Scenario: you are parent of a daughter who is 22. She likes mature men and recently started dating a man who is 52. Would you feel uncomfortable enough to try to talk her out of it?
She's a big girl, she can make her own decisions. I'll talk to her about it sure, but I won't talk her into/out of doing it.
Definitely unless he's rich and unhealthy.
It wouldn't be an issue of my comfort, but of her future. If she falls in love with him and it becomes a life partnership, she's going to be in a position of taking care of an old, sick, and dying man while she's still youthful and vibrant, and she will lose that man and suffer that loss as well. So, it's not ideal for those reasons and I would point them out. Beyond that, she's an adult. She's going to do her own thing and if you push against it too much, she's liable to go further in that direction...at least that's what I do, but I'm a bit of a rebellious sort.
Well....This hits a little close to home. I'm a 53 year old living with my 24 year old girlfriend. I have a 23 year old daughter. If my 23 year old was dating a 50 something guy, I'd likely hit the roof. It is a weird situation. Not one I would have ever chose for myself.
Does she call you daddy when you are being intimate?
Well you're a fucking hypocrite.
And you're a f*****g moron
Lol I called you a hypocrite because you'd be mad if your daughter did what your girlfriend is doing with you.
You call me a moron because... I hurt your feelings? 😂😂😂
@oneandone: so you don't like your own decision? It's right for you but not anyone else?
I always wanted to be a Sugar Daddy but she won't let me.
In defense of onedone he did say, "It is a weird situation. Not one I would have ever chose for myself." A lot of times parents find themselves in situations they don't want their kids to be in.
He did choose it for himself. No one is forcing him to date a girl that much his junior...this, he is a hypocrite for being so judging of it.
Sure but people also choose drug abuse but they don't want their kids becoming users.
I wouldn't even try to talk her out of it. As long as they're both adults, I don't believe age is a significant factor in a successful relationship. If they're compatible, more power to them.
I wouldn't try. It's her life. Hey, hopefully he is rich and he takes care of his father in law, right??
I would not be ok with that scenario and I would make it clear
I'm 21. My partner is over 30 years older than I am. I'm happy with him. He's happy with me.
If she finds herself in a similar situation, I would be happy for her.
It also worked out with the parents of my best school friend, a 25 year age difference.
They stayed together for life.
The only problem I see is when the difference is so big that the older partner dies before the children are grown, that's sad.
I think a lot of people overestimate the struggle that comes with an age gap.
I agree with you regarding children - If I wanted children, I would likely choose not to have them with him because of his age, but, luckily, I don't want kids.
30 years? My daughter would never date a man who could be her father. She would go "eww".
That's why I called it a scenario.
It's not about your daughter but a situation I outlined that can happen.
She's an adult, that's her choice to make.
It's her love life. She's free to love whomever she wants.
Talk her out of it? No. Talk to her about it, sure. Her life, her choices.
Now if he's rich/has politcal connections, I'm talking her into it.
Same thing would apply for a son, also.
My question was inspired by Hugh Hefner although here we're talking about a TWO generation gap.
I agree with the prince on this.
She's a legal adult and I wouldn't be a helicopter parent. However, I'd try to convince her to introduce him to me so I can better judge what we're dealing with. I'd suggest this to her no matter the age of the boyfriend.