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dang. how long ago did he die? how long have you been together?

Take back the ring and run the other direction.
She is not ready and will, in the end, make you miserable. The comparisons, be they spoken or not, will always be on her mind.
Move on, unless you are a masochist.
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Think of it this way perhaps. You marry a widow and move into her house. Would you be upset if the photos of her dead husband remained on display? I know your situation isn’t quite the same, but the dead stay with you. It’s completely reasonable to let her know how surprised you were that she did not feel the need to discuss it with you beforehand.

Oh my.. I gather, this wasn’t discussed with you.
She could have planted a tree..

Sounds like she needs some counseling before you marry her. You should have premarital counseling anyway.

I would ask her why. Why now? Talk it over.

I'm confused did you break up with her because she wants to celebrate someone who died that she happened to be in a relationship with?

Dude it's not like she's cheating on you he's dead.

Rebound relationships almost never work. For many people, they end up being the biggest regrets.

Major time-out period. And if she doesn't do anything to get past her grief, move on.

I wouldn't say messed up. I would say she's dealing with grief issues. I would suggest patience and support. Let her know you love her give her time to get over her grief.

Only weird if you’re insecure. You have to realize that people have past relationships, especially as you get older. You need to realize this person really meant something to them and they were a part of their life. They’ve chosen to have a life with you, now. It doesn’t mean they have to forget their previous life or that they have any less of a commitment to you.

Dump her

That’s...weird. And a red flag. But not necessarily a deal breaker. Would have to talk to her

I think it's good that you found out about this before you married. This is a HUGE red flag.

So you’re not engaged. The relationship is over.