A couple of my friends are single, and they are going through terrible dating experiences lately, do you think it’s easier to be single or more difficult than 10 years ago?
I think the competition is much more on display. Apps that offer hundreds or thousands of potential “maybe” people are a real problem.
I bet there would be a real market for a reverse speed dating app. You’re paired with just one potential person for a week. You chat (or not) and get to know them (or not). At the end of the week, you’ve either exchanged numbers or not. Next week, next person.
Oooh...good app name: Next Week
...there you go, @Tony , your next million dollar app!
I think it’s harder to meet people now. People are more into technology than personal relationships and lack communication skills in person.
For sure! And also, social alienation is on the rise, so we're lonelier today than we were ten years ago, and we and more desperate to not be single, it seems.
Desperation and dating is a bad combination.
And a bad trend
I think it’s harder now, only going off of friends’ experiences. With online stuff it’s easy to initially chat with someone through a phone but to actually meet and have a connection is odd. It’s also more like people don’t take as much time to get to know people in the same way. You can just look them up online and if you see something you’re not into you change your view on them almost immediately. I don’t know totally because I haven’t been in the dating world in 10 years but it seems tough to randomly talk to people now.
The problem with dating apps is the scammers and spammers. I signed up for one for a short time. Was initially bombarded, and I mean instantaneously, with emails. Most were very obviously spam. Pics are fake and so on. You have to be able to discern between those and what’s real. It can be a pain.
That stinks, spammers always have to ruin everything
So true, zim 😕
And the sites don’t want to clamp down on them because it boosts their numbers
Idk, but my gut feeling is that it would be more difficult today. It seems like there are a lot of people looking only for "what's in it for me" and a lot of superficiality. And for guys, the unpredictable threat of sexual harassment scams. I don't envy my son having to navigate the dating scene of today.
If you’re not an aggressive, creepy dude, it’s very predictable.
^exactly, if you’re respectful, you shouldn’t be worried.
Unfortunately that’s not always the case. The type of person who would fake a harassment claim doesn’t care if you’re respectful or not, they care if they are angry and can hurt you
I think it’s easy to meet, but hard to get involved in a serious relationship. I think men are wanting to do this later than they used to.
Well, I say easier, but I've been out of play for almost 20 years. 10 years ago there were significant online dating options, which wasn't the case in my time...all we really had were general-purpose chatrooms. Using the Internet is still way easier than trying to mine clubs for cuties.
Harder now. Younger generations have not learned a lot of the interpersonal skills required for relationships. Also, the lack of defined gender roles has made the dating landscape incredibly confusing to navigate. Then, if you’re a man, simply asking a crazy feminist out can result in sexual harassment charges. That alone makes it surprising guys are even trying at all anymore.
You can’t possibly believe this nonsense, can you?
Easier, I'd bet. We didn’t have the Interwebs, online chat rooms, Tinder, or the like back in the old days.
Harder now. I haven’t been on a date since summer of 2005. There was no social media like there is now. People actually had to have conversations as opposed to marketing themselves on apps.
People have more options and resources for getting dates. Over the last 10 years, people are more selective when seeking dates because the market looks more saturated. As a result, you have to go more out of your way to hold someone's interest. This is worsened by the hyper-individualistic mindset encouraged by today's pervasive social media culture. If you're too average, the odds aren't exactly in your favor.
I’d imagine worse. It’s hard to be in a relationship when both are me, me, me. I’m entitled, I’m entitled, I’m entitled. It’s not fair, it’s not fair, it’s not fair.
It’s easier to get dates. I’m undecided if that’s resulting in worse dating experiences.
Great question for Valentine’s Day especially
We were talking about this at dinner yesterday. I had one friend who has received the following messages:
“Sit on my face”
“what that mouth do”
“I have a new dildo and am using it for the first time”
And several requests to start dating married couples
I was like, “bye...” oy!
I love the scene, in sleepless in Seattle, where Tom Hanks is gettin back into the dating the scene after his wife died, Gene Autry sings “back in the saddle again” as he nervously navigates the pitfalls of dating🥺❣️Something’s never change❣️Happy Valentines Day😍🥰😘❣️
I love that movie
I’ve been single for a while now and I’m fine — especially since I probably won’t be for long! ❤️
Wish you and your friends lunch Zimmy!
My opinion. Opportunities for decent people to meet these days have dwindled. Back in the 50-60’s as teens we went to church sponsored dances or met in school dances. We attended more social event then they do today. Most people are on their phones these days. I guess going to bars and clubbing are one way to meet a mate. I also think women are not as interested to settle down.
Seems we all used to have more communication in the past!
I’m not saying it was any better other way. It was limited to my scope and experiences.
Theres always dating apps.
It must have been great to be a teen in the 50’s and 60’s. Everything seemed so innocent then. Now they watch porn on their phones and don’t feel the need to leave their bedrooms.