Women: does it bother you if your date doesn't hold the door open for you?
They should its just a kind thing to do and it shows they have class and care.
Not really. I mean, I'd appreciate the chivalry, but it's not a big deal. Just as long as they don't let the door close in my face or something lol. That'd be a tad impudent. ^_^
It's appreciated if they do, but I wouldn't be upset if they didn't. It's not too much trouble to open a door myself.
No.. But it's much appreciated if they do..
I don't think he has to stand there and wait for me to go through the door but making sure it doesn't slam in my face would be nice
This reminds me of something I read in The Bro Code (from How I Met Your Mother): "If women insist on having their own professional basketball league, then they can open their own doors. Honestly they’re not that heavy."
If I'm in front of someone, I'll hold the door for them, regardless of gender or their relationship with me. So if my date were right in front of me and let the door go in my face, then yes. It would bother me. That's rude.
No, just a grown woman who can take care of myself. Ladies,I know it's a big scary world out there but put your big girl panties on and deal with it :-)
It's doesn't bother me, but he should be holding it.
All I'nm going to say is that my boyfriend does open the door for me,
But I wouldn't mind if he didn't
Why did men answer this question? :0
what is annoying about a nice gesture, and since when is courtesy a sign that one is infirm or incapable and needs taken care of?!
I think it's a nice gesture but it'd sure annoy me! No thanks.
Mabel... I like you.
No thank you! It's a kind gesture but I don't like to be taken care of.
I find it extremely rude for any man to let a door close on a woman coming in right behind him, date or no date.
@ Mabel, it is not a condescending waste of time, it is a nice gesture! you sound like a cranky feminist with a big chip on her shoulder. Lighten up.
For me items the difference between him getting a second date or not. Now that we are married when we are on a date he opens doors for me but our running errands not so much. We are teaching our boys to hold doors for ladies though. It's a courtesy that I hope never disappears.
Also bothersome when a guy will run ahead just to make sure I don't have to open the door, or takes the door and makes me go through first. Less bothersome now that I'm older and have learned to let it go because I know this behavior will disappear in the next generation or so.
It bothers me if the person right in front of me lets the door close on me. Gender or circumstances don't matter unless they were physically unable to hold the door open or were unaware of my presence. On the other hand, you're rude if you expect me to run for an open door when you're way ahead.
And I guess I should fess up that I have two aliases. Mommabear on my phone and jms on the iPad.
Just wondering...are there any men commenting? It doesn't seem like it, so are they blocked from posting since the question was directed to us women?
Men can't see these comments.
Yes, I am. And I'm a lady. In my world, a man shows courtesy & respect by opening doors for other people, giving up a seat on public transportation to elderly & women & things like that. If more men acted courteously, our lives would be much more civil, polite, etc.
What are you, a cretin?
Not just a date, if anybody doesn't hold the door open for me when I'm right behind them it annoys me. It's just simple manners
Because courtesy dictates that men hold doors for women. It is a sign of a man with manners and respect. Don't be offended--smile, say 'thank you,' and enjoy being treated like a lady.
It's not a nice gesture, it's condescending and a waste of time. Am I supposed to whisper my choice to my husband so he can then tell the waiter? Or better yet, am I supposed to just eat whatever he wants me to eat regardless of my own preferences? Get real.
He doesn't have to open it, wait for me to go through, then go through himself, but if he's walking ahead of me he better not let it slam in my face. No one should, cause that's just a dick move
oh, and a question for guys. why is it some will not go through a door when a woman will hold it open for them? but they will hold it open for her?
if you hold the door open for anyone, they should say "thank you" otherwise it is rude., It pisses me off that people just walk through and don't say thank you..especially if they have kids with them. I'm like, nice parenting, you rude idiot.
seriously? what are you, some princess?
If my 10 year old brother will hold the door for me I sure hope my boyfriend will.
I most definitely would say thank you and compliment him on excellent parenting
Anyone going through a door immediately ahead of anyone else should hold the door. It's about courtesy, not political correctness or gender expectations.
Thanks Rogue, I will most definitely pass it along =)
That's bothersome period, but I hope your child doesn't become jaded.
Tell him/her I said Thank You!
The only way it would bother me if a man ordered for me, was if he ate the meal for me as well.
I had never thought of that...thanks for the perspective!
Nah, but it bothers me when my 11 year old, who is kind to a fault, holds the door for a steady stream of strangers and no one says "thank you."
I hold the door for others as a matter of courtesy, but if a man and woman reach the door at the same time, a decent man always gets the door for the woman.
Get/hold the door and take the lead getting through crowds. It drives me NUTS that my husband still doesn't get these two concepts. (Especially as I have severe anxiety attacks in crowds.) The door thing bugs me because before we were married he used to get doors.
It's nice but I don't expect it and as long as he doesn't walk ahead then let the door slam in my face, I don't care either way.
I walk faster than my husband so I usually hold the door for him then when he gets to the door he grabs it so I can finish walking in He walks closer to the street, sleeps on the side of the bed closest to the door, opens my car door, pulls out my chair at restaurants So the door thing isnt an issue
I was thinking something of the sort. Just some big group doing it. It's been bugging me.
CHIVALRY, come on!! It's SUCH a simple gesture.
Tjm, I think it's time we Pennsylvanians move down south!
Yes, of course! That would be our last date!
No it doesn't bother me. It actually annoys me when he runs ahead to open the doors. If he's already head, it's nice I guess but it don't care either way.
I'm not offended if he doesn't, but I'm appreciative if he does.