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Ariella October 22nd, 2013 12:08am

Your good friend just found out his girlfriend is pregnant. He tells you he plans on dumping his girlfriend and leaving town. It just so happens, you know his girlfriend, but not that well. Do you tell the girlfriend her boyfriends plan or no?

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fixitlater My Life
10/22/13 4:02 pm

I would never turn on a real friend. Loyalty. Try it.

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Scrazzle Winter is Coming
10/22/13 11:11 pm

Sounds like that friend hasn't a clue what loyalty is.

fixitlater My Life
10/23/13 11:43 am

True if you know the whole story.

holidaex
10/22/13 3:50 pm

Not my business.

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Reneezii Exodus 20. 8 to 11
10/22/13 7:44 am

I would try to talk him out of doing that and give him the biggest guilt trip in history. But I would probably tell her.

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fixitlater My Life
10/22/13 3:56 pm

What if you had an abusive man and were planning an escape? Would you want someone to tell him?

opie99 left coast best coast
10/22/13 1:02 am

How long has he known she's in the family way? If he just found out, he might just be having a knee jerk reaction. Or their relationship isn't going to work out and babies don't change that. I would encourage my friend to be there for his child

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opie99 left coast best coast
10/22/13 1:04 am

Whatever that may look like. The couples I know that got serious when they got knocked up ignored HUGE red flags because of their situation. Neither couple is happy today.

fixitlater My Life
10/22/13 3:58 pm

Isn't it great to have this level of life experience? I wish they could have taught this in high school. If they would have I would not have listened anyway. lol

doctalk not all who wander r lost
10/21/13 9:26 pm

I would give the guy some firm frank advice about responsibility and encourage him to work it out w her.

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BandNerd Moderately Absolute
10/21/13 7:36 pm

If he says that, I highly doubt that we will stay friends... Man up and face your own consequences!

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Zod Above Pugetropolis
10/21/13 7:09 pm

I'd tell him when he told me to call her and tell her now - because whether he does or not, I calling her in about fifteen minutes to tell her.

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bMyComrade Stumptown
10/21/13 6:27 pm

I'd tell her and I'd tell him I was telling her. And I'd probably not be able to stay his good friend anymore. That's low, I'd expect much better from someone who I'd call friend.

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fixitlater My Life
10/22/13 3:59 pm

But what if she was abusive or addicted to drugs and he was trying to escape.

bMyComrade Stumptown
10/22/13 5:02 pm

You don't just disappear on the kid you helped create. And that is different than the information in the prompt.

fixitlater My Life
10/22/13 5:55 pm

My point was there is always more to the story and he could be making the better choice. Well, that and I would never sell out my friends.

bMyComrade Stumptown
10/22/13 8:58 pm

If he's a friend I would be aware of that. I wouldn't consider it 'selling out' if he was bailing on a situation because if a man will bail simply over a pregnancy, he's no friend on mine.

bMyComrade Stumptown
10/22/13 8:58 pm

But this story hit close to home, one of my besties just got dumped because she got pregnant. He told her never to talk to him again.

fixitlater My Life
10/21/13 6:18 pm

I would mind my business because the friend may poke his nose in mine if I interfere. She could be a complete wack job or abusive and HD needs to escape and is too embarrassed to tell you. I have know abused guys before. It sucks.

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Reneezii Exodus 20. 8 to 11
10/22/13 7:46 am

That's no reason to not be there for your child though. That's when you fight for custody.

fixitlater My Life
10/22/13 3:53 pm

You are right. Maybe he could get full custody

LilL44 Stuck In Suburbia
10/21/13 5:58 pm

I wouldn't tell her, but him and I would have to have a long talk and I'd really try to help them out.

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Redacted
10/21/13 5:57 pm

Would she believe you? Or think you were trying to break them up?
I'd want to know so I'd tell her.

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mikeey1962 on SOH where else
10/21/13 5:48 pm

It's not me or a situation I could get into,, but if it was you wouldn't you want someone to tell you he's leaving,

FemmeAdamWest in the Tardis library
10/21/13 5:49 pm

I would, and I would be hurt and disappointed if someone who knew me and the situation decided to remain quiet about it.

pipes
10/21/13 5:46 pm

Hi ariella, nice to see your face on SOH again.

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Ariella LovePeaceNHappiness
10/21/13 5:52 pm

Hi Pipes! Nice to see you too, sweetheart. :)
Hope all is well!

pipes
10/21/13 5:59 pm

Thank you! I'm doing great. And I hope you are as well. You're just such an infrequent user, it's nice to see your smiling face once and a while. :)

Ariella LovePeaceNHappiness
10/21/13 6:03 pm

You're too sweet, love! I know I'm not around that much, I get extremely busy.
I'm going to try to be on here more often. I miss you guys! ❤️❤️

pipes
10/21/13 6:10 pm

Aw thanks, that's nice of you. You're very nice yourself. That stinks that your busy, but it's great that'll you'll be on here more! We've missed you too! Great poll by the way. Your polls are always great.

Ariella LovePeaceNHappiness
10/21/13 6:13 pm

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Aw, you're so wonderful! I haven't smiled this hard in a while. Thank you so much. I needed that.

pipes
10/21/13 6:28 pm

Awwwwww. I'm so happy I made you smile. Now you're making me smile. Thank you very much! Quick question, what's the emoji next to the heart? It won't load, lol. Only the heart is visable.

Ariella LovePeaceNHappiness
10/21/13 6:31 pm

I may have posted too many hearts and it's showing as ??? instead of hearts. Lol. That's just how happy you made me! ^.^
I get a little "heart happy" from time to time!!

pipes
10/21/13 6:41 pm

Aw. That's some extreme happiness right there! Lol. I can tell you're heart happy tonight. Haha. Nothing wrong with that. The more hearts the better! ❤

Ariella LovePeaceNHappiness
10/21/13 5:46 pm

A friend of mine is in this situation right now. I honestly don't know what I would do. It's a tough situation to be in, that's for sure. :-/

Wert A picture of my junk
10/21/13 5:52 pm

Ask yourself, would you want to be told in the same situation?

Wert A picture of my junk
10/21/13 5:53 pm

Also, she'll find out eventually. Sooner is better.

Ariella LovePeaceNHappiness
10/21/13 5:58 pm

Good points to make, Mr. W. I know I would want to know.

FemmeAdamWest in the Tardis library
10/21/13 5:44 pm

I would probably tell her right after I tell him how stupid and immature he's acting.

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FemmeAdamWest in the Tardis library
10/21/13 5:47 pm

As I said below, at least if you tell her she can get prepared to go through this alone instead of expecting him to go through it with her when he's planning not too.

FemmeAdamWest in the Tardis library
10/21/13 5:48 pm

And as for the "it's not my business/place" well screw that because he made it your business when he told you.

jrrob CT
10/21/13 5:41 pm

What a punk.

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Minyanko Tumblr
10/21/13 5:40 pm

I wouldn't tell her, but Id jump his butt for trying to be a deadbeat

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TopsQueen Oregon Coast
10/21/13 5:40 pm

I changed my vote to tell. One cannot force him to be a Dad. But you can force him to pay. Being a high school teacher my husband has had several boys come to him in similar situations.

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icytoes the tepid north
10/21/13 5:36 pm

I would tell him that I strongly disagreed with his choices. I wouldn't go invade some strangers life and tell her.

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mikeey1962 on SOH where else
10/21/13 5:44 pm

It says you know her, so it's not a stranger...

icytoes the tepid north
10/21/13 5:53 pm

You're right. I'd still wait unless we were REALLY close. That is a highly emotional decision on his part and he could change his mind in a heartbeat. I'm not going to punish him for something he hasn't done yet.

DunkinFrunk Austin area, Texas
10/21/13 5:22 pm

I'll tell her right after I whip his ass for trying to be deadbeat father.

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mikeey1962 on SOH where else
10/21/13 5:43 pm

I am in total shock, we actually agreed on something..

Wert A picture of my junk
10/21/13 5:20 pm

Absolutely tell her. No question.

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icytoes the tepid north
10/21/13 5:37 pm

What good is that going to do?

mikeey1962 on SOH where else
10/21/13 5:43 pm

Not sure but I think she needs to know..

FemmeAdamWest in the Tardis library
10/21/13 5:45 pm

So that she can prepare herself for going through it alone instead of sitting there thinking she is going to be going through it with him.

icytoes the tepid north
10/21/13 5:51 pm

She's going to find out in like 2 days anyhow. What if he changes his mind?

mikeey1962 on SOH where else
10/21/13 5:53 pm

Yea but she can confront him now and maybe change his mind, instead of having to look for him...

DavesNotHere where am I
10/21/13 5:19 pm

I'd feel compelled to tell her. Once he tells me he's going to leave town, I lose all respect for him. Be a man a face your responsibilities.

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theavgguy I.E.
10/21/13 5:14 pm

It is not your call, however I would keep tabs on his location, for use if needed later. I would also question my taste in friends.

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true Home
10/21/13 5:11 pm

I tell her. If i was in that situation i would want to know.

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jrvrn Philly suburb
10/21/13 5:11 pm

I would stay quiet, but he wouldn't be my friend anymore. That is a scumbag move. I would offer to help her hunt him down after the fact if wanted me to.

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icytoes the tepid north
10/21/13 5:38 pm

I agree. You said it better than I did.

CarrieMarie Mad Science Crew
10/21/13 5:11 pm

That is a TOUGH one! I think I would do all I could to convince my friend to "do the right thing". But I would stay out of the middle. If he hasn't told me, I
Wouldn't have know to warm her, so
I'll just leave whatever happens to them. Ugh.

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CarrieMarie Mad Science Crew
10/21/13 5:12 pm

If he hadn't told me, I wouldn't have known to warn her*

MrLucchese If curious, ask.
10/21/13 5:11 pm

I wouldn't want to be friends with an individual like that. I would be more than willing to sacrifice the friendship and tell her.

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Rob Be Safe Be Smart
10/21/13 5:09 pm

I guess it depends how good a friend the good friend is.

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