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Emily33 April 7th, 2016 12:22am

Did you, or would you want to, live with your significant other before you got married?

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LadyA Earth Explorer
04/07/16 7:55 pm

I would definitely live together between engagement and marriage.

getupbaby South City
04/07/16 5:52 am

Nowadays, it seems like a 'must'. Why risk being totally surprised at the pigsty you married into.

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Rosebud Ohio
04/07/16 5:30 am

My husband and I did. We already had a little and even if not, there was no way we could have afforded separate places. It wouldn't have been anywhere near practical.

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TomLaney1 Jesus is Lord
04/07/16 12:33 am

No. The temptation to have premarital sex would be too strong.

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catpillow Florida West Coast
04/06/16 9:22 pm

We lived together a year first. We had very different religious backgrounds and we wanted to see if we could adjust. It worked out fine. I'm glad we did it.

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Kay41 the Midwest
04/06/16 8:24 pm

We chose not to. Worked out great for us. But, I know this is a very personal choice for everyone. To each his own. But, I don't believe the "you have to test drive...." saying. That just isn't true for many people.

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Rosebud Ohio
04/07/16 5:27 am

My husband and I lived together, but I hate that saying. People aren't cars.

TreeHugs Oregon
04/06/16 8:14 pm

Yes. First relationship we learned that we shouldn't be married and the second relationship we learned that we should/could. A test drive is highly recommended in my book!

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voc I am...what I am
04/06/16 7:38 pm

My wife and I didn't live together, although she spent the night at my house most nights before we got married.

TreeHair Wisconsin
04/06/16 7:26 pm

You have to test drive the car before you buy it.

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SwedishBeast Honor the roots
04/06/16 7:24 pm

Yes so you can know if you guys can even live with each other.

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timeout Boston Strong
04/06/16 7:23 pm

Most definitely...

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sydwel
04/06/16 7:13 pm

It's important to me that we do

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donkong Hanoverian
04/06/16 7:10 pm

We shacked together for about 2 years first

leilu SoCal
04/06/16 6:59 pm

No, we didn't want to move in together until after we married. We even bought a house together in January which sat empty until after our wedding in May.

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Kris Humidity Central
04/06/16 6:34 pm

Most definitely would want to live with them first. You really get to know who someone is when you can't escape them and have to inhabit the same space.

I've had to live in a small area with 30 others females all piled in on the ship, and let me tell you, there are some things you find out about people because of the proximity you share that you don't when you just interact in everyday scenarios.

That way I learn about my SO all those "bad" habits we try to cover up in the dating stages like shoving your dirty socks under the chair or not folding laundry for 3 days as it moves from bed to chair to bed to chair, and that is the beauty of it is that you now know all these small things and decide it's fine anyways.

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rlands
04/06/16 6:48 pm

This is so true
Kris between PB&J and this you are being a beacon of inspiration today!

Kris Humidity Central
04/06/16 6:54 pm

I'm just trying to make up for lost time :)

Emily33 North Carolina
04/06/16 6:27 pm

I would like to, but I'm not sure it's an option right now. My boyfriend is required to live on base, unless he is married, or reaches a certain rank.

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Kris Humidity Central
04/06/16 6:35 pm

I'm really out of the loop, what's branch is he in? Is he cute enough for you? Does he love hockey? How long has this been?

If you want to answer of course, long time no see :)

Emily33 North Carolina
04/06/16 6:42 pm

Haha :) He's a marine, definitely cute enough for me, but unfortunately not much of a hockey fan--I'm working on that. We've been dating over a year.

rlands
04/06/16 6:48 pm

OMG you can convert anyone into a hockey fan, fret not. I believe in you ☀️

Emily33 North Carolina
04/06/16 7:04 pm

Haha thanks rlands!

Inge, he's a corporal, currently. He is working on becoming an officer, though. He'll be going to OCS in a couple of months.

inge MIA
04/06/16 7:05 pm

Oh, yeah, it will be hard to live together. Good luck to him! You guys are so cute together.

meb1 somewhere in MN
04/06/16 6:09 pm

Did not, but then we got married in 1976! I'm just not sure I could handle it, but things have changed a lot.

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inge MIA
04/06/16 6:02 pm

I didn't live with my ex before we married. I feel like I want to live with my current boyfriend before we do...but he doesn't agree. He's old fashioned in that he wouldn't want to live with me before. I'm trying to find out if I am okay with that...

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political Georgia
04/06/16 5:59 pm

Of course not! That is way too tempting for us to have sex. No play time until after marriage.

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TheCameron UCF
04/06/16 6:14 pm

God forbid you have a deep emotional intimate connection with the love of your life, BEFORE YOU'RE MARRIED. Totally respect your decision though. :)

rlands
04/06/16 6:19 pm

Then shouldn't like being in a room together alone also be something you stay away from? Idk maybe I'm overthinking it but if you're gonna be tempted living together you're gonna be tempted at other times too?

political Georgia
04/06/16 6:36 pm

Sure, you might be tempted at other times, but there's no need to put yourself in a bad situation.

rlands
04/06/16 6:46 pm

Fair enough!

chinito Florida
04/06/16 6:10 pm

I heard the news too. But oral sex is still prohibited.

rlands
04/06/16 6:20 pm

In Florida?!?! Oops...

chinito Florida
04/06/16 6:30 pm

Yes. Good thing no one breaks that law.

fredd TrumpLand
04/06/16 5:30 pm

I think living together is a great idea. Find out if you're compatible before beforehand. Personally, we couldn't because our relationship crossed international boundaries.

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DrDollylonglegs in the lab... again
04/06/16 5:26 pm

Just moved into our own place together a month ago!

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fredd TrumpLand
04/06/16 5:33 pm

OT, but reading your username, I visualize you with long pieces of wool for legs with little felt feet at the end. Creepy dolls!

Sorry, my wife made me watch a horror movie with dolls in it recently. This is why I don't watch horror movies.