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inge July 8th, 2013 2:22am

Do you let other people's actions have any effect on your self esteem?

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flobotscott88
07/08/13 11:20 am

I would say no but sometimes it just gets to me what people say.

rockrose paradise
07/08/13 10:11 am

The older I get, the less I care what others think or say.

Mooo42Q Thats Nucking Futs
07/08/13 6:10 am

I'm a brick wall. The only people who can effect me are me immediate family, but they never would

Rob Be Safe Be Smart
07/07/13 9:54 pm

Yes, but really only in a good way. When ever I plate food for a chef, it pretty much is my heart on a plate. As much as I want them to love it, I look forward to constructive criticism. Some one better than me, helping me be better.

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EmWalt Meet Jim the Duck
07/07/13 9:01 pm

I'm human... As I hope the rest of you are, though those 43% seem questionable. I try not to, but life happens.

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Evseng2
07/07/13 8:42 pm

Try not to.. But it definitely does end up affecting me!

I think that's the case with most people.

You okay, Inge? You have a history of posting questions oddly pertaining to your current events..?

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Evseng2
07/07/13 8:44 pm

But honestly... You are who you are!! No one can change that.. They can try to but they can't.
Anyone who says shit is hiding insecurities.. That's for damn sure!

Zimmeress Make Me Laugh
07/07/13 8:41 pm

Sometimes I get in a weird situation, and an offhand remark from an acquaintance will shut me down. It doesn't happen often but it happens enough to where I don't open my ears as wide anymore.
By the way, Inge- I love you, your son and your heart.❤

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MrEdwin Mystery
07/07/13 8:34 pm

Only if that person is really close to me, or if I hold them very highly in my life. I don't really let some random person get to me

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bliggs Veni Vidi Vigor
07/07/13 8:24 pm

I definitely have! But what's important to remember is that the ones who really know who you are, and love you for it, are all that matter! ;-)

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inge MIA
07/07/13 8:27 pm

That is a good reminder

BigKennyShow Welcome to the basement
07/07/13 8:09 pm

I would love to say I don't, but it doesn't seem to be that easy for me. Your smart, beautiful, funny and your an awesome mom! Don't let douchebags bring you down! :)

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inge MIA
07/07/13 8:13 pm

Sory. I'm a debbie downer. and you are fantastic, love.

BigKennyShow Welcome to the basement
07/07/13 8:19 pm

You never have to apologize Inge. It's good to vent out sometimes. I'm always here for ya babe, and you have a lot of good people here in your corner :)

FutureMD be nice to people
07/07/13 8:04 pm

I think we all are affected, whether we like it or not.

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StilettoMiss SF med law, meme queen
07/07/13 7:51 pm

As the Internet says,

"Ain't nobody got time for that"

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TempName14 Everywhere but nowhere
07/07/13 7:55 pm

Good. :-) that was sweet brown that said that.

Rosebud Ohio
07/07/13 8:41 pm

Am I the only one annoyed by that whole meme set? I never understood why it was so funny...

HayleyS looking up.
07/07/13 7:50 pm

Have you guys noticed that the people who encourage the most are the people who are very self critical?

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MrLucchese If curious, ask.
07/07/13 7:54 pm

Nope. Oh wait...

TopsQueen Oregon Coast
07/07/13 7:50 pm

I'm afraid that I do that quite frequently. This site my friends here have been the best thing for my self-esteem in my entire life.

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Emily33 North Carolina
07/07/13 7:51 pm

We love you tops ❤

PuppyLvr In love with Listgarten
07/07/13 7:55 pm

Tops, there is no reason for you to have low self esteem. You're the kindest person on this site and I'm sure you've helped many people on here. Take a step back and take pride in that!

BigKennyShow Welcome to the basement
07/07/13 8:10 pm

Your awesome Tops!!! :)

inge MIA
07/07/13 8:11 pm

Love you tops

TopsQueen Oregon Coast
07/07/13 8:14 pm

Well thank you guys so much. The same goes for certain young lady that single there. Kenny I'm so proud of you you're doing such a wonderful job and here's our new bride coming your joyfulness lifts everyones heart.

rlands
07/07/13 7:42 pm

This map is way too blue.

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MrEdwin Mystery
07/07/13 8:57 pm

I said yes because there are certain people who have an effect on my self esteem(parents, friends, etc.) but I don't let anyone get to me.

PuppyLvr In love with Listgarten
07/07/13 7:40 pm

I've realized that being myself is the most enjoyable thing in the world. If people don't like that, then I don't really care. I'm not going to change myself to conform to what others want me to be. It would take the fun out of life.

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Zod Above Pugetropolis
07/07/13 7:33 pm

There are many with opinions I value, but only my opinion really matters. I figure I'm not bending the curve lower.

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kindocologist Beer is my friend
07/07/13 7:33 pm

No self esteem, no worries here.

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Doopy Remedial Americanism
07/07/13 7:31 pm

Only if I value their opinion.

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TempName14 Everywhere but nowhere
07/07/13 7:56 pm

That's the key. Ditto.

Kay41 the Midwest
07/07/13 7:31 pm

Yes, sometimes. But, as I get older and realize my self worth it is less and less so. It is amazing how having low self esteem as a teen can have long lasting effects.

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Nizabelle Cambridge, MA
07/07/13 7:30 pm

As I have shared before, I used to be fat, very very fat, and I was tormented by my peers in Middle School and it used to just tear me apart. One day, I decided to take control of my life and I never looked back. I could not be more grateful for the

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Nizabelle Cambridge, MA
07/07/13 7:32 pm

For the blessed life I have had which means hat I wouldn't change a thing. As rough and brutal as it was to deal with, every single detail and aspect of my life has made me the person I am today and I am super proud and grateful to be me. So no, I no

Nizabelle Cambridge, MA
07/07/13 7:33 pm

I no longer allow people's actions to get to me in a negative way anymore because I lived that way once and I'll be damned if I ever go back. Some people are cruel and miserable and want to bring you down, they can only succeed if you let them.

rlands
07/07/13 7:35 pm

So so so well put :)

MrLove lovers, dreamers and me
07/07/13 7:36 pm

I hope to be more like you some day, it sounds amazing.

HayleyS looking up.
07/07/13 7:37 pm

Inspiring:)

Kay41 the Midwest
07/07/13 7:37 pm

Wonderful attitude! Time to go back to a class reunion and show off your beautiful and confident self!

Nizabelle Cambridge, MA
07/07/13 7:38 pm

Thank you, sir! I have lived on both sides of the equation and so trust me when I say this, I isn't worth it.

KAnne Atlantic City, NJ
07/07/13 7:29 pm

I try not to but it happens anyway

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inge MIA
07/07/13 7:28 pm

Dating has really put a damper on my self esteem. Calling it quits before I have nothing left.

Rosebud Ohio
07/07/13 7:29 pm

Dating sucks, at any age.

rlands
07/07/13 7:30 pm

Girl, no guy that makes you doubt yourself is ever worth it. You don't have to give up, just keep looking for better guys.

MrLucchese If curious, ask.
07/07/13 7:31 pm

Inge...
You're an incredible woman and absolutely stunning... I've told you before and I'll keep telling you until you believe it - you WILL find someone who will treat you with the love, adoration and respect that you deserve...

MrLove lovers, dreamers and me
07/07/13 7:38 pm

You need to start looking for men in their 30's. Men suck until they hit 31, at least I did, and all of my guy friends did.

kianiwaters Somewhere Over There
07/07/13 7:45 pm

If a man doesn't lift you up and make your outsides glow and your insides burn with life then he is not the one who has the power to light your fire. You are too amazing to leave your hearts joy in the hands of a mere mortal.

MrAngerer
07/07/13 7:48 pm

inge, I know we haven't always seen I eye to eye but what I have seen from you is that you're a very kind and beautiful person. And whoever would hurt you or mistreat deserves to be castrated in more ways than are possible.

TopsQueen Oregon Coast
07/07/13 7:52 pm

I think you need to be kinder to your self. You are an amazing and loving person.

Nizabelle Cambridge, MA
07/07/13 7:57 pm

Inge, you are wonderful and beautiful and funny and smart so don't let it get to you because I KNOW that I will all work out for you at the end of the day. Just hang in here for a little longer because you'll get there for sure

comppete Las Vegas
07/07/13 10:27 pm

You know, Gandhi once said;
"I will not let anyone walk through my mind with their dirty feet."

YOU JUST SIMPLY DON'T ALLOW IT!
Your self esteem is what you make it.

HayleyS looking up.
07/07/13 7:27 pm

Yes. I have to work so hard to keep my thoughts about myself positive that it doesn't take much negativity to break my positivity regarding myself.

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rlands
07/07/13 7:33 pm

Well keep working on it :) that positivity is totally necessary. Work that confidence, girl!

HayleyS looking up.
07/07/13 7:48 pm

Thanks rlands :) :)

Rosebud Ohio
07/07/13 7:26 pm

I've worked quite hard to be proud to say no in most instances. But still, someone like my husband really can, and quite easily.

SarahD in your orbit
07/07/13 7:25 pm

I act like I don't...

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MrLucchese If curious, ask.
07/07/13 7:24 pm

I think so lowly of and am so hard on myself that no ones thoughts, comments or actions could affect me.

rlands
07/07/13 7:25 pm

:( this is sad

Emily33 North Carolina
07/07/13 7:27 pm

Mr L. You. Are. Awesome. Don't be so hard on yourself.

Nizabelle Cambridge, MA
07/07/13 7:28 pm

Mr L, I am very disappointed by your statement. Very very disappointed :-(

HayleyS looking up.
07/07/13 7:30 pm

You're awesome, Kyle!

rlands
07/07/13 7:32 pm

Seriously. It's like your only flaw is how you think you're flawed. Honestly. It's like a positive feedback loop. You can control it though.

Nizabelle Cambridge, MA
07/07/13 7:35 pm

Rlands just nailed it! Her is nothing wrong with wanting to better yourself, but hat is not the same thing as hating yourself. You can only better yourself if you are capable of seeing your strengths and "pros" as well as your weaknesses and "cons"

inge MIA
07/07/13 7:35 pm

I love you, mr. I hope you see yourself like we see you.

MrLucchese If curious, ask.
07/07/13 7:46 pm

Thank you all...
There's a reason behind the self-hatred. It's a defense mechanism. I get over the pain I endure, because I believe I deserve it.

I'm working on it...

Anyway... Umm, I hope you all had a spectacular day. ❤

EmWalt Meet Jim the Duck
07/07/13 9:07 pm

Sometimes I feel this way, too, Mr. L. It helps me to pray. I don't know what faith you are of, if any, but it really helps me.

MrLucchese If curious, ask.
07/07/13 9:09 pm

I'm an atheist, so prayer isn't of interest to me, really. I greatly appreciate the suggestion, though. :)
I'm glad it works for you, that's what's important!

Emily33 North Carolina
07/07/13 7:24 pm

Unfortunately, sometimes, yes.

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MrLove lovers, dreamers and me
07/07/13 7:24 pm

Unfortunately, yes. I hurt and then I obsess and it hurts me more.

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inge MIA
07/07/13 7:50 pm

You are such a sweet person :( I cant imagi e who could hurt you and live with themselves

GetEduc8d learning more everyday
07/07/13 7:24 pm

Yes but sometimes it's easier than others.

GetEduc8d learning more everyday
07/07/13 7:25 pm

Yes *but then I let go of it,