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NoRelation July 29th, 2015 11:51pm

Is it too late for a 30-year-old married mother of two to join the army and chase her dreams?

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presrvd Phoenix
07/29/15 5:49 pm

If you're concerned for family integrity, and minimizing change, you might consider the Reserves or National Guard.....

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mikeey1962 on SOH where else
07/29/15 5:43 pm

Yes, i think the cut off is 35.. Good luck......

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mikeey1962 on SOH where else
07/29/15 7:40 pm

Army 35, Navy 34, Marines 28, Air Force 39

Odysseus We All Need A Fantasy
07/29/15 5:35 pm

I feel for your kids but it might be best if you do it. It would be better than resenting them for keeping you from your dreams. If you can trust the care of your children to someone, then do it. Commit to the service and then commit to your kids.

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alkie New York
07/29/15 5:34 pm

Simple answer, yes.

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07/29/15 5:24 pm

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cdawg Colorado
07/29/15 5:38 pm

You can join the army and still be by your kids side. Not every person in the army goes over seas and sees battle all the time.!

NoRelation Arizona
07/29/15 5:40 pm

If it helps, I clarified below that they're my step children. I didnt choose to reproduce but I did choose to become their parent by marrying their mother so I still take responsibility for them

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NoRelation Arizona
07/29/15 6:15 pm

I was trying keep it hypothetical but it turned personal pretty quickly because of clarification needed to give a true opinion.

swervin Maryland
07/29/15 5:21 pm

The hardest thing I have to do is leave my wife and son for months at a time. I wouldn't suggest anyone who already has kids do it. If I wasn't half way to retirement, I wouldn't stay in.

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Zod Above Pugetropolis
07/29/15 5:08 pm

The upper age limit is 35, for the Army, but before signing up you probably should reconsider whether being in the Army really is living the dream. I wouldn't discourage you, but strongly suggest you learn everything you can about it first.

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rickvee Living the dream
07/29/15 5:07 pm

You can enlist up to age 35 (if the limit is still the same). But I would recommend against it seeing as how you're married with children. I know how stressful military life is, I was an active duty Marine.

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rlands
07/29/15 5:02 pm

I wouldn't advise it at all because of the kids...but if the mother had arrangements set up for her children to be cared for in a loving and responsible home, she can do what she pleases.

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BetweenRivers
07/29/15 5:02 pm

If they're small children, wait a while. If they're older, go ahead.

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NoRelation Arizona
07/29/15 5:23 pm

I'd like to hear your opinion so here's some clarification: they're 4 and 7 and technically are my step children but have lived with me for 4 years. The father was deported and their mother is my wife. Too young?

BetweenRivers
07/29/15 5:25 pm

Yes. The four year old would likely not understand, and the seven year old probably would barely be grasping it. When they hit teens and preteens, they're old enough.

EarlyBird Portland
07/29/15 4:59 pm

Although I like to see people follow their dreams, I think when there are small children at home, they should come first.

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Kay41 the Midwest
07/29/15 5:06 pm

I agree completely!

LadyBug237 Florida
07/29/15 5:11 pm

I'm with these two^

EarlyBird Portland
07/29/15 5:13 pm

Well this is a nice group :)

NoRelation Arizona
07/29/15 5:15 pm

This is where I'm torn. Does one stay at home for the kids and teach them that your dreams stop when you have a family or go after them and teach the kids its never too late?

EarlyBird Portland
07/29/15 5:17 pm

You never let the kids know they stopped you from chasing your dreams.

NoRelation Arizona
07/29/15 5:26 pm

LOL didja keep that secret to yourself or did your children figure it out?

kennabenena life is a blonde moment
07/29/15 4:52 pm

I don't think it's too late, but do you really want to do that to your kids?

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NoRelation Arizona
07/29/15 5:08 pm

No, I dont want to but I also dont want them to see me in my increasing unhappiness with my work life. I'm not talking about going off to war, the hopes would be to come back from training and work on a local base but of course anything could happen

RebelProud Bungholio
07/29/15 5:15 pm

I may be wrong but I don't think you get to choose where you are stationed. That might mean moving and changing schools for your kids.

RebelProud Bungholio
07/29/15 5:16 pm

I think you can request certain bases but their are no guarantees. You go where the army needs you.

swervin Maryland
07/29/15 5:19 pm

You DO NOT get to chose where you go. You can where they need you.