Little kids' (5-7 year olds) sporting events: keep score?
It's important to teach children that they don't always win. If they are signing up to play on a sport team, they're signing up to win some and lose some. I think if a child has real issues with losing, they should not be on the team.
Playing the sport is fun, losing can be fun too sometimes, it builds anticipation and motivation for the next go around. Competition is what makes sports fun.
Why is this a thing, if you don't keep score how do you know who wins? How do you know if you need improvement if you never loose? Fairytale land is fun but keep it in the play room and off the field.
Life is full of failure, teaching our kids otherwise does nothing but set them up to fall harder, think that they are "entitled" to rewards and doesn't teach them to learn from their mistakes.
I would rather beat my kids than coddle them into complacency. Coddling is REAL abuse!!
when I was in gym 4th grade our teacher says"it's always a tie, there are no losers" if there are no losers the world would suck no super bowl no World Series;kids have to learn they won't win at everything
I wish that we can eliminate this thought of entitlement. Meaning little Susie or Johnny, if they lose THEY DON'T GET A TROPHY!!!! Keep score and teach them to get back on the horse and keep trying harder.
A five year old isn't playing to win, they are playing to have fun and to build a love for the sport, there a point at which it becomes ok and when they can start to deal with losing.
And that's why kids grow up not knowing how to deal with loss or rejection, because we all want to be politically correct . Don't believe it, just watch the ones that have been coddled after their told no on IDOL they can't handle it.
Little bobby needs to know how to lose.
Maybe they shouldn't learn to count or read or write either. Come on people! Kids have to learn that games/sports are for enjoyment. Sometimes you win, sometimes you lose. They need to learn to deal with disappointment.
At that age it should be about having fun and creating a love for the sport. If a kid lost they could get discouraged and not want to play anymore. They have plenty of time to be competitive and worry about their record later in life.
I agree... Because what else teaches humility and sportsmanship?... But that doesn't mean you shouldn't try to win!
The kids are usually competitive... it's the adults that need to relax. So many take things so seriously. Through my soccer life, I have matured and gotten better and more competitive, while my parents and the parents of my teammates have gotten less competitive. And that's how it should be.
It's important to lose every once in awhile.
5-7 year olds are only beginning to learn the game they are playing. Once they learn the game there is plenty of time for competition when they get older. Kids at this age don't really care about winning or loosing, its their parents and coaches that care. let em learn and have fun.
I used to see it your way. But, I noticed a lot of adults trying to win arguments and fights just to win. In the end, they won the fight but lost the battle. Life's too short. I believe its better to do your best, work hard, contribute and move on. Completing what we start is better than winning.
Make sure the gun is loaded. We don't want no sissy boy.
Mk96... You are right unfortunately fans need to learn sportsmanship too. Society's manners are gone! We need Emily Post back with a twist & at higher level! But if the coaches teach kids dignity, then maybe the kids will grow up & teach the next generation W & L with grace. Lets hope so at least .
Okay- if you put too much value in winning or losing ..... It's a game... There needs to be a purpose... So if you lose.... SO WHAT??!?' ..... It's not the end all be all...
What? Cut yourself and force him to watch? Hell, just give him a gun and send him back in the game.
You are right, if we are on Bell shaped curve 98% of us are losers. Most are just average or below. Fortunately winning or losing does not equate to happiness or most of us would be unhappy.
You are right, if that is what we teach them. But when you go to the games, there are parents yelling obscenities at the opponents kids and screaming at their own for falling down. These parents teach winning is everything and sportsmanship is for losers.
It appears, in my opinion, that 77% of voters in this pole are on the right track! Thank you America, for redeeming some of my faith in our people.
@okay Keeping score is not the same thing as making fun of somebody.
Yes. You need to learn how to W or L with grace. Teaching that, at a young age is better than learning how to L at an older age. This notion of making everybody feel good is stupid. Competition is good. Teaching "may the best man win, " is not a bad thing. For you PC police, women too!
Im a soccer ref at a local YMCA.. We dont keep score no matter the age.. Most of the kids do though.
*at that age
I don't think competition should be a big deal at that, it should definitely be for fun. But if they grow up expecting to win everything, they're going to turn out to be sore losers. They need to know it's okay to lose and that they won't always be the best.
That's not at all what kids need to be told, I can understand telling them to work harder but they didn't lose because they suck but perhaps because they didn't give it their all, approaching children in that sort of way is not the correct way to go, you have to be nice to them, they are just kids
Kids need to be told more often that they lost because they suck, and that they need to try harder.
Losing is part of growing and learning to cope. Not every kid is a winner. Not every kid is cute. And nobody wants to see your retarded bumper sticker about your kid being an elementary school honor student.
YES. learning how to handle wins or losses appropriately early is a big deal. in addition it teaches kids young that you should always strive to compete and go for the gold. the score shouldnt be emphasized by parents or coaches since the kids are young, but yes keep score
When kid loses at sports, I cut myself and force him to watch.
I understand what you are saying. I think everyone wants to protect their children but they do need the tools to deal with life. I think one of those tools is the knowledge that even if they lose, their self worth is not dependent on someone else's opinion of them or the score.
A guy wrote a book about how he lost his enthusiasm for running when he was made fun of as child. As an adult he finally accepted that he ran like a Penguin. He found the joy of running at the back of the marathon pack. Regular people related to him and started running with him for joy of running.
It will teach them though. There needs to be a score. It will make them work harder. Sports are not for winning they're there to teach kids hard work so they can win! The younger they learn the better they will be off in life.
Yeah. They need to learn to compete
Does that 5 year old get an extra loss of self-esteem so next time he or she won't try. Does that child who still believes in the tooth fairy learn they are no longer special or good enough?
There are very few real winners. By income, 99% of the US are losers. By job, very few are CEOs, doctors, lawyers, quarterbacks in the NFL etc... I equate winning with self-esteem and attitude not the score. That is what I think our kid should learn the field.
S622 6th St E, KALISPELL MT 59901omewhere along the line each child learns there is no Santa or Tooth Fairy and the are "not special." The earlier we keep score the sooner they realize that. It maybe true but it's sad. They have to grow up and understand their self worth is not determined by the sco
Yeah it does! Losing stinks! I wasn't happy when I was 5-7 and lost. There's winners and losers in life and kids need to learn that as young as possible so they will learn to work hard not to lose.
What are we trying teach our children? Who are the winners in life.? Is it being part of the 1% in high income. Cuz 99% of you out there are losers. A happy home? Over 50% end in divorce so again most of you are losers. How about finding happiness and fun in what we are? There are the winners.
When they lose does that five year old an extra loss of self-esteem.
You are right. I see parents keeping score and yelling obscenities at their own kids when they miss a goal or harnessing the other sides kids when they fall down or get hurt. The children learn the score with their parents very quickly when they lose.
Life is a Bell shaped curve. Very few of are kids are exceptional. Most are average and the rest follow along. At 5-7 years of age, in my opinion, it's okay for them to be at the top of the curve. We will learn soon enough that they are probable just average. The score dose not make them a winner.