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CzarCastic December 27th, 2016 5:53pm

If you propose and they say "no" is/should the relationship over?

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alynn Somewhere wonderful
12/30/16 8:44 pm

No...but it would probably get a bit more complicated!

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american6 Moderate Libertarian
12/28/16 6:42 pm

Depends on why they said no.

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curly
12/28/16 12:06 am

If the answer is truly a plain, flat "no," then I'm not going to waste my time with that. If it's more of a "no not yet," or something more reasonable that the relationship can work towards to turn the answer into a "yes," then I would respect that and not break it up.

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bringstheeagle Colorado
12/27/16 11:30 pm

Totally depends on what you both want.

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sydwel
12/27/16 7:41 pm

There's no objective "should." It does depend on the circumstances as to whether or not the relationship can recover. If someone gave me a no, but for whatever reason wanted to keep dating in the short term, I'd probably end it. Something along the lines of "we haven't been seeing each other for very long, I think we should live together first" or "address this larger issue before we consider it," might be workable depending on the circumstances.

Although it is concerning if both parties haven't discussed and been on the same page about getting married in the near future prior to a proposal.

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rons WOKE is sick
12/27/16 4:08 pm

Depends on how hard they laugh.

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Diogenes FreeMeBe
12/27/16 3:06 pm

Is an agreement for Mr/s. Right Now out of the question? 😛

Laserbeam Crazy bird lady
12/27/16 2:41 pm

It's hard to envision a relationship ever fully recovering after a failed proposal.

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Laserbeam Crazy bird lady
12/27/16 2:56 pm

I feel for you if this poll resembles events in your personal life.

Laserbeam Crazy bird lady
12/27/16 3:43 pm

I mean that a failed proposal is incredibly damaging to a relationship and I can't see it recovering after that. The beginning of the end.

dfish at home
12/27/16 2:29 pm

Not necessarily. Sometimes yes.

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myob
12/27/16 12:16 pm

If you are ready to settle into domestic bliss, ask your S O to marry. If they are not ready or have no wish to marry,ever: You need to move on and find your life partner.

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thatguy2 We tried to warn you
12/27/16 12:08 pm

I don't know but I'm sure as hell never proposing again.

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myob
12/27/16 12:19 pm

If she embarrassed you when declining your offer, shame on her. You are truly better off without her. Go a bit slower next time and make sure she loves you dearly before you propose.

thatguy2 We tried to warn you
12/27/16 12:40 pm

Thanks but this is just hypothetical.

Asylumfries
12/27/16 12:00 pm

Proposal etiquette: If someone does something huge in front of like everyone they know or the entire stadium just say yes and then a private time say no because that is embarrassing.

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McMurphyJohnson say what now
12/27/16 11:34 am

Depends on what comes after the "no."

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Asylumfries
12/27/16 11:58 am

On TV it's always I'm not ready. I think that's a valid reason to say no.

CzarCastic
12/27/16 2:30 pm

Event still. If you're ready and they aren't, resentment can take hold only separating the two

Zod Above Pugetropolis
12/27/16 11:14 am

Probably not. It doesn't change the feelings either has for the other, and not every relationship just has to end right now today in marriage or splitsville. It was an early or inappropriate ask. It's the one question the asker should already know the answer to before asking it. But if the no is a "not yet", what's the hurry? And if the no is a "not ever", how was it a big surprise?

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MrsCrayonWax
12/27/16 11:04 am

It depends on the no. I'd assume that the respondent would clarify that upon saying "no" and that it would be obvious.

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BamaGirl ROLL TIDE from Arizona
12/27/16 10:57 am

I think it depends on the "No"... is it I'm not ready or this is NEVER going to happen? If it's the latter, then it's probably, "See ya..."

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CzarCastic
12/27/16 2:29 pm

Always insightful Bama