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susanr October 19th, 2013 8:55pm

I'm at the local Senior Center for an event. I've never been here before & know no one. I feel a little intimidated. Do you often go somewhere out of your social comfort zone?

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shellybaxter1234 Peaceful Place
10/19/13 8:28 pm

I do now that I've conquered my social anxiety

DavesNotHere where am I
10/19/13 6:05 pm

Something tells me you'll fine. I'm not very good at social functions that I'm not familiar with. The hard part is getting there, once I'm in I'm fine.

Emma Austin.ish.
10/19/13 4:46 pm

lately, I have been. and it's getting a little easier each time. :)

susanr Colorado
10/19/13 5:56 pm

I used to do it more, but haven't for a long while. I literally have no friends in town, so it's probably a good idea.

kermie gaytopia
10/19/13 10:13 pm

Good for you both! I don't do it very often.

leilu SoCal
10/19/13 4:31 pm

I used to and I like to. My husband won't do it. So, more recently I've become quite boring and staying home with the hubby!

Diogenes FreeMeBe
10/19/13 3:53 pm

Not intentionally. I do find it odd that you would feel intimidated unless there were some deep seated fear you happened to be suppressing.

susanr Colorado
10/19/13 5:57 pm

I've always been pretty shy. Sometimes I do just fine - like traveling by myself, eating in restaurants alone, moving to a new town where I know no one, taking classes at universities where I know no one - and making tons of friends. Other times,

susanr Colorado
10/19/13 5:59 pm

on a small scale, I can't pick up the phone & call someone; on a larger scale, I find it hard to go to a party or a public event if I'm alone. It's really more the purely social stuff that's hard for me. With a place like a school, I guess I know

susanr Colorado
10/19/13 6:00 pm

my role & can manage to fit in pretty well.

Diogenes FreeMeBe
10/19/13 7:33 pm

From our interactions on SOH, I believe you can fit well into any situation if you must.

MrLucchese If curious, ask.
10/19/13 3:52 pm

I do. :)
I love going new places, meeting new people and getting to know them!

10/19/13 3:32 pm

Rarely, if I don't know at least one person, I avoid.

MrWolfe Nashville
10/19/13 3:28 pm

*HATE* social gatherings where I don't know a majority of the people. Heck, I don't ever care for events where I know most of 'em. Definitely not a social butterfly

susanr Colorado
10/19/13 6:03 pm

Social events are the very worst for me. I'm the person at a party who's over in the corner looking through the host's bookshelves. I did OK today & actually talked to a few people. Almost bumped into the mayor. Now I need to talk myself into

susanr Colorado
10/19/13 6:05 pm

going back on a regular day, getting a membership & signing up for an exercise class or two. That was my ulterior motive for going today, when they were doing tours.

2katz I live in Nebraska
10/19/13 2:44 pm

I'm such a devoted people-watcher that I'm really more comfortable feeling disconnected or kind of invisible in new situations. I don't enjoy making small talk a lot so I like to keep moving around if possible.

10/19/13 2:41 pm

Not often but sometimes and when I do it usually turns out to be fun. Good luck to you.

PartyJustin R.O.C.K. in the R.O.C.
10/19/13 2:38 pm

Oh, I try... I had a resolution a few years back to 'say yes more' to force myself out of my comfort zone more often. I had decent results, but I need to make it an all-the-time thing.

susanr Colorado
10/19/13 6:06 pm

I've been working on that too. It's related to some exercises my weight-loss doc has suggested. All helpful stuff.

spring27 California
10/19/13 2:33 pm

New experiences, and new people are fun!

10/19/13 2:24 pm

Fart. There's no better way to break the ice at a nursing home.

RJ1969 SoCal
10/19/13 2:36 pm

I'm going to try this at my next visit.

susanr Colorado
10/19/13 3:05 pm

It's not a nursing home, but thanks for the tip. They're ground breaking for an addition. They need more exercise & activity rooms, partly to get exercise machines & weights out of the corners of the tracks, & massage out of the lobby.

RJ1969 SoCal
10/19/13 2:20 pm

Just tell everyone there that you're their younger sister. I bet you get about 1/2 to believe you.

spicysteve M14D SBS
10/19/13 2:13 pm

How weird! I volunteered at a nursing home for the first time today. Good luck!

HayleyS looking up.
10/19/13 2:08 pm

It's difficult going to events where the people there already have made connections and you're the new kid. It's usually worth that nervousness/uncomfortableness though

Kay41 the Midwest
10/19/13 2:08 pm

I know how you feel. I have a hard time putting myself where I don't know anyone. Take a deep breath, find a few people who look your speed, and go introduce yourself. :)

Kris Humidity Central
10/19/13 2:01 pm

There's no where here that's out if my comfort zone that I can go.
Unless you count when our air went out so I went an sat in a church down the road...

susanr Colorado
10/19/13 6:09 pm

See, I like to latch onto someone like you when I can't get up the nerve to go somewhere new alone. I had a friend in Cincinnati who was like that. Actually, a couple.

RJ1969 SoCal
10/19/13 2:00 pm

Yes, I go to the senior center.

MisterE Conservistan
10/19/13 1:58 pm

I need to work on spending more time out of my comfort zone.