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usernamehere June 2nd, 2014 1:45am

Inspired by Torfin and Kermie: If a woman keeps her maiden name after marriage, is this a rejection of her husband?

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inge MIA
06/01/14 6:49 pm

No. A woman is not property. She can keep her maiden name, her family name, without it reflecting her feelings for her husband. I think someone who feels that way has a very shallow view of love.

KAnne Atlantic City, NJ
06/01/14 7:47 pm

Is it a rejection if a man keeps his?

usernamehere Raise a little hell
06/01/14 6:46 pm

I headdesked so hard when I saw that comment. My mother kept her maiden name and she's been happily married to my father for twenty-four years. I've never seen two people love each other as much as they do. Honestly, they're adorable.

usernamehere Raise a little hell
06/01/14 6:55 pm


veritas1 Panda
06/01/14 7:00 pm

Inge with the logic bomb

06/03/14 6:00 am

That's the couple's decision. And hopefully, they arrive at it mutually.

curtron basement of the Alamo
06/03/14 9:07 am

I would be kinda offended. She'll take your genitals and half your stuff, but not your name? Ouch.

kermie gaytopia
06/01/14 7:46 pm

Yeah that guy was... Interesting.

susanr Colorado
06/02/14 9:55 pm

What? Hell no.

RINOTom Peoria, IL
06/02/14 11:39 am

No, but I hope my wife takes my name. I like my last name. :P

Rosebud Ohio
06/03/14 6:44 pm

No. I took his, despite loving my maiden, because he made a good case for us picking his name over mine. We wanted the same last name, so we'd both have the same and the same as our children. Which I certainly prefer.

Injectable Trump Killed Babbitt
06/03/14 9:57 pm

No. Its just a name. Names don't define people... Unless its Champaign or Lexus.

sentiment Texas
06/03/14 9:34 pm

My wife uses her maiden name ... she asked me once we got married but I think I can never do that for anyone (change my name/identity); I would never ask her to do that for me. Besides her last name rhymes with a lot of words I can tease her all day.

ladyniner81 extremists are a cancer
06/03/14 11:38 am

My oldest sister kept her maiden name, but she regrets it because she's tired of the people thinking they're living together. She's been with him for 20+ years and I'd think people would figure that out by now

madeit Houston Area
06/01/14 9:45 pm

Not necessary, though a name is a unifying factor, there can be legitimate reason for not sharing the same name.

SmileyMoM Lab Rat Vampire
06/03/14 2:48 pm

I wish I would have. But back in the 70s I didn't know any better.
I am proud to say that I never have nor will I ever refer to myself as Mrs. Husbands name.

kjs Minnesota
06/03/14 4:38 pm

My husband insisted I keep mine. I use it interchangeably with my married name. My husband knows how much I love my maiden name.

itsOkay no longer answering here
06/03/14 6:13 pm

A rejection of his name and a decision that the family won't have a single, unifying identity.