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shellybaxter1234 Peaceful Place
10/24/13 10:09 pm

Actually - I just looked it up and that is the one thing I've never been afraid of

fourwinds box of rain
10/25/13 12:21 am

You're a rare breed, consider yourself fortunate!

fourwinds box of rain
10/25/13 12:22 am

How did you get over it? Have you done lots of public speaking?

citethesource Socialist and Atheist
10/25/13 3:18 pm

I was painfully shy for all of my childhood and teen years and into adulthood. First I had to face my crippling social phobia. I faced my fear that people wouldn't like me by assuming everyone around me didn't like me. I know it sounds terrible...

citethesource Socialist and Atheist
10/25/13 3:19 pm

... but that change in perception allowed me to start taking very small social risks. If they already hated me, then saying something stupid cost me nothing. I also started working in summer camps where I didn't know anyone. This allowed me to...

citethesource Socialist and Atheist
10/25/13 3:21 pm

...begin to build a different personality. Now, my first foray into this exercise I was not an outgoing person. I was simply a shy person instead of a socially crippled individual. Working in camps allowed me to build my confidence.

citethesource Socialist and Atheist
10/25/13 3:23 pm

By the time I was 25, I was just the quiet friend. By 30 I was the very dominant, but introverted, center of social gravity. I know what it's like to be on the outside and to have social issues, so I make sure I always make a safe, comfortable...

citethesource Socialist and Atheist
10/25/13 3:24 pm

...place for those who are at the time unable to be assertive as they might want. I can now give extemporaneous speeches to large crowds. The thought of speaking to thousands doesn't bother me. Now, I still FEEL the fear and the adrenaline and...

citethesource Socialist and Atheist
10/25/13 3:26 pm

...the sick, icy feeling in my stomach. I don't think the feelings will ever go away. But, I can cope and control them. Those feelings are no longer a match for the confidence I have in my abilities as a speaker.