My teenager is being bitchy and mean. Are there moments when you feel like you hate your kids? How do you deal with it? Do you have any advice?
My daughter and I fought so very bad when she was a teen. Screaming, slamming doors, between her raging hormones and my non-existing hormones it was bad. People can't believe we are as closes as we are now. Above all remember you are the adult :)
She's going to treat you how you treat her , there must be a reason why she's acting out ... If so come to a compromise . Spend time with her don't make her feel distant .
Well, that's not necessarily true. We seriously thought @ one point our daughter might need psy help, she was so emotionally reactive. Completely out of character for her, *or* us. Hormones can do evil things to adolescents!
Its designed this way to make it easier for them to leave the family nest. Girls are the worst!
Yeah. Cuz the boys'll just murder you in your sleep. Heehee. Problem solved. Seriously. Girls *are* the worst for emotional drama.
... & it is also part of the natural, normal, process of "testing wings to leave the nest"... boys & girls. It's suppose to be a little ugly on both sides so everyone is happy when the break comes. ;-)
There was a comedian on years ago. She said she believed in abortion. If you can kill them of the first nine months of life , you should be able to kill them during the next 18 years.
Don't give the liberals any ideas.
Bill Cosby said, "I brought you in this world and I can take you out!"
Haha think4yourself you got jokes :)
Gemini, that was one of my husbands favorite quotes. He's the father of five.
Mark Twain, the humorist, had these words of advise on raising children. He said, “When they become teenagers put them in a barrel and fed them through the knot hole. When they turn sixteen stop up the knot hole!”
Lots of true & pithy parenting humor in this article: www.sermoncentral.com/sermons/a-recipe-for-successful-parenting-john-hamby-sermon-on-family-37483.asp?libronix=1
Thanks elianastar, great article, I've forwarded it to my daughter
When I grew up in the 50s they would show mothers putting their heads in the oven supposedly to gas themselves. Until I became a mother of a teenager I thought that was stupid. After that I understood it. You love him so much when they're babies.
If they did not become obnoxious you would never want to let them go.
Just look back at when they were a baby and all the reasons why you love them. I look at my 1 yr old son now and think I could never hate him or feel like I hate him but I often look to the future as well and expect him to be a bratty teen. So I..
Cherish the moments right now and love on him as much as I can so when he does hit the bratty teen years, I can look back on the baby days where all I felt was love and remember why I love him. And don't give your daughter a reaction!
I think itd help us help you if we know what she did. Most people arnt "bitchy and mean" for no reasson. What is she mad at you for?
The definition of teenagers is bad roommate. They're not even your kids anymore. They don't pay rent, they eat your food, they leave a mess and don't clean it up. They steal your stuff. They're just the worst roommates in the world.
I agree with others, teenaged should be shipped away at 12 and can come home after high school. My daughter has apologized many time.
Pick you battles, have a open door policy they can talk to you about anything. And grandchildren are worth it
Grandkids are your reward for not killing your kids. A Star-original. Use it as a mantra if you like. My 30+ daughter started calling, emailing, &/or apologizing to my face after she had our granddaughter. She was, overall, a great kid, but...
... there were moments when we wanted to kill her & tell G-d she died. Never let 'em see you sweat. "Love those who hate you," works well. If truly disrespectful, *must* address that: I understand you are upset/stressed, express w/more kindness, plz.
My momma says that, "kill 'em and tell God they died."
I got that from my maternal grandma; heard it all my life! :-)
Start with time and distance but during that time for you to think they need to think to. We take their phones computers etc. decide on punishment and stick to it depending if just temporary grounding is enough or not.
1. Don't discipline when when your angry.
2. Stick to it don't let them off easy the world won't!
3. The closer the get to graduating from high school the worse it gets, God uses their senior year to make you ready for them to LEAVE!
Just give em the good old fashioned backhand. It worked on us when we were younger
I was only useful to my teenage son when the Internet went down. Now as he is in his 20's he appreciates all we have done - especially being debt-free on graduating college. He gets it now.
I have never felt like I have hated them but there have been some trying times. Follow through with discipline is key when they are acting up.
Tough love. Remember, you are the boss.
I would give about anything to be able to apologize to my mom.
You never really hate the child, you actually hate their actions and are disappointed in them that they act that way. It will pass. You have to always remember that everyone has bad days. Even you.
Don't take your kid's behavior personally. Maybe your kid needs your help with something, or needs someone to talk to. Teens are at a really hard age, where they're not really kids anymore, but they're not adults either. Try to be understanding & fun
Try water boarding. It's worked great for us.
@ okie your tips help ppl out everyday. This man deserves a medal
It's not that bad once you get used to it.
I wish I had it that easy..my mom just locked me in the dungeon with no and limited water for a week
Best advice I have ever heard.
I enjoyed it.
Depends how you should respond to accordance with your kid.
If your kid is anything like me, smack them, NOW.
Just take a breath and put yourself in her shoes. I'm not a mom, but I've done a lot of child care over the years. I just try to keep my cool and especially with teens let them know it doesn't get to me.
Us young ppl can suck lol..specially the teens. Rlands is right I think
One swift kick to the carotid should buy you a few moments of peaceful, "me time".
I had a smart mouth but I was scared of my mom so I will probably use the same approach
Time and distance.
My son is only three. I do remember how horrible I was to my mom as a teenager...if it is any help now, one day your kid will realize what hell they put you through. I am 26 and still apologize to my mom. :)
I apologize to my parents sometimes too. It's sweet because my dad apologizes back :)
There's a great book by a psychologist named Glen Latham. Quick read. I recommend it.
And he's a Mormon too. :-) "the power of positive parenting." I'll send you our copy if you wish.
My daughter turned 27 a month ago. There have been times recently that she has apologized for being…complicated.
I just ordered it on Amazon. After seeing how little my son's dad really wants to do with him, I've been looking for any parenting book I can get my hands on to help me be a better mother to him.
It's the secret book that should have popped-out with each child at birth. It formed the basis of how we disciplined in our home. My 4 boys are confident and well adjusted as a result. I'm sure you'll enjoy it Inge.
I was shocked at how positive the reviews were. I'll let you know what I think of it.
My wife and I are grateful for it. He's passed away now, but he was such a sweet man. He corresponded with us by phone and mail to answer parenting questions for us. We saw him speak 2-3 times. His wife wrote us a note after his passing. We love him.
The trick is to modify your response as a parent. It takes time to train yourself. It's a bit of work. The book is practical: do xyz when this happens; do abc when this happens, etc.