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Throwaway77 April 2nd, 2016 6:49pm

A religious person tells a non-religious person who is suffering psychological/emotional trauma that they "hope they find God, because he is the only one who can help them."

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DallasFan
04/02/16 2:00 pm

Is there some backstory to this? Because I am not seeing how this is offensive.

Throwaway77
04/02/16 2:17 pm

I have personally often been told this statement. I think I can see how a religious person may not see it as offensive because it is not directly obvious, but it is passive aggressive statement which seems like it offers help but actually undermines the sufferer and implying the sufferer is at fault for their lack of belief in God. It is completely unhelpful and is a sneaky way of forcing beliefs into a tragic situation. I understand that some people may seriously not realize when they are making these indirect aggressive passes.
Also, on a side note, passive aggression is often left out and forgotten about in its abilities to hurt and manipulate others. (Sociopaths and Narcissists use this technique as their main tactic *not* accusing this statement as sociopathic, it isn't, just noting some facts about passive aggression)

DallasFan
04/02/16 4:05 pm

Ok dude you have to be kidding. It's not passive aggressive, it's saying that God is the answer, and as a Christian, that's what we believe. They gain absolutely nothing if you convert to Christianity, it is out of the kindness of their heart because they want to get you help on earth and after you die. Chances are that you're not going to listen which seems to have happened but they are attempting to help you. There is no conspiracy of it being passive aggressive, it's them telling you God has the answer.

EarlyBird Portland
04/02/16 1:59 pm

Horribly offensive. That is not the time to debate religion.

DallasFan
04/02/16 1:55 pm

Not offensive. They believe that God is the only one that can help them so they say it. God has supernatural powers and it's them saying that they need to look to God for help. The non-religious person will probably find it offensive and not pay attention to the attempted help, but at least they tried.

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biker4life Arizona
04/02/16 1:30 pm

I find it offensive. If you can't offer any sympathy or help, just S.T.F.U. and leave me alone to heal.

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sep
04/02/16 1:27 pm

Very offensive. When someone is suffering you should express concern and sympathy. If appropriate, you offer them help on their terms. You don't use their pain as an opportunity to put down their beliefs (or lack thereof.)

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DallasFan
04/02/16 1:57 pm

That's not putting down their lack of beliefs and that is them trying to help by expressing that they can look to God for help...

sep
04/02/16 3:15 pm

It's not helpful. If you know someone does not believe in God, telling them to look to God for help is disrespectful, particularly if they're in pain.

DallasFan
04/02/16 4:00 pm

It's a Christian's job to try and convert people, that doesn't mean be annoying but they see someone in pain and they know God can help them. They are trying to help the person that is hurting. They have no personal gain from spreading the word of God, it's out of the kindness of their heart because they believe that if you look to God you can get the help you need.

Bobnpt The Ocean State
04/02/16 1:14 pm

Sort of like an atheist telling a dying religious person, "top bad you put for faith in God; look where it got you."

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sfcren Wyoming
04/02/16 1:06 pm

I think in that case it is offensive because the other person hasnt taken the time to understand or help the one in need. Then they just proscribe the cure of, find god.

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Wert A picture of my package
04/02/16 1:02 pm

I wouldn't be as much offended as irritated and probably disappointed.

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CoffeeNow CCP virus
04/02/16 12:45 pm

Im an atheist and I said not offensive. Trigger warning you douches!

rosebud348 Over the rainbow
04/02/16 12:34 pm

Really? Wow. I'm religious and I still think this is disrespectful and offensive. It's wrong for a religious person to claim that God will solve all your problems when that's obviously not true. There will always be suffering in the world, and there's no reason to assume that pain is caused by the absence of God.

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CrzyChica
04/02/16 2:31 pm

Right. Kind of like he prosperity gospel stuff some of them preach. God will make you healthy, rich, and happy, and if you're not, then you must not be praying enough. 😜 Total bull.

lovesquirt Hawkeyes
04/02/16 12:21 pm

There are a few on SOH that would totally say something like that.

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LibArtie SW Connecticut
04/02/16 11:51 am

Totally offensive.

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Throwaway77
04/02/16 12:07 pm

Definitely, it's like a passive aggressive "well it's your fault because you don't have God"

LibArtie SW Connecticut
04/02/16 1:06 pm

Yes. It's presumptive, intrusive and rude. But they don't get that.

Idahologger up north
04/02/16 1:15 pm

Someone offering compassion even if it's not in your beliefs should never be, I thought you libtards were all about peace and love and coexisting....smh

Throwaway77
04/02/16 1:16 pm

Said in a compassionate manner would be different and obviously great, but in this case the statement is passive aggressive