When you are the parent of adult children (25+) is your job: Provide advice and support for their decisions Or Push them down the path you think is best for them?
I seek m parents advice, but its my decision, I am completely independent of them financially so they can't influence my life choices.
By 25 I'm not sure you should even be offering unsolicited advice unless it's understood in your relationship that it's welcome and appreciated. Definitely no path-picking or pushing by then.
I can't imagine trying to direct my adult child's life. When she was younger (20-25) I might have been more inclined to *encourage* her to do something, like finish college, or learn to drive, but I didn't think it was my business to *push* her in...
..any particular direction. She's almost 46 now. Sometimes we do discuss aspects of her life - we like & trust each other - but I imagine she has more of those conversations with her husband than with me. I have always *supported* her decisions.
Sometimes, I have to keep my Wife from telling our Daughters what to do. I listen, then repeat what they said back to them, then maybe offer a couple of ideas, but I always tell them it is their decision. I'm here to apply band aids, so to speak.