When you were/are single, did/do family members pressure you to date?
They make stupid comments
Yep! And every single time I have to remind them I'm celibate!
I haven't been single since I was 15, so no.
You don't know the struggle.
My grandma never lets me hear the end of it.
The only things my parents ask when I'm not dating someone is if I am dating someone again. It makes more sense if you only talk to your parents once or twice a month.
No, other than my mom commenting once that someone would be "a good catch" for me. I was repelled by the thought of "catching" someone but I don't remember if I told her that. I don't even remember who it was, either.
My mum jokes about it a bit, but they arent overly bothered, neither my mum or dad had boy/ girl friends until they were in their 20s, and that was eachother
Even when I am they are -_-
I don't know about dating, but they want me to get married. Does that count?
No, but my mom told me about this young lady at church that Mom really liked and thought I should take note of her, and Mom added she also has really good legs.
I married her 43 years ago.
Family members didn't, but friends did. One of them tricked me into joining a dating site, saying she would if I would. Now, I'm so thankful she tricked me! Typically though, I hated the comments that pushed me to date.
A little, but it's more my friends who tell me those things.
Nah, but they might have if I was single. But I married my high school sweet heart.
Oh yeah! I was a single 27 year old Mormon girl. There was always the pressure, the barrage of questions about liking someone, & the set-ups. Blah!! I will never do that to my boys.
Yay for cool moms! Haha. I don't think my mom gets it because she married her high school sweetheart when she was 19...she never got this kind of pressure from anyone.
It's funny because she used to always say "don't get married young" and now she's like "maybe I was wrong...you should go on dates." I appreciate the advice but I don't think she gets that I'm still going to make my own decisions either way.
You need to, though. When the time is right, you'll meet someone. It's always nice that people care and want you to be happy, they just need to give you space to find that happiness.
Yes my parents do! Because they assume I can't move on from my old girlfriend I dated for 2 or so years and that's the reason I've been single for over a year. But really, I'm just uninterested in the whole dating thing right now
I had relatives ask me if I was gay because I was 19 and single. No, it was just because I was fat and homely. It did put a lot of pressure on me and I made bad choices out of low self esteem.
Somewhat, they constantly asked me why I wasn't dating a guy, and referred to my girlfriends as my friends. They eventually got over that though, thankfully!
No, my folks were awesome about this! Other non-relative adults...they were more likely to pressure me.
Quite the opposite actually. My parents would probably be really mad at me if they found out I have a thing going on with this girl from my school, regardless of if I told them or not about it. What should I do about this though?
Are you not supposed to be dating. How old are you?
My parents and siblings keep asking when I'm going to ask the girl i like to go out with me but I just say i will when i think the time is right
And that's just what you should do, IMO. Only you know when the time is really right.
And yet at the same time I feel like I should ask asap before someone else does
I agree with org. I'm also loving the sequence of your two locations on here. 😂
Whose two locations?
You and org. "Back to work" and "anticipation "
Oh that location
Veggie - how funny is that? Pedwin is probably anticipating his date with the girl he likes, and I had a job interview this morning. Our comments apply both ways!
Yeah you're probably right org
The fact that someone may ask her out before you is the risk you take. But if you aren't ready, it's going to be harder to be confident and more relaxed when you ask her. Find the right time, grab a few seconds of courage, and go for it.
Dang! How did it go?
Basically it went very well, but it was a marathon! First about a half hour interview with a panel of four. Then to another room for an "open forum" of 8 or 9 questioners. Last, to a cubicle for a job-related written exercise. You would think
they were hiring the president! It was at a local university. I had one last week at another university, too. That was good too, but doesn't pay as well. I've got a few more apps out there that I also hope to get something out of. We'll see...
Thanks for asking!😎
Wow! Sounds like a job search at a university. I used to be on search and screens, they take forever! I hope you get something!! Good luck on your other interviews!
Thanks!! It was the first one like that for me.
Interesting, I have faith in you! 😎
Thanks - are you job hunting?
I finally got my computer back!! So I'm going to start. I started my application for teach for America. I'm gonna buckle down!
That sounds great! Yeah, it's pretty hard to find a decent job w/out a computer! Would you be getting a teaching credential?
I would have to. Idk where I'd teach yet, so I'd have to look at what they require. I hope it wouldn't be too bad! I have a good gpa haha
If I could do it, you can do it. There are a lot of hassles that go with being a teacher, but if you really like it, the rewards might be enough.
Yeah, I wanted to try it! I've always enjoyed teaching, so maybe it'll work!
I think you'd make a good teacher avegetarian
Thank you! Hopefully something works out!
Yes, but I was just more stubborn than they were, and only went out with who I wanted to.
People are like, "is there a special guy?" And I say no. They look sad, and say, "well is there a someone?" I seem very sad to them. All of my cousins are engaged, and I'm single.
Arrrrggghhh! Sorry, this is a sore subject with me. Everybody has their own timetable for this. Do not let anyone conform you to theirs! You, in particular, need not be pressured into a relationship that is not of your own choosing. You have
so much going for you: you are smart, beautiful, fun, gracious, etc., etc. Unless all the guys in Wisconsin are either blind or just plain stupid, someone will find you, and vice versa. It will happen. Don't force it. Let it happen. End of lecture.
Thank you!! That was seriously so nice! It's kind of annoying, but I'd rather not settle! I'm just going to keep on staying in my lane. Thanks again! You're a real superstar.
I'm also thrifty? Isn't that a plus? 😜
a) You're welcome!
b) Exactly. Do not settle. You have lots of life ahead of you.
c) Lol - thrifty does help. And so does having a cool dog!
d) If they're asking, tell them, yeah, you've got a guy on SOH. His name is org. They can deal with it.😎😍
Haha I love it! Maybe I'll have to start bringing around my dog! 😂
I'll definitely say, "mess with me, and I'll get my boy org!" Hahaha
Hey, for all you do for Logan, he owes you one! "my boy org" - yup, that works for me!!👍
Hahahaha he does! For the tennis balls I've sacrificed!
Haha I'm glad you like it!
I'm so sick of this. My uncle just tried to set me up on a date and my mom and dad keep telling me to find someone to date. Just let me do what I want!
Don't let yourself be pressured! It's your life, your timetable.
Thank you! That's exactly what I think as well. And don't worry, I don't let myself be pressured...I tend to push back haha. I can be a bit stubborn. 😋
Good for you. On some things, you just have to stand your ground. My kids aren't quite your age yet, but I haven't, and won't pressure them. I know what that pressure was like.
Off topic. Do you work on campus, Kim? I'm sitting in the wilkinson center wondering if you're around yet. School doesn't start until next week though, right?
Ha! That's awesome! I do work on-campus but I'm at my apartment right now. School starts the week after next. What are you in town for?