Do you think that the idea of homophobia was created by the gay community to label people who disagree with them, or do you believe it is a real issue?
They added a lot of hype to it.
It was more than likely started by the liberals. Just like how they are calling ALL white people racist these days.
I don't know one person who is actually afraid of homosexuals
Just yesterday I had a female friend while in line at the bank get asked to "please move away. You gays freak me out". This was in San Francisco... She was alone and dressed "normally".
What the heck?? Lol
If someone disagrees with homosexuality they are called a homophob, just because you disagree does not mean you are afraid of it, which is what a phobia is
Homophobia is very real but I think there should be a new word coined to describe those who are for the rights of gays yet don't agree or like the lifestyle.
I've never known anyone to be afraid of a person from the gay community.
I think people use the term homophobe incorrectly.
Ive known people that Don't agree with, dislike, are sickened by them ,Yes.
The gays certainly took it to their advantage. Now, all you have to do to be labeled "Homophobic" is disagree with the concept of gay marriage. One day, I hope we can progress enough to be more tolerant of beliefs.
It certainly is not a creation by the gay community, either the word or the condition the word describes. It's a real thing in a descriptive sense. There are actually some who have a strong aversion or fear of homosexuality, which is irrational.
I think it's real, but over-inflated by at least 100x
A phobia is not just an irrational fear, it can also be a dislike or aversion. I don't use the term homophobic because most people believe it has only the 1st meaning & don't see themselves as fearful of homosexuals. Using the term often just...
..leads to arguments & doesn't get us anywhere understanding each other.
I agree with you that it is just best to avoid the term. The different things it means to different people is a huge part of the controversy behind the word.
Yeah. It's like the word gets in the way of communication - the word becomes the argument. That's just pointless, in my opinion.
I'm in no condition to engage in debate Hsim so I'll just say - great question
Haha thank you :)
I can see how the gay community might have invented the term as a label. Maybe it wasn't created as any kind of negative thing, but simply a name for a specific group of people. I'm not saying they DID create the term, however.
I'll just go ahead and say it. I'm gay and I've dealt with seriously homophobic people. However my best friend doesn't agree with homosexuality but is in no way homophobic. I've had people refuse to sit near me in class or at lunch and I've had
anonymous hate online really bad because of it. That is homophobia.
I'm so sorry, honey. People just don't understand humanity anymore.
@Sdonovan ,Your best friend doesn't agree with homosexuality and you're gay? I've heard a lot of people on here say they could never be friends with someone who disagrees with them in that regard. How do you do it?
Because her best friend is freaking awesome. That's how XD hahaha
But for real Sarah, I'd like to hear your answer to this.
She's my best friend. I can't just stop being friends with her. We disagree on a lot of things but we always make an effort to understand why the other feels the way they do. She doesn't treat me any differently. I'm referring to Hsim actually.
Too many people think they can't be friends with someone different than them. Hayley and I are proof that's BS. We respect each others opinions no matter what and it works out fine.
Why would gay people try to make their own lives even harder and create a term for justification of their own oppression? Obviously it's a real thing. I see it constantly.
Thank you! Great comment!
I heard some religious figure say once, "People come up to me after speeches saying they think sodomy is a sin and allowing gay marriage is immoral but they will not speak up because they don't want to be labeled homophobic."
There is a difference between disagreeing with homosexuality and being homophobic.
This could support either answer: it shows people really do not approve of homosexuality, and also that homophobia has become a large social factor.
@sdonovan, I agree with you in the literal sense of the term. HomoPHOBIA is a fear of homosexuals. However, nowadays the phrase is often used to represent anyone opposed to gay rights... Unfortunate, yes.
It was created by the homosexual community as part of it's agenda.
What exactly is the gay agenda? Please explain
"Gay rights" is an agenda. There's organized gay groups seeking the advancement of legal rights. You can't deny there's an agenda. It's openly stated.
So equal rights is a bad thing? Asking for tolerance and acceptance is negative?
Why give rights to sexual perversion?
Is it hurting you? Is it leaving a victim? Why do you have the right to tell two consenting adults that their perversion should be illegal?
I wouldn't make their perversion illegal or say they can't do it, but I'll do my best to keep it from being legally sanctioned as marriage.
Love you ooke and we won't change each others minds so I'm jumping out now. I
They can do what they want, by if they want a legal document to recognize it then that's a matter of public policy. Voters have a right to their say.
I agree Inge. Me too. Have a good night. Bye.
It is absolutely not a "gay creation". I've watch a friend beat in high school must for refusing to pretend he is something he's not. Whoever said its a gay creation needs a reality check.
I posted a poll asking if anyone knows any self admitted homophobes. This question was inspired by one of the responses.
I thought it wasn't a real thing when I lived in a liberal town. After moving to a conservative down, I'm able to understand the term more.
It's not well accepted here, which is fine. To each, their own. To hear some people be so sharp about it catches you off guard.
Why do you think conservatives are in fear of homosexuals?
They don't want the hurricanes to destroy cities or the like.
I don't agree with homosexuality. But I am by no means a homophobic.
I know people who are openly homophobic. They take their disapproval to a whole different level.
I don't think it is an imaginary thing.
Simply being against it is considered homophobic. If you defend your position then they'll say that you're taking it to a whole new level.
Simply disagreeing is not homophobic.
Some people may consider me being against it homophobic.
But I am talking about people who will stop eating at the lunch table with their friends because one of the girls there is a lesbian. And people who send anonymous online hate messages.
Those people are homophobic. They will tell you to your face they they are homophobic.
I know a guy who wanted to get shirts made that said "I'm not a homophobic. Im a homo hater." He said he would sell them.
It's a word with no real definition because it's recently made up. Stick around SOH long enough and make a simple statement about how homosexuality is "wrong" or "immoral" or something like that. See if you're not suddenly a homophobe, redneck, etc.
I suppose the issue here is how you define homophobe.
Disagree w Okie, but think it was most likely created either by the LGBT community or the media. Racism wouldn't work obviously.
"Homophobia" is an attempt to bully people into being afraid to boldly state their belief.
I've watch homophobes physically hurt a friend in hopes to make him be who he is not. Please.
Hurting someone for this reason is disgusting. They're not "homophobes" though. They're no different than any other bully who finds justification to beat someone up unjustly.
How are they not homophobes? They beat him for the sole reason that he was gay.