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Show Of Hands February 11th, 2019 2:55am

Are you actively carrying a grudge against anyone?

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02/13/19 11:48 am

Everyone who voted for Hillary Clinton.

ParaguasPato Columbus GA
02/12/19 5:06 pm

Not sure. I strongly dislike Trump but it’s not because I refuse to forgive him for something he did a long time ago, it’s because he’s constantly doing new bad things. If he just stopped one day and became reasonable I’d forgive him in a heartbeat.

theNobamist Silicon Valley
02/11/19 6:31 pm

My sweetie's ex husband.
He says he has no money for his daughter's college, but has $35,000 for legal fees to reduce child support.
Thea-wipe got it reduced $100 a month. Considering taxes, he'll "break even" in 45 years. But she turns 18 in three. Dumb-ass. And he's working on a self-driving car for a high-tech Silicon Valley company whose logo is a fruit.
Now you know why I have no faith in the programming and thus safety of autonomous cars.

theNobamist Silicon Valley
02/11/19 6:26 pm

I'm sure he cares

jmw7477 Indiana
02/11/19 5:46 pm

No. If I’m to the grudge point, I’ve already kicked you out of my life, forgotten you, and moved on.

susanr Colorado
02/11/19 5:01 pm

No. That’s a complete waste of time and energy, and sucks joy out of one’s life.

I held a grudge once for 15 years - against someone who had been my best friend. (It was over something he said to their children when he and his wife divorced; didn’t have anything to do with me directly.)

When I got over that - when I saw him again for the first time in 14 years - I realized how utterly stupid that had been. It hurt only me.


jonsnow1910 Missouri
02/11/19 4:48 pm

Less "grudge" and more tired of grown men acting like children.

theNobamist Silicon Valley
02/11/19 6:27 pm

The Super Bowl wasn't THAT exciting 😜

raidadave Washington
02/12/19 9:18 am

You have no idea. Try having guys as old as your parents work for you. You'll see how childish and petty they really are. My kids act better.

ItsAMeABree probably at a piano
02/11/19 3:47 pm

Lol no, that takes way too much energy

02/11/19 3:18 pm

I'm Irish so of course I am.

timeout Boston Strong
02/11/19 2:38 pm

Nah I’m too old to hold grudges, of the things people have done or said to or about me it’s long forgotten.

phalnx Ohio
02/11/19 11:22 am

There are a few managers at the place I work that I'd gladly see dead and buried, but I'm not actively plotting their downfall. If an opportunity comes along, I'll use it, but I've got better things to do than worry about those nitwits.

02/11/19 9:51 am

But I do hate Trumpnik

presrvd Phoenix
02/11/19 8:14 am

Possibly? I haven’t spoken to my mother in about 5 years, and it was about a decade before that last phone call. I’m not sure if it’s an actual grudge, as I don’t actively avoid her or anything, but she provided for a very shitty childhood for me, and I left. I do not put out any effort to get in touch with her simply because I have better things to do...

Whatsamattaferu 11726
02/11/19 7:22 am

Italians take grudges to the grave

mark1950 Columbia, South Carolina
02/11/19 6:26 am

Grudges and unforgiveness:

“Unforgiveness is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die” (on a church sign years ago)


cowboy Doors of Perception
02/11/19 6:20 am

Nah. I ain’t got time for that.

02/11/19 6:11 am

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Cal14 New Hampshire
02/11/19 6:00 am

Not worth it; Can't live in the past.

Focusing on others for their bad deeds only slows us down.

zimmy Florida
02/11/19 4:34 am

Nope, I ‘be learned to let things go quickly

Gunfighter06 Iowa, since 1846
02/11/19 1:05 am

Nah. I try to keep my negative energy to a minimum. Gotta keep the good vibes going.

02/11/19 12:32 am

"Quick to anger, slow to forgive, passionate to a fault." Is basically my whole MO.

02/10/19 11:53 pm

I rarely get angry. That emotion just isn't in my repitoire.

Celadonne ballfield
02/10/19 10:44 pm

I'm not easily angered, much less for days at a time. Some things people have done have been upsetting to me, but I can usually understand their reasons, and we're all human.

I can count about a dozen people holding one against me though. Makes me wonder how many other grudges they're holding on a given day? They must be exhausted and I feel badly for people who carry around such anger in their hearts all the time. What a terrible way to live. 🙁

FitzDarcy Tre46on
02/11/19 1:56 am

What did you do to a DOZEN people that they have a grudge against you..yet you say you do not...that sounds more like you don't hold a grudge you get even...Right Away..

Celadonne ballfield
02/11/19 12:05 pm

Is it possible that there are explanations other than that I'm vengeful?

CoffeeNow Powderpuff Leftist
02/10/19 10:42 pm

Everyone I haven’t met yet, and most of the people I have

desolatia Oregon
02/10/19 10:39 pm

No, I don’t have the energy for that!

mnct Ohio, USA
02/10/19 10:18 pm

No grudges, but there's multiple people I never encounter in any way, ever.

PamGH Washington
02/10/19 10:02 pm

Only one from 35 years ago. Sexual harassment before it was defined. He was an ass. Only person I’ve ever hated. Hate is a big word for me and reserved for only the deserving.

CudOfCow Oregon
02/10/19 9:42 pm

The old guy that lived in my house before me. I swear this jerk has used a different screw type for every single screw he ever used. It has taken me an hour and a half to disassemble a shelving unit and a whole tool box of screwdrivers. Torx decking screws, phillips, straight, square pocket screws, hex head, some of the shelves are glued with wood glue...others he used EPOXY! Fucking EPOXY!? What an asshat.

Survivalistien I am Green and Retired
02/10/19 9:19 pm

I was for the longest time. Ultimately it just made me a weaker and more flawed person and it was emotionally draining. I instead ask for forgiveness.

02/11/19 5:38 am

Excellent. Just excellent. Forgiveness based on the understanding of your own need for forgiveness is the beginning of a happy life.

cato Santa Barbara, California
02/10/19 9:11 pm

No. Wouldn’t that be a huge waste of time and energy??

BamaGirl ROLL TIDE from Arizona
02/10/19 8:50 pm

No. Grudges do more harm to the one holding them.

4JC Christian Pastors Wife
02/10/19 11:24 pm

Yes! And unforgiveness can actually cause medical problems!

orgblu10 Shamerica
02/10/19 8:46 pm

No. I've been the grudgee.

Dax Somewhere in Ohio
02/10/19 8:40 pm

Yes, my best friend though middle school and high school turned out to be an ass as an adult. I have not seen him in over 25 years and I hope I never will again either.

ctskapski x
02/10/19 8:38 pm

A bit of one, but it's not so much a grudge as it is a mix of frustration and a little resentment.

A person lied to me about something. I understand the situation quite well, and even understand their position. But they didn't tell me the truth, and I'm a bit upset about it.

davidwhite1 Building it Bigger
02/10/19 8:31 pm

No carrying a grudge rarely hurts the individual that you have animosity towards.
It only hurts you, and does not solve the situation.

outlaw393 Buck Fiden
02/10/19 8:23 pm

Yes my ex who claimed he loved me our entire relationship and then just walked out on me.

He told me he never wanted to be married again.

He married again about a year and a half after he walked out on me.

Meanwhile I've been alone, and think it will probably be that way for the rest of my life.

Ebola007 Florida
02/10/19 8:36 pm

Sorry 😐

katerina13 stuck in the middle
02/10/19 9:58 pm

Damn, outlaw. I could’ve written that myself. I’m trying not to be angry, but it’s difficult without having an outlet for my anger towards him. I know it’s not good for me, and all that other good stuff, but it’s still too soon. I’m still in the heavy stages of grieving.

outlaw393 Buck Fiden
02/11/19 1:08 pm

Thanks Ebola 🙂

outlaw393 Buck Fiden
02/11/19 1:11 pm

Kat: it's been seven years and I still feel resentment towards him.

I'm also avoiding relationships with men indefinitely.

That's also how long I've had to go without sex too, and it sucks.

katerina13 stuck in the middle
02/13/19 1:28 am

Girl, there’s no way I can hold onto this for 7 years. It’s only been 7 months, and it’s nearly killed me. I’ve got to move on somehow soon. But I’m giving it time to properly grieve my loss.

katerina13 stuck in the middle
02/13/19 1:29 am

Oh, and I once went 11 years without sex. I just wasn’t interested. Don’t plan to go that long again though. 😉

outlaw393 Buck Fiden
02/13/19 3:39 am

I wouldn't have gone without sex at all if I had a choice. Unfortunately I didn't and still dont have a choice.

katerina13 stuck in the middle
02/13/19 6:35 am

Do you mind me asking why you have no choice?

outlaw393 Buck Fiden
02/13/19 7:52 pm

To me its obvious: diseases (like HPV that supposedly 50% of the population has), no suitable men and I want to avoid a real possibility of emotional connection.

paranoidandroid peace love science
02/10/19 8:10 pm

Nah. Life’s too short.

02/10/19 8:07 pm

Yes, my partner’s (of 20 years) mother, who stopped talking to me after she found out - and then refused to meet our son, who is now a teenager. Grudge is a kind word.

DunkinFrunk Austin area, Texas
02/10/19 7:58 pm

Nope, grudges give those people too much power.

02/10/19 7:58 pm