Have you ever been to a counselor or psychologist of any sort? (If so, there's a 2nd question in the comments)
Yes, for many years. I don't go now but its a comfort to know that if I want to go back to therapy, its just a phone call and appointment away
I didn't read all the comments because I am heading to bed, but just know you may not click or like the first therapist you try. Don't give up on therapy, just try another. God bless you!
I have not been to one before, other than priest. I need to schedule one though.
I have however worked with quite a few. It all depends on what you are looking for. If its an eval type or someone neutral to talk to. Either way.. Just talk. Easy
Not unless you consider JESUS a counselor.
Just request an appointment as you would for any doctor. If you make an appointment with an ObGyn, they are not going to expect you to be there for your feet 8).
The counselor will ask for more information if he or she needs it. At this stage you are simply asking for availability.
I'd be very to the point. I would like to come in and talk with you about some issues I'm having. I'd be very broad and not specific at all.
Just like a good doctor will do...he or she will ask you what brings you in.
How do you talk to them? I mean I know it sounds like a stupid question but I'm trying to send an email to one requesting a visit but I don't know what to say. I can't open up that easily about my problems without being asked. (Other than on SOH 💖)
Not sure how to answer that, but if it's just asking for an appointment; ask the same way you would when scheduling an appointment with anybody. Personally, I'd call, or better yet go see them in person to schedule. I prefer human to human contact.
In regards to you having trouble about opening up about your problems, you shouldn't do that over email. That should be in person. You're going to want to look for a therapist that asks you first and initiates the conversation. I've had a few...
Well I guess I should ask, how does it work? I mean does she ask you specific questions or do you just talk and she listens? Maybe that's the better question
Therapists that essentially sit there and stare at me and wait for me to talk. Needless to say they didn't work out. You're going to have to pry the information out of me in the beginning, but once I'm comfortable with you; I'll give that willingly
she'll ask questions and you answer and she might ask you to elaborate on your answers. you can also tell her you aren't sure what you're supposed to do and she will help guide you. at least mine did the first session
I too did much better with someone who asked questions so it was more of a conversation, rather than me just talking to a statue. Remember that most people are going for the first time, and they all start not knowing what to say. So don't worry.
Keep in mind too that a therapist is kind of like a doctor. Meaning sometimes the first one you see isn't the right fit for you. So, if you feel after a few sessions that you are not getting enough out if it, I would suggest trying another.
I would just email the person and request counseling maybe just say that you're having marital issues... You really don't have to tell him anything in the email.
A lot of good advice here. I can't improve on it.
I'm so happy you are taking this step. I've had counseling twice.
You will asked open ended questions. She will want to know why you're here for sure. She will help you explore your own thoughts and feelings.
Most likely you'll be asked about your relationship with your parents. And a few things like that. I'm so thankful you are going.
Thanks guys...we had another really bad night last night so I'll be going as soon as we get a few pay checks in
"so I'll be going as soon as we get a few pay checks in"
Does your husband have a job now?
Yes see my last poll.