Would you be comfortable if your significant other(s) spent a lot of time with a friend belonging to the gender to which he/she is attracted?
My boyfriend is bisexual lol
I would let them, but I'd still be a bit uncomfortable given my self esteem.
That would make me, as well as many other females, highly hypocritical. My best friend is a male and also my "significant other's" best friend. He should be allowed the same as me
I feel the same way. I might get jealous, but I realize that is my issue - not something he needs to deal with. If he avoids bringing me around her, I will wonder why though.
I would trust my girlfriend until she gives me a legitimate reason not to.
something is wrong if another person of same gender as me can satisfy my spouse better than me. that's like marrying a chef and always eating McDonald's. something's not right.
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The most politically correct question award goes to...
I say no because we both work and don't have a lot of time to be together anyway. If he's spending "a lot" of time with a female friend, that doesn't leave much time for us and if he consistently wanted to spend more time with her than me, yes
I'd be bothered. Same with friends of his not preferred gender though.
I really appreciate the way this question is phrased. So often these types of questions are heteronormative, saying "someone of the opposite gender"
I would feel even more confident if that friend had their own long term significant other
Yes, and I would be comfortable if they were more than friends, too! Monoamory/monogamy is selfish, arrogant, and often hypocritical, and I think it's time we move away from such a mindset.
Sounds like you have some serious issues.
Yeah man your weird
I love how this question was so carefully worded lol
To answer this colloquially, "hoes gonna ho". Crudely put I admit but the point stands, I see no reason to limit someone as a result of my jealousy. Besides if they do anything, I just upgrade.
I'm bisexual so I guess I'm never allowed to talk to anyone again whoops
Don't be silly, bisexuals don't exist. You're secretly gay. Or secretly straight if you're a girl. Either way, it comes back to you wanting the d.
I thought everyone knew that.
That is the biggest load of crap I've ever heard you ignorant fool.
I'm bisexual myself.
Learn the art of sarcasm.
I really think there should be trust which means sure but unfortunately lots and lots of people aren't in healthy relationships.
That written; I would think they would be long time friends with me as well. Even that doesn't insulate you.
The Gift of Fear- I didn't react quickly enough to my intuition. My radar went up but I chose to ignore signs. Was trusting with a person that used the method of cheating end our marriages mated of just leaving.
Marriage not marriages
What can I say? I'm the jealous type...
Trust is mandatory.
Stupidity is optional.
I'm not the jealous type, but I'm not dumb either.
Now that was a politically correct question. I guess if you didn't ask it that way someone would have sued you for discrimination.
Wait. Significant others?
One of my husband's best friends is a girl. If something was going to happen between them, it would've happened long before I came along. But anyone else, I'd need to know the girl well.
I have been cheated on and I still believe no one can be "stolen". someone who is happy and has a moral compass won't cheat, regardless of how "hot" their friends are
That really depends on how much time is considered a lot of time.
depends if the other woman is attracted to him also. If she has no interest in him and only likes him as a friend, he's not going to get anywhere with her (unless he's a jackass) she's going to tell him to @#$! off. Otherwise, I'll worry. I have trust issues. but I'll give you a chNce.
This poll took super extra measures to remain inclusive and super politically correct.
Which is good, because a strictly heterosexual scenario wouldn't have applied to me and many other people.
My girlfriend is also bisexual, so if I was worried and paranoid, I'd be screwed. But I trust her, and that's the most important thing.
If a guy has been friends with a girl since grade school- that kind of relationship is almost the same between siblings so no i wouldnt be worried. If it was more new i might be skeptical
In a country where divorces are becoming increasingly common, if this poll has taught me anything, it's that a lot of people approach their relationships in an unhealthy way. And people wonder why they fail so often!
Friendships with someone of the opposite sex who is in a relationship is not healthy. Casual friendships, yes. But not the best friend buddy-buddy kind of friendship... But most relationships are terrible to begin with, so who really cares.
Women think they can be, but all those friends they have secretly want to F them. And it's usually the only reason their "friends" are hanging out with them.
So you think that if a man wants to have sex with a woman, it will automatically make her want to comply? Maybe for some this is the case, but if so, why date such a brainless insecure ho-bag? And if a male friend rapes her, it's not really cheating.
I trust my girlfriend. She spends a lot of time with her female friends but also with me, so I don't have a reason to be uncomfortable. Also, if you can't trust someone in a relationship, you can't have much of a relationship, in my opinion.
Scientifically, no one can NOT be attracted to anyone from the gender they're attracted to... if that makes sense. For example, I've imagined myself romantically being with every single guy I've ever met, even though I didn't want to.
No, that actually makes zero sense. I'm a hetero female and have not been attracted to about 85% of the men I've ever met. Not sure what you're basing your statement on.
I think that's just you, dear
Yeah....ive never thought about my gma's friends naked so...this theory is bologna.
cam. you are a hopeless romantic. haven't found the right man to send you to the moon while you scream. so you're still hunting for him.
I am just not the type of person to be jealous, nor is she.
Tried dating a girl who had a bunch of guy friends. She was a bit of a flirt and although I thought I trusted her, I began to feel like a bit of a chump. Jealousy progressed from there, followed by the inevitable end. Wouldn't try again. I think its impossible if you have trust issues...
I don't think it even has anything to do with trust issues. It's that all/most guys want to F their female friends, and the girl just has to make one tiny slip and boom goes the dynamite.
Jabroney, do you really believe that? I'm a female and I don't believe that. I have plenty of male Co workers, friends, and female friends' hubbies in my life and I think it's a bit if a stretch to say they all want to F me.
There's something wrong in the relationship if you can't trust your significant other.
I trust my wife. I don't trust all those guys.
The way I see it, all you have to fear from their friend(s) is them being taking advantage of. What if your wife's female friend is a lesbian? Would you not trust that friend either?
I trust her, I don't trust him.
I trust my him. He needs to spend some time with a few other women. Although the 2 of them spending a lot of time together would catch my attention and i would probably look into things and talk to him about it.
You mean my significant other being attracted to the opposite sex? OH WAIT WE CAN SAY THAT ANYMORE.
Could you be a little more PC please? And clearer?
Gtfo. This isnt government run he can be as unPC as he wants.
Maybe you can create a Christian Kansas SOH...
Anyone who's been cheated on is probably answering "no", and understandably so.
I have a lot of friends I met under circumstances that don't really allow for a romance to develop, and I would want the trust to spend time with them, so I would give that same trust until I became comfortable with it.
I use to have a boy best friend. One of his best friends is a girl. I am not really the jealous type so I don't mind so much.
I don't mind my boyfriend having girl friends, though I am uncomfortable with him spending too much time with girls. Every single male I've been friends with has hit on me repeatedly so I expect it from men. Also I have worked some crappy jobs that
have made me weary of men, including my dad who a great person. I definitely would rather my partner not, but if he really wanted to I wouldn't stop him.
Spending SOME time with attracted-to gender friends - no problem. Spending a LOT of time with attracted-to gender friend - there's a big problem.
Fuck no. She has plenty of friends.
absolutely. I know my wife's guy friends. they're great. it's not like she'd spend more time with them than me and the kids.
If you don't trust your partner to have friends of the gender they are attracted to, your relationship needs serious work.
I trust my wife. I don't trust those guys.
It's that the women just has to make one mistake and there's a dude right on hand to pound her when she's drunk and makes that mistake.
If its someone they've known for a longtime & I know them too then yes cause I'd know there isn't anything between them. New friends, I'd be skeptical
I trust my partner. And also i would need to know that other person is completely unattractive
Yeah, but its not your judgement, its your mates (changes the game eh??)
Ppl tell me I'm the "dangerous" type b/c I don't have a "type", I have fetishes - like HUGE knees/knee caps. (Chris Pratt from Parks and Rec is a prime example).
Wait a min, I misinterpreted Blu..disregard my 1st sentence (it said gender so not the person per se).
This changes my answer then. Not no, but hell no! Guys have 2 types of female friends: those they've screwed, and those they have yet to.
...and those that they've known since childhood (whom they view as sisters); and those that they haven't known since childhood but aren't romantically or physically interested in because, believe it or not, some guys can actually view women as *humans* and not just sex dispensers...
8 that's very sexist. I have several girls who have been friends for many years and I consider them sisters. I love them unconditionally and am protective of them. But no you go ahead and fall for every guy who has big knees because that's mature.
You know what they say about big knees...
I'm a dude and 8baby is completely right... Stop lying to yourself fella's... Men are only able to be friends with un-attractive women. Yes you can be friends with attractive women, but you're going to be trying to work your way into their pants.
It is different if you've know them for a LONG time and grew up together. But you've still got to keep a certain distance if you're in a relationship.
You're wrong. I've had a friend I've known for well over 10 years now, we went to junior high together. We were inseparable and yea she's good looking, but I love her in a different way. It's possible. People who say no are just insecure.
Congressman, I think you're wrong. I don't think people who say "no" are just insecure; I think people who say "no" are incapable of viewing others as humans rather than objects to be categorized. Notice how black-and-white the naysayers are describing gender relations...
Congressman: I like knees, not young boys! I really don't see the "immaturity" in that, but ok, that's your opinion.
It really depends on how well I know the person she's hanging out with. We share a lot of the same friends, so chances are I would not mind. But if I have never met/didn't like him, I would probably be a little uneasy.
The trashman! I like it Frankyboy
Sure. If she wants to make a change, me being concerned won't change a thing.
He's attracted to both, so it'd be ridiculous not to be comfortable with whomever he hangs out with solely based on gender.
Then again, if he suddenly starts spending *a ton* of time with any person, I might get suspicious. Not necessarily cheating either, there are a million bad things he could get into that are far less reparable than a silly fling.