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ronderman March 15th, 2015 2:43am

I went to my first gay bar tonight. Have you ever been to a gay bar?

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jmw7477 Indiana
03/15/15 4:18 am

I've only been to a bar once in my 37 years on this planet.

Rotavele Alabama
03/15/15 3:43 am

I have a few times. I was kind of disappointed. No one hit on anyone and no crazy sites (unless you're uncomfortable with drag queens).

It's nothing like the media or movies made me expect. It was just like any other bar :/

Rotavele Alabama
03/15/15 3:44 am

Now it's the only gay bar in north Alabama (there used to be 3)

ronderman North Carolina
03/15/15 4:09 am

Well Rot, I can tell you that my friend and I were hit on by a young very drunk guy all night. He gets an A for effort even if he never learned our names. Like I said. Way drunk. I'm pretty sure I was spotted as straight within 5 feet of the door.

smarttexan More Moderate Than U
03/14/15 11:58 pm

Good for you rond... Experience is what life is for. We can't for solid opinions or make good decisions in a vacuum...

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LadyBug237 Florida
03/14/15 11:09 pm

Yes, there is one near here that my SO and I go to sometimes. The bartender is so hilarious. A flaming older guy. The drag queens there were better looking about 7 years ago - don't know what happened.

crazyjane New Jersey
03/14/15 10:47 pm

It was gay night, but not strictly a gay bar

bluerum29 optimistic idealist
03/14/15 9:36 pm

No thanks. What's the point in that

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bluerum29 optimistic idealist
03/15/15 7:11 am

That doesn't work for me. The only reason to go to a bar is for drinks and the ladies.

ronderman North Carolina
03/15/15 4:14 am

Well Tom, I refer you back to my poll of which church would Jesus go to? If I am to reach out to that community for Christ, I can't do it from a pew.

Besides, it was a great experience. Lots of memories made.

Pirate Uses the Tap
03/15/15 8:57 am

ronderman, πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘

political Georgia
03/14/15 8:40 pm

Now we all know how you got Ebola. :)

Ebola1 Florida
03/14/15 8:42 pm

LOL. Back then there was no Ebola or AIDS.

Axl752 NY
03/14/15 10:38 pm

I don't get it, how exactly did he get ebola?

Christian1459 Cookin Trouble
03/14/15 8:34 pm

I do t know if there are any near me. If there is, the closest would be about half an hour away.

political Georgia
03/14/15 8:34 pm

I hereby hand this poll over to Glockman.....

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MrsCzarCastic
03/14/15 8:22 pm

Not yet, even though there are many near my home. I'm also not much of a bar person.

Pirate Uses the Tap
03/14/15 8:05 pm

I've been to a gay bar about 10,000 times. 😊

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Pirate Uses the Tap
03/14/15 8:11 pm

Political, in time you will go to one.

political Georgia
03/14/15 8:17 pm

I rather slip the dollar into a woman's bra than a man's pants. That's just me though. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

MrsCzarCastic
03/14/15 8:23 pm

Pirate, I'd love to go to a gay bar with you. I feel like we'd have a good time. πŸ˜€πŸŽ‰πŸŽΆπŸŽ΅

Pirate Uses the Tap
03/14/15 8:24 pm

We sure would. I know the hot spots!

Pirate Uses the Tap
03/14/15 8:25 pm

πŸ’›πŸ’™πŸ’œπŸ’šβ€οΈ

political Georgia
03/14/15 8:25 pm

Haha! I can always count on SOH to get a good laugh.

MrsCzarCastic
03/14/15 8:29 pm

πŸ˜€πŸ˜€πŸ˜€ *fist pumps like the Jersey girl that I am*

ronderman North Carolina
03/14/15 8:30 pm

Political, I am a straight, married, baptist and have maybe been to 5 bars in my life. I had a blast.

ronderman North Carolina
03/15/15 4:20 am

Drag queens lip synching to pop hits. Every stereotype you can imagine. Lots of alcohol (obviously). I didn't see any men kiss (though I'm sure it happened). They weren't groping each other. Imagine a bar where there are no stand offish people.

ronderman North Carolina
03/15/15 4:22 am

Everyone is friendly. The bathroom is unisex.

It seems to me that they have to subdue their lives in so many ways, in the gay district, they are allowed to let their guard down.

Pirate Uses the Tap
03/15/15 5:10 am

Ronderman, that is a very good description. I am much more myself around gay people than straight people. At a gay bar we just be who we are. It's very sad some straight people don't get it. More people should go. If they don't go, they don't know.

ronderman North Carolina
03/15/15 6:17 am

Honestly, I wouldn't trust most southern baptists to go into one. I am fortunate that I have a guy that I love and respect almost as a brother that was willing to take me and "protect" me:). I think I did more protecting him.

Pirate Uses the Tap
03/15/15 6:38 am

Did you think somebody was going to get you. Hahaha. If I went to a straight bar I wonder if the women would get me. I was actually afraid the first time I went to a gay bar. It's the unknown factor that is mysterious. It's just people having fun.

MrsCzarCastic
03/15/15 6:52 am

My mom (who is straight) went into a lesbian bar in the late 70s with a few of her friends who were lesbians. She got hit on so many times. Her friends had to keep telling the women, "Sorry, she's straight!" My mom had a great time.

Pirate Uses the Tap
03/15/15 7:08 am

This is one of my favorite gay bars. MS Czar, let's go! It's one of if not the oldest gay bar in America. I love to go into the French Quarter, so much fun to be had in New Orleans. It's only about a 2 1/2 hour drive from my house so I go often.

Pirate Uses the Tap
03/15/15 7:14 am

No cut off time in the Quarter. 24 hour bars.

MrsCzarCastic
03/15/15 7:16 am

Looks like fun, Pirate!

Pirate Uses the Tap
03/15/15 7:31 am

If anyone does the virtual tour you will love the view of the Quarter from the upstairs balcony.

Pirate Uses the Tap
03/15/15 7:42 am

I would love to live in the Quarter too btw but it is very very expensive.

political Georgia
03/14/15 8:04 pm

Why on God's green Earth would you go to a gay bar?

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Axl752 NY
03/14/15 8:06 pm

Oh political, you know that's where we met up

Axl752 NY
03/14/15 8:18 pm

Don't pretend you don't remember

political Georgia
03/14/15 8:19 pm

You should stop fantasizing. 😯

ronderman North Carolina
03/14/15 8:31 pm

I was with my sister's room mate (a gay man). I told him that I've never been to one and he asked me to go with him. Why wouldn't I go? It was a new experience.

MrMilkdud
03/14/15 7:56 pm

I went after work with coworkers from time to time. We took turns picking the bar, and I had a handful of gay staff members who picked gay bars.
The crowd on random weekdays after work was very tame, pretty much indistinguishable from a straight bar

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political Georgia
03/14/15 8:03 pm

And people call you homophobic.....

MrMilkdud
03/14/15 8:06 pm

I'll drink beer pretty much anywhere.

political Georgia
03/14/15 8:09 pm

You are definitely a Catholic.

MrMilkdud
03/14/15 8:11 pm

Irish Catholic- I was pretty much required by natural law to go the bar with my staff

political Georgia
03/14/15 8:15 pm

....as Milk pours himself a cold one.

MrMilkdud
03/14/15 8:22 pm

That's ridiculous. You don't pour your own beer at good bars.

political Georgia
03/14/15 8:24 pm

Did you order a rainbow drink?

MrMilkdud
03/14/15 8:26 pm

They were very rigorous about making sure I didn't get any gay germs. They gave me a gay vaccine on the way in, and they only served my beer in straight glasses.

MrMilkdud
03/14/15 8:27 pm

The vaccine was in the form of little pills that looked and tasted like peanuts. But they assured me that eating them would protect me against catching a case of "the gays" from any of the regulars.

political Georgia
03/14/15 8:29 pm

That means that the bar believes being gay is a virus or disease.

Uh-oh....

MrMilkdud
03/14/15 8:32 pm

In all honesty, it really isn't that big of a deal. They were just bars. If I didn't know they were gay bars ahead of time I probably wouldn't have picked up on it on my own.

ronderman North Carolina
03/14/15 8:33 pm

This was VERY different from a straight bar. It was drag queen nightπŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚.

MrMilkdud
03/14/15 8:39 pm

I bet the ones I've been to were much different on weekdays during happy hour than they were on weekends, too.

susanr Colorado
03/14/15 7:56 pm

Once or twice. Bars in general don't interest me much. Were you near Dupont Circle?

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ronderman North Carolina
03/14/15 8:33 pm

Susan, your knowledge knows no end.

susanr Colorado
03/14/15 8:39 pm

Really? Dupont Circle? Remember I lived in DC for a while (1974). I lived less than a mile from there, & it was on my route home from several places. And I lived with a gay man.

ronderman North Carolina
03/14/15 8:45 pm

Yep. We were at Cobolt. Had a great time.

susanr Colorado
03/14/15 8:49 pm

I don't know what bars were around when I lived there, even. Not sure I went to any there. I saw above that you said it was drag queen night. I went to one of those in San Francisco (before DC), but ended up living with folks who were

susanr Colorado
03/14/15 8:49 pm

even more outrageous, & put on a lot of shows in SF.

Christian1459 Cookin Trouble
03/14/15 7:44 pm

I wanted to choose fabulous as my answer, but I have not. πŸ˜†