When persuing a romantic relationship with someone, did/do you tend to gravitate towards someone who's very similar to yourself or very different?
50-50? Husband and I are both quite laid back with a similar sense of humor and taste but very different personality types and upbringings.
I don't get how people can close to anyone who they are completely opposite of. Humans bond and grow relationships over liking similar things or acting similar
I've only really had one serious relationship. We've been together since I was 15. We are similar on enough things to have a common ground, but opposite on enough to make up for each other's weaknesses.
Opposite. I couldn't be with someone like me lol
The same and they weren't very good for me.
Usually either polar opposite or exactly the same....no in between
Different. I dated several people who were more similar to me. Not a good fit. My SO is almost my polar opposite in every way except the core stuff: religion, views on children, etc. We have both learned to compromise more on money and politics....
...which were 2 important subjects we had very different views on previously. But that's been a hard road in many ways. We had to learn to make sure we included basic respect in those situations. Still, I wouldn't choose differently.
Well, I'd start by looking for an innie to go with my outie, so we're pretty different right from the start. Generally I'd want just enough overlap to make the connection, and mostly differences beyond that.
Might look the same on the outside, but similar to the core.
I meant different in the outside. That would be hysterical.
I just ended a 3 year relationship on the basis of us being too different. Yes, complementary traits can work nicely together, but ultimately you need to be on the same page about a ridiculous amount of things.
I have no idea it's been so long. My husband and I are very different but we must be the same and someways also. We have been married over 40 years
I've done both. So far, the person most opposite has been the best fit, so that was my answer.
They do say that.
I gravitate toward people who are somewhat similar to me but different enough to keep things interesting.
At least the same base foundation and beliefs.
Foundation: like, wanting kids? How they handle things. Their motivations and how they make decisions
Basic proclivities about life. Got it. Very important.
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