Are you actively carrying a grudge against anyone?
Everyone who voted for Hillary Clinton.
Not sure. I strongly dislike Trump but it’s not because I refuse to forgive him for something he did a long time ago, it’s because he’s constantly doing new bad things. If he just stopped one day and became reasonable I’d forgive him in a heartbeat.
Actively I am not.
My sweetie's ex husband.
He says he has no money for his daughter's college, but has $35,000 for legal fees to reduce child support.
Thea-wipe got it reduced $100 a month. Considering taxes, he'll "break even" in 45 years. But she turns 18 in three. Dumb-ass. And he's working on a self-driving car for a high-tech Silicon Valley company whose logo is a fruit.
Now you know why I have no faith in the programming and thus safety of autonomous cars.
Yes. Donald Trump.
I'm sure he cares
No. If I’m to the grudge point, I’ve already kicked you out of my life, forgotten you, and moved on.
No. That’s a complete waste of time and energy, and sucks joy out of one’s life.
I held a grudge once for 15 years - against someone who had been my best friend. (It was over something he said to their children when he and his wife divorced; didn’t have anything to do with me directly.)
When I got over that - when I saw him again for the first time in 14 years - I realized how utterly stupid that had been. It hurt only me.
Less "grudge" and more tired of grown men acting like children.
The Super Bowl wasn't THAT exciting 😜
You have no idea. Try having guys as old as your parents work for you. You'll see how childish and petty they really are. My kids act better.
Lol no, that takes way too much energy
I'm Irish so of course I am.
Nah I’m too old to hold grudges, of the things people have done or said to or about me it’s long forgotten.
There are a few managers at the place I work that I'd gladly see dead and buried, but I'm not actively plotting their downfall. If an opportunity comes along, I'll use it, but I've got better things to do than worry about those nitwits.
Since 4th Grade.
But I do hate Trumpnik
Possibly? I haven’t spoken to my mother in about 5 years, and it was about a decade before that last phone call. I’m not sure if it’s an actual grudge, as I don’t actively avoid her or anything, but she provided for a very shitty childhood for me, and I left. I do not put out any effort to get in touch with her simply because I have better things to do...
Italians take grudges to the grave
Grudges and unforgiveness:
“Unforgiveness is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die” (on a church sign years ago)
Nah. I ain’t got time for that.
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Not worth it; Can't live in the past.
Focusing on others for their bad deeds only slows us down.
Nope, I ‘be learned to let things go quickly
Nah. I try to keep my negative energy to a minimum. Gotta keep the good vibes going.
"Quick to anger, slow to forgive, passionate to a fault." Is basically my whole MO.
I rarely get angry. That emotion just isn't in my repitoire.
I'm not easily angered, much less for days at a time. Some things people have done have been upsetting to me, but I can usually understand their reasons, and we're all human.
I can count about a dozen people holding one against me though. Makes me wonder how many other grudges they're holding on a given day? They must be exhausted and I feel badly for people who carry around such anger in their hearts all the time. What a terrible way to live. 🙁
What did you do to a DOZEN people that they have a grudge against you..yet you say you do not...that sounds more like you don't hold a grudge you get even...Right Away..
Is it possible that there are explanations other than that I'm vengeful?
Everyone I haven’t met yet, and most of the people I have
No, I don’t have the energy for that!
No grudges, but there's multiple people I never encounter in any way, ever.
Only one from 35 years ago. Sexual harassment before it was defined. He was an ass. Only person I’ve ever hated. Hate is a big word for me and reserved for only the deserving.
The old guy that lived in my house before me. I swear this jerk has used a different screw type for every single screw he ever used. It has taken me an hour and a half to disassemble a shelving unit and a whole tool box of screwdrivers. Torx decking screws, phillips, straight, square pocket screws, hex head, some of the shelves are glued with wood glue...others he used EPOXY! Fucking EPOXY!? What an asshat.
I was for the longest time. Ultimately it just made me a weaker and more flawed person and it was emotionally draining. I instead ask for forgiveness.
Excellent. Just excellent. Forgiveness based on the understanding of your own need for forgiveness is the beginning of a happy life.
No. Wouldn’t that be a huge waste of time and energy??
No. Grudges do more harm to the one holding them.
Yes! And unforgiveness can actually cause medical problems!
No. I've been the grudgee.
Yes, my best friend though middle school and high school turned out to be an ass as an adult. I have not seen him in over 25 years and I hope I never will again either.
A bit of one, but it's not so much a grudge as it is a mix of frustration and a little resentment.
A person lied to me about something. I understand the situation quite well, and even understand their position. But they didn't tell me the truth, and I'm a bit upset about it.
No carrying a grudge rarely hurts the individual that you have animosity towards.
It only hurts you, and does not solve the situation.
Yes my ex who claimed he loved me our entire relationship and then just walked out on me.
He told me he never wanted to be married again.
He married again about a year and a half after he walked out on me.
Meanwhile I've been alone, and think it will probably be that way for the rest of my life.
Damn, outlaw. I could’ve written that myself. I’m trying not to be angry, but it’s difficult without having an outlet for my anger towards him. I know it’s not good for me, and all that other good stuff, but it’s still too soon. I’m still in the heavy stages of grieving.
Thanks Ebola 🙂
Kat: it's been seven years and I still feel resentment towards him.
I'm also avoiding relationships with men indefinitely.
That's also how long I've had to go without sex too, and it sucks.
Girl, there’s no way I can hold onto this for 7 years. It’s only been 7 months, and it’s nearly killed me. I’ve got to move on somehow soon. But I’m giving it time to properly grieve my loss.
Oh, and I once went 11 years without sex. I just wasn’t interested. Don’t plan to go that long again though. 😉
I wouldn't have gone without sex at all if I had a choice. Unfortunately I didn't and still dont have a choice.
Do you mind me asking why you have no choice?
To me its obvious: diseases (like HPV that supposedly 50% of the population has), no suitable men and I want to avoid a real possibility of emotional connection.
Oh, ok. Gotcha! 😉
Nah. Life’s too short.
Yes, my partner’s (of 20 years) mother, who stopped talking to me after she found out - and then refused to meet our son, who is now a teenager. Grudge is a kind word.
Nope, grudges give those people too much power.