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Show Of Hands December 17th, 2012 12:00am

Do (or did) you get along well with your mother?

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july475
12/21/12 7:39 am

My mom is a mentally ill alcoholic last week she left a message on my voice mail saying she was going to kill herself then she called the cops on herself and went to the hospital for a week and this is her normal so no I don't like my mom

anTONIarchist FL
12/20/12 1:04 am

My mother revealed to me that she smoked pot- and we have smoked together, which instantly broke out mother-daughter bond. Now I simply can't respect her at all due to constant hypocrisy... Shes also a typical German, as am i so we butt heads frequently. Still, I could NEVER hate my mother.

LilWing00
12/19/12 9:46 pm

I don't think I will ever get along with my mom. I hold too much resentment towards her and I don't respect her. I feel bad ab it but she's let me down too many times to keep caring. I wish I had an awesome relationship with my mom but I guess it wasn't in the cards! Oh well!

kesrn On the Border
12/19/12 6:43 pm

give her a chance. though it might not be her 'plan' for you to be gay, you're still her kid. let her know that seeing how strong of a mom she is has given you strength to be honest with her. good luck!!!!

ladyniner81 Embrace your inner dork
12/19/12 11:47 am

My mom was the complete opposite of my dad. He is a Tea Party "Republican" and my mom was a Liberal Democrat. She died 4 years ago of ALS, and I miss her every day. She was a vibrant, strong, religious woman..She got me to love Hollywood musicals and movies in general.

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dreamitliveit IDLH
12/19/12 7:40 am

Recently stopped talking to my mom. I wish it didn't have to be this way :(

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Bosco7
12/19/12 1:42 am

Amazing book

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bluecanoe
12/18/12 10:43 pm

Thx Annie. Narcissistic traits are definitely a core element of BPD, so I'll check out that book. Appreciate the referral.

Sam95 Nebraska
12/18/12 9:45 pm

I know I'm a complete b**** to her sometimes. And I hate myself for it. Even though we argue, I always know she's right. I'm young, stupid, and have no clue what I'm talking about. She gives me so much and I treat her like crap. She's still there for me and loves me. I have the best mom ever.

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Burned Missouri
12/18/12 8:48 pm

That would make sense but i can understand how many dont get alone but grow up fine

TopsQueen Oregon Coast
12/18/12 8:37 pm

Not really she doted on my brother. He even felt bad for her obvious preference. When I had my own children I felt bad for all she missed out on not enjoying her daughter.

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Grocker
12/18/12 7:07 pm

Ultimately, Mom did the best she could with what she had. Was it the best? Nope. Was it the worst? No. We get along because I've matured, and I have realized that the past doesn't really matter anymore. Very freeing.

tuvwxyz New York
12/18/12 6:53 pm

My mom and I extremely close. Love her so much<3

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kianiwaters Somewhere Over There
12/18/12 6:43 pm

Read the book "A Child Called It".

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kianiwaters Somewhere Over There
12/18/12 6:39 pm

She died but she still 'has' an alcohol problem?

JennaF sunflower state of mind
12/18/12 5:34 pm

I'm so sorry you had to go through that. It's not your fault she made bad decisions!

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JackTorS SOH Flounder
12/18/12 5:32 pm

Between the two, I got along with my mother the least, but I'd say for the majority of the time, we got along.

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Zack100 Tatooine
12/18/12 5:23 pm

Sounds like my mom. Too overbearing and protective.

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frostedchalk warehouse 13
12/18/12 4:53 pm

I have the best mom in the world!

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Ariella LovePeaceNHappiness
12/18/12 4:37 pm

As a spoiled teenager who thought I knew everything about everything, my mom and I butt heads a lot. Now that I am grown, we see each other a bit differently. We are like best friends now. Wish we would've been this close when I was a kid.

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canecorso Las Vegas Nv
12/18/12 4:19 pm

I love my in-laws! Talk to them almost daily. My own mother has to be taken in doses.

satiricalnick meh
12/18/12 2:46 pm

No i think he's referring to the psychopath who killed his mom, then killed a bunch of kids at the school she worked at.

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satiricalnick meh
12/18/12 2:44 pm

You think your moms a milf? You must have moved to oregon from the deep south huh?

mama3
12/18/12 1:22 pm

We get along. She's a bit overbearing and paranoid about safety but she's my mom so I deal with it. Love that lady.

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1427
12/18/12 1:07 pm

Best friends! MIL... Now thats a different story, ha!

4x31r0d
12/18/12 1:01 pm

Nope. My mother is an alcoholic child abuser and I don't need her in my life right now.

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AnnieM The Island
12/18/12 12:35 pm

Thanks blue. The book I read (though it may not fit as many people's situations) Children of the Self-Absorbed. It focuses on how to deal with a narcissistic parent, though the methods in it fit with various personality disorders.

dcool Detroit
12/18/12 12:17 pm

Now. But it took us until I turned 32 to have a good relationship.

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prterri
12/18/12 11:03 am

Yes. She was a fantastic mom and my best friend. I miss her every single day but I know that she's making Heaven a better place by being there. Love you mom!

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DavesNotHere where am I
12/18/12 10:30 am

Yes I did, and I miss her very very much!

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JelloKyari SoCal
12/18/12 9:21 am

Love her more than anything! She has never smoked, cursed, or drank. She's my hero! Love you mommy!!!

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Tony ✋🏻SOH Founder
12/18/12 9:06 am

I believe Pietsch is saying that only a psychopath wouldn't get along with his/her mother. Probably a fair statement, unless ma is the psychopath.

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JanuaryLove
12/18/12 8:50 am

Ouch! What a hurtful thing to say.

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Lumineer
12/18/12 8:39 am

I adore my mother. But if you're looking for any pity, walk the other direction! She's a tough cookie. And she works so hard to support my brother and I / it inspires me.

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gonzoboy Arizona
12/18/12 7:55 am

Love my mama! Under 5' and 100 lbs. soakin' wet. Heard her utter a curse word maybe twice, EVER. (Even then, she quickly caught and 'corrected' herself!) Has never put a cigarette to her lips. Have seen her consume alcohol (Wine/Champagne) maybe a half-dozen times. To me, she's rather Saintly!

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timeout Boston Strong
12/18/12 7:48 am

We had a great relationship. Stay at home mom who Pretty much ran the house. Funny, easy to get along with and a great cook. Gone for some time now I still miss her.

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FIAT2LUX On Planet Earth
12/18/12 7:44 am

Very good relationship with both parents. As parents go, they are AWESOME!

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FIAT2LUX On Planet Earth
12/18/12 7:37 am

But you forget that not everybody has in-laws…

dadstad Texas
12/18/12 7:09 am

I had the greatest Mom in the world. A 4'10" giant! We were always close and talked everyday up to the day she died. An amazing, accomplished, happy, funny, fiercely protective and caring woman.

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Mooo42Q Thats Nucking Futs
12/18/12 6:55 am

We hated eachother when I was a teen. Now we're good friends, but certainly not best friends.

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Burned Missouri
12/18/12 6:33 am

How does that make u a psychopath?

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jmw7477 Indiana
12/18/12 5:47 am

It depends on how you look at it. My grandparents adopted me. I usually get along with my grandma. My biological mother is a different story. If it weren't for my grandmother, I probably wouldn't see her much. Our personalities clash way too much.

gtgconfused
12/18/12 5:04 am

I love her because she's my mother; but, I do not like or respect her or have anything to do with her.....My Mama (step-mother) is wonderful. I'd go to h*ll and back for her.

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outdoorgirl
12/18/12 4:17 am

I am not as close to my mom as I used to be. She has a mental illness that took a serious turn for the worse when I moved out. I love her, and always will but it's kinda more like love from a distance. It has to be that way for me to keep my sanity.

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melaniepro
12/18/12 4:16 am

Now if the question was "do you get along with your Mother In Law" the answer might be different......

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