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Show Of Hands February 7th, 2013 12:00am

Women only: if you were getting married right now, would you take your spouse's last name, or would you keep your own?

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emilymbd
02/10/13 2:13 pm

I'm planning on taking a new name of my choosing. I've tried to change it, but its too expensive and time consuming. When you get married you can do it easily. If I had a good name I'd keep it

stephygurl Virginia
02/10/13 9:52 am

I was happy to change it, one less thing to remind me of my good-for-nothing father.

AnnieM The Island
02/10/13 12:29 am

Could name a girl Beatrice or Beatrix and she could be Bea Ing. :P

cannibalann
02/10/13 12:03 am

I am no ones property, I'll keep my name.

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Sindri Basilica of Torment
02/09/13 10:57 pm

Heh where i live its well know you need to be with someone to survive. I mean for both genders up here if you want to get a house you either need a roommate or a bf/gf to afford the house unless o/c you have a very well paying job. B/c of this almost every single person i know is married already.

Mable
02/09/13 10:46 pm

Taximom I agree with your point. I'm usually pretty anti tradition, but in an era where most women don't need a man's financial support and, in my case, also don't want children so i married purely for companionship, it was a symbolic gesture of my commitment. That's all I was saying.

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Sindri Basilica of Torment
02/09/13 5:51 pm

I never said it would be a lack of love I think you just want to argue with me, Im just saying how it makes me feel as a man i think its an honor for a women to offer to drop her last name and take mine it makes it clear she really wants to be apart of my life.

taximom Boise
02/09/13 1:44 pm

Our kids have his last name, but I would encourage them to keep their names for life if they wanted to. I don't think people should feel pressured to change the name they've had all their lives due to societal pressure to conform.

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taximom Boise
02/09/13 1:37 pm

If giving up your name is a measure of love and commitment for a person, why would he not feel compelled by the same love and commitment to give up his last name upon marriage? Because it is simply a cultural norm. And forgoing that custom is simply a matter of preference and not lack of love or

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Sindri Basilica of Torment
02/09/13 8:25 am

Oh for me its more of a emotional thing less about tradition.

Sindri Basilica of Torment
02/09/13 6:31 am

Thats the way I see it also it show commitment and love

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Mable
02/08/13 10:15 pm

Taking my husband's last name was my true commitment to him. Almost more so than actually marrying him. It was a big deal to me to forego my given name, and he fully understood the symbolism.

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Mable
02/08/13 10:11 pm

No, deathvalley, the fact that our tax code is used to coerce or deter behavior is really stupid.

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Sindri Basilica of Torment
02/08/13 9:17 pm

Also deathvalley lighten up we can all still be friends and I understand and respect your opinion :)

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Sindri Basilica of Torment
02/08/13 9:05 pm

@ kianiwaters eh I guess I understand, I personally don't like being mean to women :P so I'm just trying to end the argument.

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kianiwaters Somewhere Over There
02/08/13 8:57 pm

Quick, it's confused, run run. Run while you can.


I can see how I am being rather rude here but I find humor a relief from the hostility.

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Sindri Basilica of Torment
02/08/13 8:35 pm

Oh and thank you very much!

Also this chat system needs a edit button so don't have to spam triple posts XD

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Sindri Basilica of Torment
02/08/13 8:34 pm

Oh ok nvm the my last post then :P

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Sindri Basilica of Torment
02/08/13 8:33 pm

"Or some women" I don't what you mean is that directed at me? Im confused now :P

kianiwaters Somewhere Over There
02/08/13 8:33 pm

I'm sorry Sindri, I did not mean it that way. Truly, there are some really awesome guys in this world. You seem really cool!

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Sindri Basilica of Torment
02/08/13 8:29 pm

I personally don't believe that any gender is any smarter then the other nor does one feel more emotion then the other.

Sindri Basilica of Torment
02/08/13 8:27 pm

Say what? I have wit intelligence and charm...

kianiwaters Somewhere Over There
02/08/13 8:26 pm

Sindri, yes wit and intelligence and charm are the way of the woman!

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deathvalley Chicago native
02/08/13 8:23 pm

Alright wtf? Now you guys are just weird!

deathvalley Chicago native
02/08/13 8:22 pm

Anyways good riddens LEZ!
You're the one who needs to open your mind to other opinions.

I can't believe I've made one person so ANGRY with my point of view

deathvalley Chicago native
02/08/13 8:20 pm

You made a new comment?
Seriously?

HAHA!
My sn is deathvalley because happyvalley or live valley is not a place.

Sindri Basilica of Torment
02/08/13 8:07 pm

Not* ugh I hate typos...

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Sindri Basilica of Torment
02/08/13 8:06 pm

Now me! Brawl = last option available

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kianiwaters Somewhere Over There
02/08/13 8:02 pm

Rogue, lol! Love the wording! Yes men tend to want to brawl.

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Sindri Basilica of Torment
02/08/13 8:00 pm

Yeah thats why i have my lady disguise on its a lot better here :) I honestly don't get it... Why they are like that. Maybe I'm an anomaly.

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RogueMom In a Hand Basket
02/08/13 7:57 pm

Sin: I dropped by the men's side again (oops, sorry Tony). Holy Hemroids them bastards be mean!

Happy, glad you are happy =)

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Sindri Basilica of Torment
02/08/13 7:55 pm

Umm... Is this forum supposed to be the fort?

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kianiwaters Somewhere Over There
02/08/13 7:53 pm

Happy here is my hand, grab it and come out from under the bridge. It's dark under there and smells of death.
I know a better place, it's further down the line, it's peaceful and kind there. We even have a girls only fort. We do our hair and gets our nails done. Just come away from there.

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Sindri Basilica of Torment
02/08/13 7:50 pm

Yup thats why I'm still here :P its calm and orderly but people will have different opinions. i just wish it wouldn't always end in a fight.

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kianiwaters Somewhere Over There
02/08/13 7:48 pm

This app yes, but this question did great for a time. I should have ignored the bait. I feel bad now.
The name made me curious too.

Sindri Basilica of Torment
02/08/13 7:45 pm

You two should just live and let live. Theres no need to hurt each other.

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HappilyLez
02/08/13 7:41 pm

Deathvalley.. Please see my above reply. I was on my Droid and have a tiny different screen name... HappyLez7
You appear to be a very sad and angry person
I truly feel very very sorry for you
Try to open your mind a bit and drop the sarcasm.. You're not good at it and it doesn't accomplish anything.

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LGBT
02/08/13 7:33 pm

Don't flip it around Deathvalley..
I am very Proud of who I am
I am Happy.. look at my screen name.
Why do you call yourself Death?
Very sad...
You used the word in a Derogatory way
I will not allow you to name call.

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Sindri Basilica of Torment
02/08/13 7:32 pm

Just curious did he give any reasons for why not?

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deathvalley Chicago native
02/08/13 6:25 pm

What does it matter? Are you ashamed? Embrace your sexuality, right?!

HappilyLez
02/08/13 6:14 pm

Deathvalley... Why did you call me Lesbian and not my screen name?
I feel even more sorry for you based on this narrow statement..

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