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Kimbobee August 17th, 2015 8:17pm

When you were/are single, did/do family members pressure you to date?

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BenedictPius Pennsylvania
08/17/15 9:49 pm

Yep! And every single time I have to remind them I'm celibate!

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jmw7477 Indiana
08/17/15 7:23 pm

I haven't been single since I was 15, so no.

arttie123 Progressive Independent
08/17/15 6:41 pm

You don't know the struggle.

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dale41 Lets play two
08/17/15 5:42 pm

My grandma never lets me hear the end of it.

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culturati
08/17/15 4:55 pm

The only things my parents ask when I'm not dating someone is if I am dating someone again. It makes more sense if you only talk to your parents once or twice a month.

susanr Colorado
08/17/15 4:34 pm

No, other than my mom commenting once that someone would be "a good catch" for me. I was repelled by the thought of "catching" someone but I don't remember if I told her that. I don't even remember who it was, either.

17millionTwats Leeds, UK
08/17/15 3:46 pm

My mum jokes about it a bit, but they arent overly bothered, neither my mum or dad had boy/ girl friends until they were in their 20s, and that was eachother

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MJSeals J.D.
08/17/15 3:45 pm

Even when I am they are -_-

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trav Instagram, travisdover
08/17/15 3:23 pm

I don't know about dating, but they want me to get married. Does that count?

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DonWichita Kansas
08/17/15 3:05 pm

No, but my mom told me about this young lady at church that Mom really liked and thought I should take note of her, and Mom added she also has really good legs.
I married her 43 years ago.
Thanks mom.

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alynn Somewhere wonderful
08/17/15 2:56 pm

Family members didn't, but friends did. One of them tricked me into joining a dating site, saying she would if I would. Now, I'm so thankful she tricked me! Typically though, I hated the comments that pushed me to date.

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SaintAnger sumkindamonster
08/17/15 2:46 pm

A little, but it's more my friends who tell me those things.

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MrChris80 California
08/17/15 2:41 pm

Nah, but they might have if I was single. But I married my high school sweet heart.

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imanag My heaven on Earth
08/17/15 2:38 pm

Oh yeah! I was a single 27 year old Mormon girl. There was always the pressure, the barrage of questions about liking someone, & the set-ups. Blah!! I will never do that to my boys.

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Kimbobee the middle of nowhere
08/17/15 2:50 pm

Yay for cool moms! Haha. I don't think my mom gets it because she married her high school sweetheart when she was 19...she never got this kind of pressure from anyone.

Kimbobee the middle of nowhere
08/17/15 2:50 pm

It's funny because she used to always say "don't get married young" and now she's like "maybe I was wrong...you should go on dates." I appreciate the advice but I don't think she gets that I'm still going to make my own decisions either way.

imanag My heaven on Earth
08/17/15 3:03 pm

You need to, though. When the time is right, you'll meet someone. It's always nice that people care and want you to be happy, they just need to give you space to find that happiness.

Tyler95 Wisconsin
08/17/15 2:32 pm

Yes my parents do! Because they assume I can't move on from my old girlfriend I dated for 2 or so years and that's the reason I've been single for over a year. But really, I'm just uninterested in the whole dating thing right now

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MrsCrayonWax
08/17/15 2:27 pm

I had relatives ask me if I was gay because I was 19 and single. No, it was just because I was fat and homely. It did put a lot of pressure on me and I made bad choices out of low self esteem.

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qwerty13
08/17/15 2:21 pm

Somewhat, they constantly asked me why I wasn't dating a guy, and referred to my girlfriends as my friends. They eventually got over that though, thankfully!

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BamaGirl ROLL TIDE from Arizona
08/17/15 1:52 pm

No, my folks were awesome about this! Other non-relative adults...they were more likely to pressure me.

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cognocity
08/17/15 1:42 pm

Quite the opposite actually. My parents would probably be really mad at me if they found out I have a thing going on with this girl from my school, regardless of if I told them or not about it. What should I do about this though?

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MrsCrayonWax
08/17/15 2:28 pm

Are you not supposed to be dating. How old are you?

pedwingeorge Benson IL
08/17/15 1:35 pm

My parents and siblings keep asking when I'm going to ask the girl i like to go out with me but I just say i will when i think the time is right

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orgblu10 Shamerica
08/17/15 2:09 pm

And that's just what you should do, IMO. Only you know when the time is really right.

pedwingeorge Benson IL
08/17/15 2:19 pm

And yet at the same time I feel like I should ask asap before someone else does

anniepoops wisco fever
08/17/15 2:23 pm

I agree with org. I'm also loving the sequence of your two locations on here. 😂

anniepoops wisco fever
08/17/15 2:35 pm

You and org. "Back to work" and "anticipation "

pedwingeorge Benson IL
08/17/15 2:38 pm

Oh that location

orgblu10 Shamerica
08/17/15 2:38 pm

Veggie - how funny is that? Pedwin is probably anticipating his date with the girl he likes, and I had a job interview this morning. Our comments apply both ways!

pedwingeorge Benson IL
08/17/15 2:41 pm

Yeah you're probably right org

orgblu10 Shamerica
08/17/15 2:48 pm

The fact that someone may ask her out before you is the risk you take. But if you aren't ready, it's going to be harder to be confident and more relaxed when you ask her. Find the right time, grab a few seconds of courage, and go for it.

anniepoops wisco fever
08/17/15 3:02 pm

Dang! How did it go?

orgblu10 Shamerica
08/17/15 3:07 pm

Basically it went very well, but it was a marathon! First about a half hour interview with a panel of four. Then to another room for an "open forum" of 8 or 9 questioners. Last, to a cubicle for a job-related written exercise. You would think

orgblu10 Shamerica
08/17/15 3:09 pm

they were hiring the president! It was at a local university. I had one last week at another university, too. That was good too, but doesn't pay as well. I've got a few more apps out there that I also hope to get something out of. We'll see...

anniepoops wisco fever
08/17/15 3:15 pm

Wow! Sounds like a job search at a university. I used to be on search and screens, they take forever! I hope you get something!! Good luck on your other interviews!

orgblu10 Shamerica
08/17/15 3:18 pm

Thanks!! It was the first one like that for me.

anniepoops wisco fever
08/17/15 3:20 pm

Interesting, I have faith in you! 😎

orgblu10 Shamerica
08/17/15 3:26 pm

Thanks - are you job hunting?

anniepoops wisco fever
08/17/15 3:27 pm

I finally got my computer back!! So I'm going to start. I started my application for teach for America. I'm gonna buckle down!

orgblu10 Shamerica
08/17/15 4:17 pm

That sounds great! Yeah, it's pretty hard to find a decent job w/out a computer! Would you be getting a teaching credential?

anniepoops wisco fever
08/17/15 4:43 pm

I would have to. Idk where I'd teach yet, so I'd have to look at what they require. I hope it wouldn't be too bad! I have a good gpa haha

orgblu10 Shamerica
08/17/15 4:46 pm

If I could do it, you can do it. There are a lot of hassles that go with being a teacher, but if you really like it, the rewards might be enough.

anniepoops wisco fever
08/17/15 5:09 pm

Yeah, I wanted to try it! I've always enjoyed teaching, so maybe it'll work!

pedwingeorge Benson IL
08/17/15 7:17 pm

I think you'd make a good teacher avegetarian

anniepoops wisco fever
08/17/15 7:28 pm

Thank you! Hopefully something works out!

orgblu10 Shamerica
08/17/15 1:33 pm

Yes, but I was just more stubborn than they were, and only went out with who I wanted to.

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anniepoops wisco fever
08/17/15 1:22 pm

People are like, "is there a special guy?" And I say no. They look sad, and say, "well is there a someone?" I seem very sad to them. All of my cousins are engaged, and I'm single.

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orgblu10 Shamerica
08/17/15 1:40 pm

Arrrrggghhh! Sorry, this is a sore subject with me. Everybody has their own timetable for this. Do not let anyone conform you to theirs! You, in particular, need not be pressured into a relationship that is not of your own choosing. You have

orgblu10 Shamerica
08/17/15 1:43 pm

so much going for you: you are smart, beautiful, fun, gracious, etc., etc. Unless all the guys in Wisconsin are either blind or just plain stupid, someone will find you, and vice versa. It will happen. Don't force it. Let it happen. End of lecture.

anniepoops wisco fever
08/17/15 1:48 pm

Thank you!! That was seriously so nice! It's kind of annoying, but I'd rather not settle! I'm just going to keep on staying in my lane. Thanks again! You're a real superstar.

I'm also thrifty? Isn't that a plus? 😜

orgblu10 Shamerica
08/17/15 2:04 pm

a) You're welcome!
b) Exactly. Do not settle. You have lots of life ahead of you.
c) Lol - thrifty does help. And so does having a cool dog!
d) If they're asking, tell them, yeah, you've got a guy on SOH. His name is org. They can deal with it.😎😍

anniepoops wisco fever
08/17/15 2:18 pm

Haha I love it! Maybe I'll have to start bringing around my dog! 😂

I'll definitely say, "mess with me, and I'll get my boy org!" Hahaha

orgblu10 Shamerica
08/17/15 2:35 pm

Hey, for all you do for Logan, he owes you one! "my boy org" - yup, that works for me!!👍

anniepoops wisco fever
08/17/15 2:38 pm

Hahahaha he does! For the tennis balls I've sacrificed!

Haha I'm glad you like it!

Kimbobee the middle of nowhere
08/17/15 1:18 pm

I'm so sick of this. My uncle just tried to set me up on a date and my mom and dad keep telling me to find someone to date. Just let me do what I want!

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orgblu10 Shamerica
08/17/15 1:35 pm

Don't let yourself be pressured! It's your life, your timetable.

Kimbobee the middle of nowhere
08/17/15 2:13 pm

Thank you! That's exactly what I think as well. And don't worry, I don't let myself be pressured...I tend to push back haha. I can be a bit stubborn. 😋

orgblu10 Shamerica
08/17/15 2:17 pm

Good for you. On some things, you just have to stand your ground. My kids aren't quite your age yet, but I haven't, and won't pressure them. I know what that pressure was like.

AbandonedAccnt Not here.
08/17/15 3:25 pm

Off topic. Do you work on campus, Kim? I'm sitting in the wilkinson center wondering if you're around yet. School doesn't start until next week though, right?

Kimbobee the middle of nowhere
08/17/15 3:27 pm

Ha! That's awesome! I do work on-campus but I'm at my apartment right now. School starts the week after next. What are you in town for?