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Praetorianus December 17th, 2016 4:28am

Scenario: you are parent of a daughter who is 22. She likes mature men and recently started dating a man who is 52. Would you feel uncomfortable enough to try to talk her out of it?

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mistah Happy Happy Joy Joy
12/17/16 3:24 pm

She's a big girl, she can make her own decisions. I'll talk to her about it sure, but I won't talk her into/out of doing it.

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Liberty 4,032,064
12/17/16 10:57 am

Definitely unless he's rich and unhealthy.

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Krystina Let Freedom Reign
12/17/16 10:46 am

It wouldn't be an issue of my comfort, but of her future. If she falls in love with him and it becomes a life partnership, she's going to be in a position of taking care of an old, sick, and dying man while she's still youthful and vibrant, and she will lose that man and suffer that loss as well. So, it's not ideal for those reasons and I would point them out. Beyond that, she's an adult. She's going to do her own thing and if you push against it too much, she's liable to go further in that direction...at least that's what I do, but I'm a bit of a rebellious sort.

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onendone On a Beach
12/17/16 12:08 am

Well....This hits a little close to home. I'm a 53 year old living with my 24 year old girlfriend. I have a 23 year old daughter. If my 23 year old was dating a 50 something guy, I'd likely hit the roof. It is a weird situation. Not one I would have ever chose for myself.

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think4yourself Not a safe space
12/17/16 1:09 am

Does she call you daddy when you are being intimate?

Nuclear Boaty McBoatface
12/17/16 2:02 am

Well you're a fucking hypocrite.

onendone On a Beach
12/17/16 5:15 am

And you're a f*****g moron

Nuclear Boaty McBoatface
12/17/16 5:32 am

Lol I called you a hypocrite because you'd be mad if your daughter did what your girlfriend is doing with you.

You call me a moron because... I hurt your feelings? 😂😂😂

Praetorianus Fair enough.
12/17/16 5:56 am

@oneandone: so you don't like your own decision? It's right for you but not anyone else?

rons screw politicians
12/17/16 6:03 am

I always wanted to be a Sugar Daddy but she won't let me.

think4yourself Not a safe space
12/17/16 10:48 am

In defense of onedone he did say, "It is a weird situation. Not one I would have ever chose for myself." A lot of times parents find themselves in situations they don't want their kids to be in.

swervin Maryland
12/17/16 7:41 pm

He did choose it for himself. No one is forcing him to date a girl that much his junior...this, he is a hypocrite for being so judging of it.

think4yourself Not a safe space
12/17/16 7:43 pm

Sure but people also choose drug abuse but they don't want their kids becoming users.

orgblu10 Shamerica
12/17/16 12:00 am

I wouldn't even try to talk her out of it. As long as they're both adults, I don't believe age is a significant factor in a successful relationship. If they're compatible, more power to them.

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swervin Maryland
12/16/16 11:28 pm

I wouldn't try. It's her life. Hey, hopefully he is rich and he takes care of his father in law, right??

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bluerum29 optimistic idealist
12/16/16 10:23 pm

I would not be ok with that scenario and I would make it clear

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DrCarpenter rather be in Florence
12/16/16 10:02 pm

I'm 21. My partner is over 30 years older than I am. I'm happy with him. He's happy with me.

If she finds herself in a similar situation, I would be happy for her.

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Praetorianus Fair enough.
12/16/16 10:23 pm

It also worked out with the parents of my best school friend, a 25 year age difference.
They stayed together for life.
The only problem I see is when the difference is so big that the older partner dies before the children are grown, that's sad.

DrCarpenter rather be in Florence
12/17/16 7:05 am

I think a lot of people overestimate the struggle that comes with an age gap.
I agree with you regarding children - If I wanted children, I would likely choose not to have them with him because of his age, but, luckily, I don't want kids.

chickencookie It really is
12/16/16 9:45 pm

30 years? My daughter would never date a man who could be her father. She would go "eww".

Praetorianus Fair enough.
12/16/16 9:47 pm

That's why I called it a scenario.
It's not about your daughter but a situation I outlined that can happen.

JennaB Mother
12/16/16 9:41 pm

She's an adult, that's her choice to make.

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jfish82285 Tennessean in Colorado
12/16/16 9:35 pm

It's her love life. She's free to love whomever she wants.

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PrinceOberyn Euoi Dionysos
12/16/16 9:33 pm

Talk her out of it? No. Talk to her about it, sure. Her life, her choices.

Now if he's rich/has politcal connections, I'm talking her into it.

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PrinceOberyn Euoi Dionysos
12/16/16 9:33 pm

Same thing would apply for a son, also.

Praetorianus Fair enough.
12/16/16 9:39 pm

My question was inspired by Hugh Hefner although here we're talking about a TWO generation gap.

ctskapski NB MD
12/16/16 9:44 pm

I agree with the prince on this.

Praetorianus Fair enough.
12/16/16 9:32 pm

She's a legal adult and I wouldn't be a helicopter parent. However, I'd try to convince her to introduce him to me so I can better judge what we're dealing with. I'd suggest this to her no matter the age of the boyfriend.

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