A spouse should make you 1. Feel good about yourself, or 2. Want to work harder to better yourself
Both are very important
OPTION 3. get a divorce!
My spouse is my rock. No matter what the hell I do. She's there for me.
1 will automatically incur 2 if done correctly.
Definitely both. They should make you feel good as you are yet also inspire you to be the best you that you can be.