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CzarCastic March 14th, 2015 8:30pm

When persuing a romantic relationship with someone, did/do you tend to gravitate towards someone who's very similar to yourself or very different?

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Rosebud Ohio
03/16/15 8:16 pm

50-50? Husband and I are both quite laid back with a similar sense of humor and taste but very different personality types and upbringings.

null
03/16/15 1:17 am

I don't get how people can close to anyone who they are completely opposite of. Humans bond and grow relationships over liking similar things or acting similar

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jmw7477 Indiana
03/15/15 4:13 am

I've only really had one serious relationship. We've been together since I was 15. We are similar on enough things to have a common ground, but opposite on enough to make up for each other's weaknesses.

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kimberlyhope Florida
03/15/15 2:46 am

Opposite. I couldn't be with someone like me lol

MisterE Conservistan
03/15/15 1:42 am

The same and they weren't very good for me.

kris55 Alabama
03/14/15 6:10 pm

Usually either polar opposite or exactly the same....no in between

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twss trump is a garbage human
03/14/15 5:53 pm

Different. I dated several people who were more similar to me. Not a good fit. My SO is almost my polar opposite in every way except the core stuff: religion, views on children, etc. We have both learned to compromise more on money and politics....

twss trump is a garbage human
03/14/15 5:56 pm

...which were 2 important subjects we had very different views on previously. But that's been a hard road in many ways. We had to learn to make sure we included basic respect in those situations. Still, I wouldn't choose differently.

Zod Above Pugetropolis
03/14/15 5:02 pm

Well, I'd start by looking for an innie to go with my outie, so we're pretty different right from the start. Generally I'd want just enough overlap to make the connection, and mostly differences beyond that.

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foodienurse Smalltimore
03/14/15 4:13 pm

Might look the same on the outside, but similar to the core.

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foodienurse Smalltimore
03/14/15 4:14 pm

I meant different in the outside. That would be hysterical.

cyanospool The Deep North
03/14/15 3:00 pm

I just ended a 3 year relationship on the basis of us being too different. Yes, complementary traits can work nicely together, but ultimately you need to be on the same page about a ridiculous amount of things.

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TopsQueen Oregon Coast
03/14/15 2:54 pm

I have no idea it's been so long. My husband and I are very different but we must be the same and someways also. We have been married over 40 years

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Krystina Let Freedom Reign
03/14/15 2:33 pm

I've done both. So far, the person most opposite has been the best fit, so that was my answer.

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TierasPet
03/14/15 2:26 pm

I gravitate toward people who are somewhat similar to me but different enough to keep things interesting.

WildRice With a side of sass
03/14/15 1:37 pm

At least the same base foundation and beliefs.

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WildRice With a side of sass
03/14/15 1:44 pm

Foundation: like, wanting kids? How they handle things. Their motivations and how they make decisions

CzarCastic
03/14/15 2:36 pm

Basic proclivities about life. Got it. Very important.