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sdbrev210 March 19th, 2015 1:47pm

To build quality friendships, we not only have to look for the right person, we also have to BE the right person. If we want to be happy, we have to give ourselves away and look for ways to make others happy.

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jvc1133 61535
03/21/15 7:50 am

I won't bother you, if you don't bother me.

sdbrev210 The Pursuit of Happiness
03/22/15 12:36 am

So does this mean you prefer to be lonely?

TheeCourt Realville
03/19/15 11:55 pm

This is a Virtue of Selfishness.

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sdbrev210 The Pursuit of Happiness
03/21/15 3:04 pm

Actually just the opposite. How is seeking ways to give of yourself selfish?

TheeCourt Realville
03/21/15 8:47 pm

It's selfish, rather the Virtue of Selfishness.
Look it up, study it and then respond.

TheIndian Virgo Supercluster
03/19/15 9:29 pm

The only way I know how to make friends is to try to act humorous, "play it cool," and by kind to a degree

TheIndian Virgo Supercluster
03/19/15 9:30 pm

I'm actually in a very weird place right now with this

ronderman North Carolina
03/19/15 1:37 pm

You have to be the person who the person you are looking for is looking for.

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sdbrev210 The Pursuit of Happiness
03/19/15 3:00 pm

That's easy for you to say...er, type!

ronderman North Carolina
03/19/15 6:53 pm

Not mine. I should have credited it to Andy Stanley. It's great dating advice.

jmw7477 Indiana
03/19/15 11:39 am

Too much emphasis is placed on friendships. Learn how to be happy with just yourself.

sdbrev210 The Pursuit of Happiness
03/19/15 3:01 pm

I think the world would be a better place if we focus less on ourselves, our preferences and how much we need and actively look where we can serve, love, and meet others needs.

jmw7477 Indiana
03/19/15 3:06 pm

Too many people look to others for their happiness. You need to be comfortable by yourself. You need to take care of yourself.

Torfin Never Behind
03/19/15 9:56 am

A great way to put it.

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TierasPet
03/19/15 8:05 am

I agree with everything except giving yourself away. That seems dangerous to your own emotional health but I could be misinterpreting the meaning.

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sdbrev210 The Pursuit of Happiness
03/19/15 3:04 pm

Obviously we can't MAKE someone happy, but if we are open to those around us and be aware of each other's needs, we might surprise someone with an unexpected gift of ourselves (serving in some way) and find a new friend.

TierasPet
03/19/15 4:47 pm

I agree. If that's the meaning, it's a beautiful thing to do for someone. Those gifts are the ones to treasure.

mikeey1962 on SOH where else
03/19/15 6:52 am

Exactly, make someone happy, even if you have to leave to do it!