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Yep. Im so sorry. A girl in my support group wasnt allowed to go to trial since there was not enough evidence that her gang rape wasnt consensual. Her cervix was bruised and she needed vaginal stitches. What hope is there for those of us with less extreme injuries?

Probably none which is beyond wrong. No one really cares except those of us it happened too and the families and friends. As far as I am concerned the rapist should be strung up and give the person a rusty razor blade and start from the bottom up.

Ugh sadly its true. Its exactly why I didnt bother reporting. Any of my milder injuries would be deemed "shes a whore and wanted it." And its so true. My dad, bf at the time, bff all care deeply after being with me through the healing process, realizing how unlikely justice is. But it takes personal experience and it fucking shouldnt.

And revenge fantasies were part of my therapy actually. Id be happy to hear about any harm coming to him, fantasize about pulling a lisbeth salander (revenge in girl w the dragon tattoo). Also part of why a dragon is incorporated into my tattoo.

If a man was raped and beaten it would become national news and something would be done immediately. But girls and women not so much. I was lucky enough years later to get my revenge against him as he was our neighbor and I babysat for his kids. It was a wonderful day in the neighborhood

If more were reported, do you think, for lack of better terms, "more would believe it"? That's the question at hand here.

Yes. Most girls and women who are raped are also beaten and if the police were more informed about rape they might take it more seriously. In my case, there was a lawyer who thought he could threaten me with my dads insurance company & he was right. My father believed me my mother told me I was at fault. How can a 14 yr old be at fault. When I was married and had my twins I was at a dept. store and saw him. Scared me to death. I got the courage from somewhere to walk by him without acknowledging him but he said to me "somebody actually got u pregnant" I said I was married and he laughed and tried to touch the babies. I absolutely went ballistic and yelled at him to get away from my babies. A clerk was watching and knew something was wrong and asked if I wanted the police. I said yes. He of course said no. Police came and knew me thru my dads insurance agency and walked me to my car and said he would take care of him. I never saw him again. Hope he is in HELL.

And by rape I mean sexual assault

Same you determime everything else like that, surveys. Sone sociological research methodology might be good to read about, this stuff isnt pulled from thin air.

But if more were reported, do you think they would be forced to believe it was occurring more often? I know this is a sensitive topic but it should be discussed in an open and frank manner.

I do not know.

And to add, a conviction is unlikely, so many, myself included decide it isnt worth it.

Yes, that's part of the reason so many are unreported.

And odds are for nothing. Wed go through a lot more if there was a chance in hell of conviction or at least not being harassed.