My mother-in-law. It's always awkward because she's so messed up on meds and crazy that she can't hold a normal conversation, but she's always happy that I come see her.
Had several subjects that you couldn't talk long on your own. They may be medicated and then able to respond. They will enjoy the company. But prepared to be the driving force of every conversation.
I brought my friend their favorite take out food. She said it was much needed. Other than that try to relax and make the conversation no different than you would normally.
Back when my husband was still talking to his mother, we visited her a few times when she was in. (She's been in and out quite a lot.) One time we showed up with copies of Mad and Cracked magazines. She liked reading them. We didn't think about the names possibly being offensive.
However, my husband has stopped talking to most of his family -- for very good reasons. So we don't have to mess with it anymore.
Crack jokes, make a less awkward situation less awkward. It's hard enough being in a place where plastic wrapping the mattress is the norm.
It's not that you should be ignoring that something happened, it's that you should encourage them that things will be normal again. They are getting enough therapy where they're institutionalized. Normalcy is the greatest gift you can give.
Great place to people watch... Cards? Get a game of risk going? Watch a movie? Thumb war? Celebrity gossip? Paper football? The options may be a bit limited.
I don't know what the situation is, but don't be condescending (talking to them like you would a pet) if they are more mentally functional opposed to less
Bring in food if you're allowed. MHP's have to eat a hospital diet despite usually having no dietary restrictions, and real food was always a highlight.
Other than that, try not to look at the clock too much, and do your best to just treat them like you're hanging out at their house.
And talk to them about regular things- don't focus on why they're there. That's usually all people talk about and it ends up being stressful for everyone. See your time with them as their chance to take a break from a very monotonous and therapy oriented routine.
I have visited someone in the mental ward of a regular hospital. Find out what things you're allowed to bring that they might enjoy... Maybe a special treat or something like that.
Just talk to them like you would at home. They are the same person you know, just going through something you most likely cannot understand. Actively listen and give them support, so they know they can count on you.
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