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Cooper831 February 2nd, 2019 11:53pm

In opposition to my last poll...my siblings Anger Management professor asserts that 'anger is an unhealthy secondary emotion, born out of the denial of a primary emotion.' Thoughts?

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theNobamist Silicon Valley
02/04/19 1:09 pm

There are Professors of anger management?

Now we see why college costs are exploding. Clowns like these getting lifelong salaries.

TierasPet
02/03/19 6:57 am

I think it depends. I do think sometimes it's a response to fear or some other emotion but not always. There are times when anger is the primary emotion. Speaking only for myself, I am beyond frustrated with the selfishness of some of the people in my life right now. That frustration is leading anger.

Maybe the primary emotion is frustration but I don't think so. The only other thing it could be is fear of the consequences for expressing that anger. I don't like hurting people, making them feel bad, or adding to chaos with anger. I'd still say the primary emotion is anger though.

That said, I'm very tired right now, so maybe I'm just not thinking straight.

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catpillow Florida West Coast
02/03/19 5:25 am

To clarify, I think this is true for people who have anger management problems.

snagglepuss Story Time
02/02/19 8:49 pm

There are up sides to getting angry: it motivates you, anger results from us being wronged and can lead to healthier relationships, feeling angry makes us evaluate why we are upset, if you communicate your emotions you are less likely to lash out, anger motivates us to seek change.

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Cooper831 Wisconsin
02/02/19 8:56 pm

I agree! Simply put I think it's a motivator and encourages us to make necessary changes in our lives.

Ebola007 Florida
02/02/19 8:28 pm

That really makes me angry when people say that. 😤

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GlockMan1 Alabama
02/02/19 8:22 pm

Define...”born out of the denial of a primary emotion”. What primary emotion?

Cooper831 Wisconsin
02/02/19 8:27 pm

Typically I would think sorrow or fear

Krystina Let Freedom Reign
02/02/19 7:56 pm

In many, or maybe even most, cases, yes. From a personal standpoint, anger feels more powerful than, say, emotions such as hurt or sadness which tend to feel vulnerable. I dislike feeling vulnerable by a large degree, so I tend to express emotion that makes me feel that way as anger. In other words, I use it as a defense mechanism. If I evaluate after the fact, I very rarely get angry where anger is actually the primary emotion.

4JC Christian Pastors Wife
02/02/19 5:19 pm

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Cooper831 asked:
02/02/2019
In opposition to my last poll...my siblings Anger Management professor asserts that 'anger is an unhealthy secondary emotion, born out of the denial of a primary emotion.' Thoughts?

4JC Christian Pastors Wife
02/02/19 5:21 pm

While I agreed with your other poll, I’m in the minority so far in agreeing with this one, as well.

While I don’t believe that anger in itself is sin, it CAN be unhealthy, if you don’t deal with it in the right way.

And yes, I do believe that in my studies on anger, I’ve read that most anger stems from fear. It may be a fear of loss of control over your life, or fear that a spouse will leave you or that they’re not listening to you, or that they’re not respecting you, etc.

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