Your 16 year old daughter wants to go on a date with an 18 year old guy. Does his age influence your decision?
As long as both parties are consenting, love is love
Its really hard being 16 or 17 and looking for a man. Either you want an immature boy who, odds are is younger than you and has a pre pubescent boy, or a man that's 19 or 20 that is maturethen it automatically becomes a legal issue for the next year.
If he was 18 and already a high school graduate and my daughter was 16 and a high school sophomore (very possible), I'd be hesitant because of the maturity difference. However, if he's an 18-year-old senior and she's a 16-year-old junior, no biggie.
A lot would depend on how they met and what the boy was like as an individual.
By age 16 you have hopefully talked to her about boys or you better hurry up before you become a grandparent. I really doubt you can dictate who she can go out with, it just doesn't work anymore.
His age isn't as important as her age. 16 is too young.
16 is too young to go out?
Yes. As a couple on a date. There are some people who meet as teens that end up staying together. Mostly teen romances are short. I know 1 year doesn't sound like it would make a difference but 17, perfect age to start.
My girlfreind and I are a year and a month apart, as a February well be 16 and 18 for about 3 weeks. It's not that big of a deal.
I'm going into my senior year and she's going into her junior year.
Be careful. Now you can get into big trouble, if you know what I mean.
I'd be more okay with it if he was still in high school, I'm 16 and I would likely not go out with someone who wasn't because my friend did and it was so awkward for the rest of us.
Females are often more mature (on average) than males around that age, and 2 years is not something to really worry about anyway.
Daughters maturity would be more important to me...
Most of you all mentioning the age difference. That is a sophomore in highschool dating someone who has a graduated. Depending on birthdays, but you get the idea of a scenario
Absolutely not. The answer is "no".
Two years is nothing. Why would I care
Age, no. Personality and manners might be a factor but 2 year age gap, no.
But then again I never let my foster kid date anyone I didn't meet first.
I'd sit down and explain all the issues with dating an 18yo who wants to date a 16yo and my daughter would probably lose interest in him.
You'd be doing that for every guy your daughter is interested.
Yeah, but there would be a lot more character assassination going on in this scenario.
Can I be your lawyer if this happens?
I won't need one. I'm not going on a public campaign.
Although I may need a lawyer if I leave any evidence at the crime scene.
Good! I will have to charge for SOH conversations because time is money.
You could charge everyone in the same thread for each post you make. Lawyers love stacking up billable time like that.
The law does...
There's usually a 2 year window or a provision for high school students.
Not a fan. Why is a college bound guy interested in a high schooler?
They could still be a high school senior.😈
He's still college bound, though.
Not many college freshmen want to be tethered to a high school girl.
Why does an 18 year old guy automatically turn into a "college bound guy?" Not every 18 year old is going to go go college.
For crying out loud. The author of this poll is an 18 year old, college bound guy.
Not really. I don't think it's a significant difference.
Agree depending on when their birthdays are
It's a major factor, but it mostly depends on who the guy is. I'd ask to meet him first.
It does and that answer is no.
I would have to have an interview him, just a friendly know his mindset and then yeah
Only if she was mature for her age and I met the guy first. He would also have to be mature and well mannered.
It depends on the maturity of my daughter and I would need to meet the guy. Most likely it would be fine.
Wouldn't that be for all dating partners regardless of the person's age?
Hell to the no.
If I know she is responsible I'd let her go
2 years isn't much of a difference
Nah, it's fine.
That the age me and the bride started dating. married 2.5 yrs later. That was in 1961
2 years difference? No, it doesn't have any influence.
If the age of consent 16, then fine, although I wouldn't want them to be having sex so soon. I'm more worried about who the guy is as a person than his age.
It depends on the guy. If I don't know him, then yeah, it's a factor. If this is a guy that she's grown up with or a kid from our youth group or something then I don't have an issue.
Ehhhhhhh, no. I would've had to known the boy & his family for years. Same if my son was 18 & wanting to date a 16 yr old. My probation officer doesn't like too much drama for this llama.
*racks a round into the shotgun*
Any more questions.
Age would not have an impact. And I wouldn't call it "my decision," but I of course would want to have an open dialogue with my child about healthy relationships.
My decision? About what? My daughter would make her own decisions.
You won't be involved in your kid's relationships?
Go ahead and try to tell a 16 year old girl she's "not allowed" to see somebody they like. I'm sure it'll work.
It can if the parent is firm.
Laserbeam likes the "raised by wolves" method of child rearing. A very hands off approach. Like really hands off. Like another state & changed name because there's a warrant for back child support kinda hands off.
Your scenario depicts a sophomore/junior dating a senior/recent grad. Is that really a big deal?
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You have to give your kids room to make mistakes on their own. Sheltering them until adulthood does them no favors.
No, if they're only two years apart at that age I'm fine
Fucking Pedophile! Back the Fuck Off, or I will shoot your balls off Creep!
That's probably what you would say about any guy wanting to date your daughter. :)
If The Lord blesses me with a daughter in the future, I will be the same way.
I'm not a parent, but that's only two years apart. As long as he is a good person, I think it's fine.
I don't know if it's the age difference that would be the issue, but more the fact that he's a legal adult & she isn't...
My imaginary daughter hopefully won't be engaging in sex, so I don't think I would have a problem.
True. That's not exactly what I was thinking of. (Don't ask what I was thinking of because I don't know) 😅