Women only: if you were getting married right now, would you take your spouse's last name, or would you keep your own?
I'm planning on taking a new name of my choosing. I've tried to change it, but its too expensive and time consuming. When you get married you can do it easily. If I had a good name I'd keep it
I was happy to change it, one less thing to remind me of my good-for-nothing father.
Yep coz I like my last name
Could name a girl Beatrice or Beatrix and she could be Bea Ing. :P
I am no ones property, I'll keep my name.
Heh where i live its well know you need to be with someone to survive. I mean for both genders up here if you want to get a house you either need a roommate or a bf/gf to afford the house unless o/c you have a very well paying job. B/c of this almost every single person i know is married already.
Taximom I agree with your point. I'm usually pretty anti tradition, but in an era where most women don't need a man's financial support and, in my case, also don't want children so i married purely for companionship, it was a symbolic gesture of my commitment. That's all I was saying.
I never said it would be a lack of love I think you just want to argue with me, Im just saying how it makes me feel as a man i think its an honor for a women to offer to drop her last name and take mine it makes it clear she really wants to be apart of my life.
Our kids have his last name, but I would encourage them to keep their names for life if they wanted to. I don't think people should feel pressured to change the name they've had all their lives due to societal pressure to conform.
If giving up your name is a measure of love and commitment for a person, why would he not feel compelled by the same love and commitment to give up his last name upon marriage? Because it is simply a cultural norm. And forgoing that custom is simply a matter of preference and not lack of love or
It was that too.
Oh for me its more of a emotional thing less about tradition.
Thats the way I see it also it show commitment and love
Same as having kids
Taking my husband's last name was my true commitment to him. Almost more so than actually marrying him. It was a big deal to me to forego my given name, and he fully understood the symbolism.
No, deathvalley, the fact that our tax code is used to coerce or deter behavior is really stupid.
Also deathvalley lighten up we can all still be friends and I understand and respect your opinion :)
@ kianiwaters eh I guess I understand, I personally don't like being mean to women :P so I'm just trying to end the argument.
How am I weird?
Quick, it's confused, run run. Run while you can.
I can see how I am being rather rude here but I find humor a relief from the hostility.
Oh and thank you very much!
Also this chat system needs a edit button so don't have to spam triple posts XD
Oh ok nvm the my last post then :P
"Or some women" I don't what you mean is that directed at me? Im confused now :P
I'm sorry Sindri, I did not mean it that way. Truly, there are some really awesome guys in this world. You seem really cool!
Or some women.
I personally don't believe that any gender is any smarter then the other nor does one feel more emotion then the other.
Say what? I have wit intelligence and charm...
Sindri, yes wit and intelligence and charm are the way of the woman!
Alright wtf? Now you guys are just weird!
Anyways good riddens LEZ!
You're the one who needs to open your mind to other opinions.
I can't believe I've made one person so ANGRY with my point of view
You made a new comment?
My sn is deathvalley because happyvalley or live valley is not a place.
Not* ugh I hate typos...
Now me! Brawl = last option available
Rogue, lol! Love the wording! Yes men tend to want to brawl.
Yeah thats why i have my lady disguise on its a lot better here :) I honestly don't get it... Why they are like that. Maybe I'm an anomaly.
Sin: I dropped by the men's side again (oops, sorry Tony). Holy Hemroids them bastards be mean!
Happy, glad you are happy =)
Umm... Is this forum supposed to be the fort?
Happy here is my hand, grab it and come out from under the bridge. It's dark under there and smells of death.
I know a better place, it's further down the line, it's peaceful and kind there. We even have a girls only fort. We do our hair and gets our nails done. Just come away from there.
Yup thats why I'm still here :P its calm and orderly but people will have different opinions. i just wish it wouldn't always end in a fight.
This app yes, but this question did great for a time. I should have ignored the bait. I feel bad now.
The name made me curious too.
You two should just live and let live. Theres no need to hurt each other.
Deathvalley.. Please see my above reply. I was on my Droid and have a tiny different screen name... HappyLez7
You appear to be a very sad and angry person
I truly feel very very sorry for you
Try to open your mind a bit and drop the sarcasm.. You're not good at it and it doesn't accomplish anything.
Oh :( so many arguments on this app.
Don't flip it around Deathvalley..
I am very Proud of who I am
I am Happy.. look at my screen name.
Why do you call yourself Death?
You used the word in a Derogatory way
I will not allow you to name call.
Just curious did he give any reasons for why not?
What does it matter? Are you ashamed? Embrace your sexuality, right?!
Deathvalley... Why did you call me Lesbian and not my screen name?
I feel even more sorry for you based on this narrow statement..