To build quality friendships, we not only have to look for the right person, we also have to BE the right person. If we want to be happy, we have to give ourselves away and look for ways to make others happy.
I won't bother you, if you don't bother me.
So does this mean you prefer to be lonely?
This is a Virtue of Selfishness.
Actually just the opposite. How is seeking ways to give of yourself selfish?
It's selfish, rather the Virtue of Selfishness.
Look it up, study it and then respond.
The only way I know how to make friends is to try to act humorous, "play it cool," and by kind to a degree
I'm actually in a very weird place right now with this
You have to be the person who the person you are looking for is looking for.
That's easy for you to say...er, type!
Not mine. I should have credited it to Andy Stanley. It's great dating advice.
Too much emphasis is placed on friendships. Learn how to be happy with just yourself.
I think the world would be a better place if we focus less on ourselves, our preferences and how much we need and actively look where we can serve, love, and meet others needs.
Too many people look to others for their happiness. You need to be comfortable by yourself. You need to take care of yourself.
A great way to put it.
"Howdy do me, watch me smile"
I agree with everything except giving yourself away. That seems dangerous to your own emotional health but I could be misinterpreting the meaning.
Obviously we can't MAKE someone happy, but if we are open to those around us and be aware of each other's needs, we might surprise someone with an unexpected gift of ourselves (serving in some way) and find a new friend.
I agree. If that's the meaning, it's a beautiful thing to do for someone. Those gifts are the ones to treasure.
Exactly, make someone happy, even if you have to leave to do it!