared for my grandfather at home & we cared for her. My maternal grandmother fell & broke her hip. She had a bad reaction to the anesthesia. She ended
My Mom moved into an assisted living facility last May. It was her decision but my brother & I would have made it had she not. She'd fallen and broken her pelvis and spent over a month in the hospital. There was no way she could live alone any more.
It is a fine line. My mom passed at 60, so it was a non-issue. I live with & care for Dad, now. We can't afford outside help, but I doubt he would tolerate it if he could. If it ever gets to a point that I can't care for him, then I will make the
If they cannot take care of themselves or we can't, we will move them into an assisted living. My in laws are having to think about that with my mother in law's mom :-(
Partly depends on the individual parent in question. Some would rather "not be a bother." Some are fiercely independent. Some have serious health issues family would overwhelm. Have to take each situation on own merits & issues.
My parents made their own decisions. My mother would never listen to us kids. On the other hand, my mother-in-law lived with us for 25 years because she had macular degeneration. She couldn't live by herself.
In our case, we've been very honest & clear about what we'd want/wouldn't & how we feel about various options available under various possible circumstances they might face. Also have made preliminary arrangements as we are able.
in a rehab facility & eventually a long-term care facility. (It was less than a year total.) My maternal grandfather is still living alone. I may have to eventually make that decision with him, but I pray that he just goes quickly. He's 91.
We had no plans in place and it was a difficult decision for us. We took of my mother for 8 years till we couldn't anymore but she was well cared for and the place was lovely.
I almost put that int comment but them I thought "she probably wouldn't want that either... Would just take care of her, in her home, that's what she wants, that what she gets.
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