Inspired by the linked article, is porn the "drug" we should be most concerned about?
I have fought with and continue to fight with watching porn. It has had negative effects on me and countless others. It is terrible how easily accessible and common it is in modern society.
It is terrible how easy it is to access today! I hope you win your battle.
I am still processing the information in that article. It appears that the world of sex and sexuality among our youth is a very, very different one than I knew. To the commentors who object to it being characterized as an addiction: educate yourself on the physiological and psychological cascade associated with sexual release. Then do some research on several addictive drugs. They are similar, which is why those drugs are so addictive.
If the information in this article is factually accurate then our society has a very big problem in terms of how women and their bodies are viewed. The present concern about "rape culture" will seem like a prediction, not an overreaction, I fear.
I think there's an element of jealously that people don't talk about. The other stuff is a proxy for it. Generally women don't want you looking at other women. Some are very secure and don't care, but that's not the norm
According to a 2014 article published by the APA, excessive porn use may be more of a compulsion than an addiction. Still having negative effects, but not addiction like drugs or alcohol. Repeated exposure to pornography can desensitize the viewer and make intimate relationships more difficult for men. Surprisingly, it improves the sex lives of women, though.
Here is a link to the article: www.apa.org/monitor/2014/04/pornography.aspx
To clarify, the article says that women watching porn tended to improve their sex lives, not that men watching porn improved the sex lives of women.
True. I should have clarified that.
It's cool. 🙂
I think it is concerning that its how most kids are learning about sex. Porn isnt realistic and is often violent- it skews a kids view on what is normal and what isnt.
Which is exactly the point of the article. 🙂
Totally agree with it. Its part of why I support comprehensive sex ed. Young people should be taught that porn is not reality. My stance on it isnt always popular with "sex positive" colleagues. I also find it problematic that so many use it without bothering to look into how the actors and actresses are treated- often not well. Imo porn in its current state is harmful, and there are a lot of people who bend over backwards to defend it, willing to ignore the ethical concerns others raise.
A lot of porn stars - especially the women, come from abusive homes. This is their way of getting acceptance which is weird in itself.
Unfortunately its quite understandable- and often results in their exploitation by those in the porn industry. Only in porn are such deplorable work conditions acceptable.
Sex is the opiate of the masses.
people do realize its just the pleasure out of watching it right? letting go of your "stress" is natural.
honestly, when i started dating my girlfriend I forgot porn even existed
Did you read the article?
no, but I was just sharing my general thoughts
Okay. I recommend reading the article, too. 🙂
Porn only creates more stress down the road for you, man.
I did not read the article. I do think that the availability of porn to kids today is sickening. I think it twists and affects them in ways they don't know. This is the topic of this week's Time Magazine (which I also did not read). Last week I looked up
A phrase on line which led me to a weird link. And photo. I couldn't close it fast enough. It's disgusting what they do.
Porn is clinically addictive. Go google it and find out if you don't believe it. It causes the release of the same chemicals in the body that sex does. Sexual addiction isn't disputed by the naysayers, but for some reason porn gets a protected status.
There are certainly some negative consequences to the increased availability of porn!
No, you should be concerned about actual drugs that are harmful, like cocaine or alcoholism. Watching porn is not harmful.
Well that's not entirely true. There's a really good documentary called Hot Girls Wanted you should watch. I agree though, it's still not as bad as overdosing and dying.
I would actually argue that it's worse! At least for those addicted or people who struggle to separate reality from what they see on the screen... Because it affects another person... To me that makes it worse!
Yeah, like any business, there is a dark side to the porn industry. But watching it is not necessarily bad. There are actually several reasons why it's good for you. One of the reasons is that it's not that addictive, and it decreases sex crimes.
Did you read the article I linked?
Bama drug abuse greatly affects others as well. All addiction hurts. You can't overdose on porn but try heroin once and you might. I agree porn can be very detrimental but do you think watching porn is worse than dying?
"Because it affects another person"
Typically alcohol and cocaine addictions affect other people
Yes, I think rape or sexual abuse of another is worse. I have had friends & family who have battled drug abuse, so I understand that it impacts others, just not as directly.
Porn can be addictive and frankly the entire industry is pretty disgusting but when I see people dying from heroin I have a hard time saying it's worse...
A friend shared this article on Facebook & said that all parents of children under 18 should read this. Even though I'm not a parent, I decided to read it & it saddened me!
I hate that something that God designed to be about completely giving yourself to another & them giving themselves to you has been so twisted! Healthy relationships are about being partners & selfless with one another! They require safety, trust, respect, & love.
I think all adults need to make sure that people understand that sex is not about just getting somebody off & if it is, that's not a healthy relationship! If that's all they want, there are toys & hookers for that!
I'm not really sure where we lost respect for self & respect for others, but it truly seems to be in hiding at least... Those of us who understand respect need to be more vocal about ensuring that people are respected!
Agreed! Thank you for sharing the article.
Since iPhone 5S users can't see the entirety of my comment. Here is the last sentence:
"I'm not really sure where we lost respect for self & respect for others, but it truly seems to be in hiding at least... Those of us who understand respect need to be more vocal about ensuring that people are respected!"
@susanr here's an example of the text issue we were discussing.
@jaysin586 @tony - this is the thread with the text issue that I emailed about.
You're right, that gets cut off in both orientations for me, on the 5s. And also on the 4s, although one of the cutoff points is different than on the 5s.
Another user on an 6Plus sees it cut off, too, but at different points.
Porn is harmful in more ways than one. It's shocking that feminists embrace it.
There are many feminists that are opposed to it actually. From what I've seen, there seems to be a pretty fair split between those that support and oppose for various reasons.
Feminism is about letting women *choose* what they want to do with their own bodies. If you're telling women they can't be sex workers, you are not being a feminist.
I'll let two feminists argue with each other.
Political, I'm not a feminist if that's what you were implying. The fact that feminists are split on this issue, yet citing mutual reasons for both positions, in my opinion demonstrates the lack of consistency within the ideology. Which is why I brought it up.
I'm not a feminist. I prefer to be called an egalitarian.
Brandon - I am a feminist and I have profound reservations about the "sin"dustry. Please don't generalize or dictate to me what I must or cannot do when it relates to my sociol-political positions.
Link for web users - fightthenewdrug.org/sex-before-kissing-15-year-old-girls-dealing-with-boys/