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Marcel94 June 30th, 2013 9:02am

You discover that your wonderful one-year-old child is, because of a mix-up at the hospital, not yours. Would you want to exchange the child to try to correct the "mistake"? If you exchange the one you have, you never see him/her again. Vice versa.

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comppete Las Vegas
06/30/13 10:24 pm

Great question! I asked my Wife the question as well. We both agreed that we would keep the child. Everything happens for a reason.

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comppete Las Vegas
06/30/13 10:25 pm

Besides, the child would not know the difference.

PeppyHare Do a barrel roll
06/30/13 8:25 pm

Depends on which kid is cuter... Lol jk

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Jungle in the dog house
06/30/13 2:26 pm

I'd want to straighten it out for the fear that if not corrected the other family might pop up at any time in the future causing trouble of some sort.

Jeninerd Hoth, AK
06/30/13 1:30 pm

I don't really believe that the biological ability to create a child makes you a parent, but your nurturing and raising a child does. Based on this logic, the child I have been raising is more "mine" than the biological child,

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Jeninerd Hoth, AK
06/30/13 1:30 pm

and I would have little interest in recovering the lost one.

bMyComrade Stumptown
06/30/13 3:33 pm

I agree, you stated my thoughts on the matter quite succinctly.

elianastar Gab.ai FreeSpeech
06/30/13 1:07 pm

To answer the Q, I'd hope to regain my biological baby, but would have bonded to the child I'd been raising. I would *most* hope for a joint relationship w/both kids whether we exchanged bio-babies or not. Hope for sane "alternate family" to discuss.

elianastar Gab.ai FreeSpeech
06/30/13 1:10 pm

Ideally, we could exchange but keep close interaction w/both kids/family to minimize psychological impact on kids. Ideally, it wouldn't have to total "all/nothing" proposition.

pinkyusuck The Carribean. I wish.
06/30/13 12:11 pm

My girl is the spitting image of myself and her mom. Not even a chance she's not ours. But if it happened, I'd try to get them both. I love my little one!

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aurealis the sky
06/30/13 10:28 am

I would want my actual baby. That's my blood sweat and tears. I'd have gone through so much to have that baby, I want him. Maybe I could be friends with the other family so I could see how their baby

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aurealis the sky
06/30/13 10:29 am

(whoops hit submit on accident) is doing and grows up and whatnot, and they could do the same with mine. We could all laugh about it together.

Marcel94 Huntington Beach
06/30/13 11:21 am

That would make sense but on the question you can never see the mistake baby again

aurealis the sky
06/30/13 11:24 am

Oh yeah, well I would still want my actual baby I think. I have no children though so idk haha

chickencookie
06/30/13 10:21 am

Marcel Marcel. Why do you torture me with these unanswerable questions!

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2katz I live in Nebraska
06/30/13 9:10 am

Depends on whether I had been wishing there was a "Lemon Law" for kids.

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jmz1202 Sacramento
06/30/13 8:14 am

If would be a gut wrenching and heart breaking decision.

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Keldeo Laverre City
06/30/13 6:08 am

I would have a conversation with all of the parents and see what they want and for what reasons.

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christine1986
06/30/13 4:26 am

That's a tough question! I would want them both. Lol. I think if I had to choose I would have to keep the baby I knew and loved so much but my heart would always are for my biological baby too.

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barbearnj Dreaming of Banff
06/30/13 4:05 am

Interesting gender difference so far. We women seem to want our biological children more than our men.

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thekoon TX
07/01/13 11:17 am

Except not? You have it completely opposite

GetEduc8d learning more everyday
06/30/13 3:57 am

I'd want to keep "my" baby but if they other family wanted to switch I would. It would be very traumatic for the babies to switch because by 1 year old they've formed an attachment to the family but also hard to grow up....

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GetEduc8d learning more everyday
06/30/13 3:57 am

not feeling like you fit in with the rest of the family. Ugg, such a hard decision.

GetEduc8d learning more everyday
06/30/13 3:13 am

Just another reason to do a homebirth.

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elianastar Gab.ai FreeSpeech
06/30/13 3:36 am

Just one reason our daughter was born @ home :-) ... planned & on purpose.

christine1986
06/30/13 4:27 am

I considered a home birth but I was too worried. How was it?

GetEduc8d learning more everyday
06/30/13 8:19 am

It was absolutely awesome. My midwives are great & my husband was very supportive of it. It was right for us but it's not right for everybody. You have to do your research, find a good midwife, & have a low risk pregnancy (which most women have.)

elianastar Gab.ai FreeSpeech
06/30/13 12:54 pm

What she said. It was the right choice for us, we'd done our research, educated ppl we invited to our home to be nearby (not in room) for delivery, had 2 nurse midwives w/exceptional training/exp & Dr backup, & I was low risk pregnancy.

elianastar Gab.ai FreeSpeech
06/30/13 12:57 pm

It was *labor/birth* anesthesia free, so hesitate to say it was "good" but wouldn't hesitate to do it again! Awesome experience for everyone. Had friend whom I lived to hear play guitar in next room leading other friends in songs I love; soothing!

elianastar Gab.ai FreeSpeech
06/30/13 1:02 pm

Everyone was there immediately to celebrate w/us. We were all home. It was great in every way. The midwives are the key. We were particularly blessed in that dept.

Strength
06/30/13 2:15 am

And I thought it was bad when they give you someone else's food at McDonald's.

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