Did you, or would you want to, live with your significant other before you got married?
I would definitely live together between engagement and marriage.
Nowadays, it seems like a 'must'. Why risk being totally surprised at the pigsty you married into.
My husband and I did. We already had a little and even if not, there was no way we could have afforded separate places. It wouldn't have been anywhere near practical.
No. The temptation to have premarital sex would be too strong.
We lived together a year first. We had very different religious backgrounds and we wanted to see if we could adjust. It worked out fine. I'm glad we did it.
We chose not to. Worked out great for us. But, I know this is a very personal choice for everyone. To each his own. But, I don't believe the "you have to test drive...." saying. That just isn't true for many people.
My husband and I lived together, but I hate that saying. People aren't cars.
Yes. First relationship we learned that we shouldn't be married and the second relationship we learned that we should/could. A test drive is highly recommended in my book!
Didn't do it that way.
My wife and I didn't live together, although she spent the night at my house most nights before we got married.
You have to test drive the car before you buy it.
Yes so you can know if you guys can even live with each other.
It's important to me that we do
We shacked together for about 2 years first
No, we didn't want to move in together until after we married. We even bought a house together in January which sat empty until after our wedding in May.
Most definitely would want to live with them first. You really get to know who someone is when you can't escape them and have to inhabit the same space.
I've had to live in a small area with 30 others females all piled in on the ship, and let me tell you, there are some things you find out about people because of the proximity you share that you don't when you just interact in everyday scenarios.
That way I learn about my SO all those "bad" habits we try to cover up in the dating stages like shoving your dirty socks under the chair or not folding laundry for 3 days as it moves from bed to chair to bed to chair, and that is the beauty of it is that you now know all these small things and decide it's fine anyways.
This is so true
Kris between PB&J and this you are being a beacon of inspiration today!
I'm just trying to make up for lost time :)
Welcome back :)
I would like to, but I'm not sure it's an option right now. My boyfriend is required to live on base, unless he is married, or reaches a certain rank.
I'm really out of the loop, what's branch is he in? Is he cute enough for you? Does he love hockey? How long has this been?
If you want to answer of course, long time no see :)
Haha :) He's a marine, definitely cute enough for me, but unfortunately not much of a hockey fan--I'm working on that. We've been dating over a year.
OMG you can convert anyone into a hockey fan, fret not. I believe in you ☀️
What rank is he, em?
Haha thanks rlands!
Inge, he's a corporal, currently. He is working on becoming an officer, though. He'll be going to OCS in a couple of months.
Oh, yeah, it will be hard to live together. Good luck to him! You guys are so cute together.
Did not, but then we got married in 1976! I'm just not sure I could handle it, but things have changed a lot.
I didn't live with my ex before we married. I feel like I want to live with my current boyfriend before we do...but he doesn't agree. He's old fashioned in that he wouldn't want to live with me before. I'm trying to find out if I am okay with that...
Of course not! That is way too tempting for us to have sex. No play time until after marriage.
God forbid you have a deep emotional intimate connection with the love of your life, BEFORE YOU'RE MARRIED. Totally respect your decision though. :)
Then shouldn't like being in a room together alone also be something you stay away from? Idk maybe I'm overthinking it but if you're gonna be tempted living together you're gonna be tempted at other times too?
Sure, you might be tempted at other times, but there's no need to put yourself in a bad situation.
Have plans for it :)
Yep, and now you finally can legally in the state of Florida, no seriously www.orlandosentinel.com/news/politics/political-pulse/os-shacking-up-legal-scott-signs-bill-story.html
I heard the news too. But oral sex is still prohibited.
In Florida?!?! Oops...
Yes. Good thing no one breaks that law.
I think living together is a great idea. Find out if you're compatible before beforehand. Personally, we couldn't because our relationship crossed international boundaries.
Just moved into our own place together a month ago!
OT, but reading your username, I visualize you with long pieces of wool for legs with little felt feet at the end. Creepy dolls!
Sorry, my wife made me watch a horror movie with dolls in it recently. This is why I don't watch horror movies.
Congrats! That's exciting!