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Show Of Hands August 16th, 2016 10:03pm

If your spouse or significant other looked as though they had recently gained 10 lbs, would you say something?

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LibertyLover Pokemon 201461036800
08/21/16 12:21 am

I honestly don't think I'd notice 10 pounds.

aoki1723
08/20/16 12:11 pm

Depends on if they are sensitive/take criticism well.

kmurph205 Charlotte NC
08/20/16 6:51 am

Yes, but in a congratulatory way. He is a marathon runner and far too skinny. He struggles to put on weight. 10 lbs is not always bad. Perspective :)

Annabelle41 Michigan
08/19/16 10:33 pm

I sometimes mentioned it to my husband but he still ate what he wanted but did cut back and lost weight so at least he listened. Just don't want to lose him since I'm always on a diet and I want him to be around forever.

Bluebie Colorado
08/18/16 7:06 pm

If it's 10 lbs of muscle I'd congratulate him. If not, I'd whip out the vitamix and say we both need to eat healthier so let's get some fruit and veggies. We also made a mutual agreement to not let each other gain too much unhealthy weight so it's all fair.

Rosebud Ohio
08/18/16 6:35 pm

Yes. He's already overweight, and I care about his health. I've said something in the past before and that's why he's now gone from obese to overweight.

tdaddy Kentucky
08/17/16 10:59 pm

No, she could use about 10 lbs in all the right places. 😃

ProbablyEug Oakland
08/17/16 1:24 pm

I'd be like, I've really been trying to hit the gym and eat better lately. Do you want to do it with me?

haku1071 Las Vegas
08/17/16 1:09 pm

If the other person is female... You're damned if you do and damned if you don't.

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CMD1973 Oxford iowa
08/17/16 7:24 am

Yes. I am concerned about their health and appearance. They would do the same for me.

phalnx Ohio
08/17/16 6:37 am

Nope. I'm sure she'll notice it way before I will, and unlike myself might actually care about it.

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bkro37 existential crisis
08/17/16 5:09 am

Tbh I'd probably congratulate her... she needs it

pr3ttypee Brooklyn, NY
08/17/16 4:34 am

I'd mention it, just not in a harmful way.... "Hey babe you getting a lil chunky monkey round here..." Or something

Raidersdave
08/17/16 4:10 am

I see most of y'all won't? You must not love them because weight leads to all kind of health problems

NYevo NY
08/17/16 4:18 am

10 pounds won't cause problems if the person in question starts at a healthy weight, or was skinny.

Raidersdave
08/17/16 4:57 am

But that is a start and you're right 10lbs isn't much if you're starting from a healthy place. Also it is a start of some unhealthy eating habits and lack of physical activity.

NYevo NY
08/17/16 5:07 am

Not necessarily. During menstruation, women can have wide water shifts of up to 5 pounds. Heck, if I have too much salt one day, so can I. Many people also come back from a vacation or business trip several pounds heavier and then settle back to their normal routine and drop the weight.
And then some people never are overweight, but die of high cholesterol, while others are larger and die at 90.
If your concern is over prolonged and ongoing weight gain, then I agree about a cause for concern. But to badger a loved one over a few pounds without waiting to see what happens or without taking into consideration how it got there, I think is overboard and likely counterproductive

ronderman North Carolina
08/17/16 3:44 am

My wife works out 6 days a week and is 42 years old. If she puts on weight, there isn't anything that she could do to stop it. We are both getting older and we know it's going to happen. We are just trying to delay it as long as possible.

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phalnx Ohio
08/17/16 6:36 am

Incorrect. Doesn't matter what age you are, you can always lose weight. First Law of Thermodynamics.

Congressman Louisiana
08/17/16 2:17 am

F it went to her ass I wouldn't mind that. :D

yesca Washington
08/17/16 12:07 am

I wouldn't consider it worth mentioning. That's her business. Love doesn't discriminate.

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ronderman North Carolina
08/17/16 3:42 am

Nope, but attraction does.

cornybread The Large Malus Fruit
08/16/16 10:08 pm

If it seems to persist and get worse, I'd say something in the most polite way possible. Mostly I'd be concerned about his health, both emotionally and physically. If your significant other is gaining weight and you don't know why, maybe you should be paying better attention.

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Doopy Remedial Americanism
08/16/16 10:04 pm

Depends on how much they weighed beforehand.

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Shiggybythebay Proud Bay Area Native
08/16/16 9:03 pm

No, I'm sure he would notice without me pointing it out. LoL

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Carcano Luke 10 19
08/16/16 8:52 pm

Id say "hey you should go to the gym"

Panther92 Colorado
08/16/16 8:45 pm

I wouldn't out right ask "why are you fat now?" But i would try to figure out what's going on if anything is.

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selfthink
08/16/16 8:31 pm

It might depend on where the 10 lbs is located. 👍

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voc I am...what I am
08/16/16 8:27 pm

No. It wouldn't matter to me. My wife is hot no matter what.

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robclark89 Utah
08/16/16 8:19 pm

I probably wouldn't say anything, probably because I wouldn't notice. My wife always looks hot to me! :)

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Shiggybythebay Proud Bay Area Native
08/16/16 9:04 pm

What a bunch of sweet husbands. :)

catpillow Florida West Coast
08/16/16 8:14 pm

I probably wouldn't notice it, but either way I'll just give him a hug and tell him he's a cutie, which he always is in my eyes regardless of his weight. I'm glad I have such a sweet husband.

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SHIPPY1944 Tn.
08/16/16 7:55 pm

Only if asked first, then ask what they think, followed by positive reinforcement. Or take the easy way out & LIE !🙄

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LazySteelworker USA
08/16/16 7:50 pm

You posted this for all those wannabe Libertarians hanging out here didn't ya, you're pretty sly SOH 😂😂😂

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Greenie Social Democrat
08/16/16 7:46 pm

We tease each other about stuff like that all the time. It isn't a big deal to us.

sydwel
08/16/16 7:38 pm

No, that's not really significant and even if it was greater, they wouldn't need me to inform them of their weight gain. They'd be aware.

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GrandmaALiCE Rocky Mtns aerial view
08/16/16 7:28 pm

My husband is very thin, despite a good appetite. He would love to gain 10 pounds, but can't seem to gain, no matter how much he eats. Friends jokingly "accuse" me of not feeding him.

So, if he suddenly gained 10 pounds, I would say something ... "Wow! It looks like you've gained some weight. Great news!"




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HayleyS looking up.
08/16/16 6:58 pm

Only if it were really sudden and really rapid. It isn't normal to gain 10 lbs super quickly without a change of habits.

I'd just want to make sure they were physically and emotionally healthy.

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Praetorianus Fair enough.
08/16/16 6:54 pm

If I notice - since I see them every day, such gradual change may go unnoticed for quite a while.

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camlop San Diego, CA
08/16/16 6:38 pm

I'm a woman, but I'd say something if my bf gained weight. Cuz I'm a shallow dick.

mikeyDe Marine Corps
08/16/16 6:53 pm

Good. Got to be combating the dad bod acceptance movement.

mikeyDe Marine Corps
08/16/16 6:35 pm

You don't need to be as close as a spouse or SO for me to poke some new fat on your body. I would do anybody that favor. 😄

TheFeesher
08/16/16 6:24 pm

Best comment thread on SOH

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EarlyBird Portland
08/16/16 6:20 pm

I would say something in a light, teasing way. And I would expect the same from him.

Someonethirsty A lake
08/16/16 6:19 pm

Yes, especially because they don't exist!

Liberty 4,032,064
08/16/16 6:15 pm

"You're not pregnant are you?"

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BamaGirl ROLL TIDE from Arizona
08/16/16 6:14 pm

"Recently gained 10lbs." - That sounds like a recent, rapid weight gain & if I have not seen a change in eating habits that sounds like a signal of a health issue, so "Yes", I would be concerned & suggest a visit to the doctor.

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sfcren Wyoming
08/16/16 6:11 pm

My wife has serious thyroid problems so fluctuations up and down happen, I dont say anything unless it is positive. I love her no matter what she looks like.❤

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badattitude no place like home
08/16/16 6:02 pm

Men who don't say anything about their wives recent weight gain live longer than those that do. You could just go throw out all the Oreo's and Ho ho's. It's subtle.

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XercesBlue ...
08/16/16 5:52 pm

Yes!! He lost over 100 pounds when he got sick and wishes so bad to gain weight. When he looks like he has gained weight, I let him know as encouragement.


That said... If he was what he normally weighed or higher, I wouldn't say anything (unless he had been working to gain muscle)

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kywrite augusta, ga
08/16/16 5:46 pm

Yes, because my husband has to keep his weight down for military regs and struggles with it. I love him bear-shaped, but the military does not.

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smartfart Florida
08/16/16 5:39 pm

10 pounds? That's all? That's rookie!

...and I'm still keeping my mouth shut.

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shadowedone92 Proletariat Libertarian
08/16/16 5:38 pm

If it was sudden I would out of concern, past that no, my wife's body doesn't change much with 10 pounds, and I'd hate to hurt her feelings.

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CoffeeNow Powderpuff Leftist
08/16/16 5:31 pm

I see some comments in here from men saying they're afraid to broach a topic with their wife/girlfriend because she'd slap them

Imagine if a woman wrote the opposite - "no I wouldn't mention this to my husband. He'd slap me"

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mikeyDe Marine Corps
08/16/16 6:37 pm

There going to let them get fat and just pork a hog for the rest of there lives. Grooooooss.

gonzoboy Arizona
08/16/16 5:30 pm

"Are you pregnant?!"

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CoffeeNow Powderpuff Leftist
08/16/16 5:31 pm

With quintuplets?!!?

mrmc2
08/16/16 5:04 pm

Yeah, I'm shallow like that. She knows it, I told her on day one. That was 27 years ago. I guess honesty does work.

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CoffeeNow Powderpuff Leftist
08/16/16 5:22 pm

Yep. Some people in here are scared of their spouses. That's not healthy

dm0704 Las Vegas, Nevada
08/16/16 5:58 pm

You're damn right they're unhealthy
They're C U C K S