Traditional gender roles in dating situations?
I don't think it's either beneficial or harmful. Whatever an individual couple wants to do, I am fine with.
I don’t know why women have a problem with the traditional gender roles. If I was a woman, I would love to have things paid for, be able to stay at home, watch the kids, make dinner, clean the house. My dream job is to be a stay at home dad, once I retire from the Navy.
What does this even mean?
I always practiced the traditional role, but I also see the benefit of being flexible.
It’s worked for Centuries so I see no reason to think it isn’t beneficial.
I want a man who opens doors for me and pulls out the chair. And he must always pay for me.
I don’t think they exist. I’m glad I’m not dating. Everything seems....difficult now.
Just as long as you are willing to stay home, cook, clean and take care of the children as a traditional wife would do. I have no problem with treating a woman that way in a traditional dating relationship.
Been doing it for many years. Baby girl is 25 now and I was home for most of it.
Ummm....cc? Did you not read my post right below this one?
I can’t see it Voc?
NM. 🤣it’s late. What time you picking me up 😂
You’re Deist too? This is so confusing. 🙃
We’re alllllllllll deist!
As a straight guy, if I were to take out a woman, I’d open doors, pay for everything, etc, unless she put up a huge stink and wanted to pay for herself or better yet me.
Traditional gender roles in ALL situations.
I dunno, I hesitate to blanket all of them in one choice. Give me a gender role and I’ll tell you if I think it’s useful
I’m with you.
So who’s buying the next round?
Ummm...you are. I’m tired of the “I’m the guy you’re the girl” gender stereotypes.
Besides, I forgot my wallet
Not beneficial. In a perfect world there would be no financial responsibilities by gender on dates, and everything would just be split under ‘normal’ circumstances. But I recognize that’s mostly a fantasy, because even people who are otherwise liberal on this stuff still bring gender role concepts into dates and judge people accordingly, consciously or subconsciously
I think a couple can progress past that, but it takes time. Probably not something that’s just going to happen on a first date without implications, subtext, and conjecture
For example, when my wife and I go out, most of the time we use a joint account. Sometimes I treat her. Sometimes she treats me. Theres not necessarily a pattern to it, but it’s definitely not tied to gender in any way, which I find refreshing, relative to relationships I’ve had in the past
My wife and I only have a joint account. I do use my debit card though. Does that count?
My husband just whips out the old Chase.we have joint accounts but I haven’t contributed anything since I had to leave my job and do this stay at home gig full time.
Talk about a gender role fulfilled. Believe it or not...and some will call me a lib feminist, but I prefer making my own money and :gasp: contributing. I provided for myself from 18 on and that was a hard red pill to swallow.
We have a joint account we contribute to for specific expenses (mortgage, eating together, etc), then we both have personal accounts for everything else.
So whenever she buys shoes or I buy a video game, it’s from our own money. People seem horrified when we tell them we do this but it works perfectly for us
When we got married we started the joint but I kept my own checking and I can withdraw from both and write checks for both but we can’t touch each other’s separate checking. Probably because I have zed dollars in it. That zero for you canucks.
What ever works for you. She makes more than me, but I work more hours (she’s an icu nurse and I sit on my fat ass behind s computer all day, she works a hell of a lot harder than I do) and also do a lot of the housework and pay the bills with our joint account. If I want something, I buy it. If she wants something, she buys it. It all comes out of the same pool. It works for us.
When do you have time to oil your face mane?
I have about 5 minutes at 3:47 am.
Plenty of time.
Beneficial for me. I enjoy being the man in a relationship.
You’re still hard from this morning! 😳
Im down with the female paying for the date and initializing sex.
Spoken like a true soyboy
He’s a girl! Call him by her preferred gender!
I’ll take that as a compliment. Gee thanks
I don’t play in fantasyland with the mentally insane.
Then I suggest you stop hanging out with republicans.
Yeah because it’s the Republicans that are insane 🤔😂🤣
The number of restaurant stars is indicative of the number of bases you’ll reach on the date? 😝
Do you mean Michelin? I’m in baby 🤗
Why yes...yes, indeed! 🥴
Have you been to a Michelin rated one? I think I’ve only been to Peter Luger. It tasted better when my fil paid for it😄
Deist? Word is that you and @Earlybird are a thing 😔