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CzarCastic October 31st, 2014 6:15am

You're costume shopping with your 7 year old son. You make many recommendations that is geared towards his gender but he is very adamant about a princess custom for Halloween. What do you do?

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emsies Seattle
11/10/14 12:52 am

I'll be the Anna to his Elsa if that's what he wants

rangeman Lafayette IN.
11/01/14 2:34 am

You got to try it Once. It's Liberating!

PresWK Minnesota
10/31/14 9:17 pm

I don't think the Libertarians realize the irony in their vote...

PresWK Minnesota
10/31/14 9:17 pm

I don't think the Libertarians realize the irony in their vote...

osouless Whats Next
10/31/14 5:53 pm

I want him to be what he wants but i also want to look out for his well being which could be detrimented if seen by kids from his school. I'd probably end up caving honestly.

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TheMightyBoosh
10/31/14 1:07 pm

Almost every year I went trick or treating as a kid, there was at least one boy who went dressed in a girl costume. Bullying is not a big issue here. The point is to dress up silly for fun

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TheMightyBoosh
10/31/14 1:04 pm

It's a costume, quit being a jerk and let your kids have fun

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blossoming new beginnings
10/31/14 12:01 pm

I would be just as supportive with my son as I was my daughter. However, we would have a talk so he'd understand what he may face by wearing the girl outfit.

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FarmerManE djent
10/31/14 10:42 am

I'm just astounded at the results of this poll vs the one we're the girl wanted to dress up as batman

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mrdudemanpants
10/31/14 10:25 am

I'd like to say yes, but our society sucks.

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ladyniner81 no hope for humanity
10/31/14 10:21 am

I'd ask my invisible son if he was prepared to be bullied. If so. Maybe

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TopsQueen Oregon Coast
10/31/14 9:38 am

If I would get him two. get him one for school and one for trick-or-treating. If I could afford it. I am the mother of a gay man and he always dressed a little different than the others kids not really flamboyant but always had his own taste.

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CzarCastic
10/31/14 10:29 am

My hat's off to you and your son

TopsQueen Oregon Coast
10/31/14 10:57 am

Thank you very much. I usually made my own kids Halloween costumes.

clfs34 Florida
10/31/14 8:00 am

agree with zod, b4mytime & partyfree. As long as he is OK & not bullied later, then...

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Zod Above Pugetropolis
10/31/14 6:59 am

Isn't Halloween when you get to dress up in whatever costume you like? It seems like a complete non-issue.

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CzarCastic
10/31/14 8:19 am

I thought it was you went as something you're not?

Zod Above Pugetropolis
10/31/14 8:29 am

Or when you go as something you secretly are. Like when I let the pirate in me out. Arrrr!

CzarCastic
10/31/14 8:34 am

One time I went as a vagina. Should've I been worried?

alynn Somewhere wonderful
10/31/14 9:07 am

Pics or it didn't happen! x)

jvc1133 61535
10/31/14 6:20 am

Same answer

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Pirate Uses the Tap
10/31/14 6:13 am

Congratulations on your engagement! She's a lucky lady!!! Nice ring.

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CzarCastic
10/31/14 8:19 am

Thanks pirate. It went very well

EarlyBird Portland
10/31/14 5:15 am

I'd have to change his mind and find a more socially acceptable costume.

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alynn Somewhere wonderful
10/31/14 8:10 am

Me too. Double-standard, I know.

missmorganmarie ...
10/31/14 8:14 am

Me three :(

CzarCastic
10/31/14 8:21 am

So ur going to put social norms and what other people think before ur child's wishes or your own?

EarlyBird Portland
10/31/14 8:23 am

I call it protecting my child from being bullied.

missmorganmarie ...
10/31/14 8:24 am

yes. i agree with early. you need to protect your children. if I knew my daughter would be bullied I wouldn't let her dress like a superhero. but society only seems to harp on what little boys wear. I'd protect my son.

EarlyBird Portland
10/31/14 8:24 am

What are you, as the parent going to do the next day when your son comes home crying that everyone is calling him a girl and being mean?

EarlyBird Portland
10/31/14 8:27 am

Czar, I'm very sensitive to this because I went through this with my gay daughter, while she was growing up. Kids were horrible to her and she learned very young to hide it.

CzarCastic
10/31/14 8:30 am

I get the bullying but as a parent u protect ur kid while providing them with what they want, within reason. So u mean to tell me if he & a bunch of his friends went trick or treating & u and other parents were there you'd still have an issue?

EarlyBird Portland
10/31/14 8:34 am

Czar- under those circumstances, no, I wouldn't be so concerned about it.

EarlyBird Portland
10/31/14 8:35 am

You described a very safe environment.

CzarCastic
10/31/14 8:37 am

So it's the fact that he wouldn't be able to defend himself and the potential emotional and physical damages rather than the kid's wishes?

EarlyBird Portland
10/31/14 8:39 am

Emotional damage is my biggest concern of being bullied.

CzarCastic
10/31/14 9:06 am

Would you sway your decision in a different direction if the child was older?

EarlyBird Portland
10/31/14 9:17 am

Czar- when he reaches a certain age, he'll understand the ramifications and will choose not to dress like a girl.

EarlyBird Portland
10/31/14 9:19 am

However, when he's home, he can dress like a girl all he wants. I won't stop him from expressing himself. I'll teach him when it's appropriate.

b4mytime Orange County, CA
10/31/14 2:29 am

Okay first of all, there is nothing wrong with a boy dressing up like a girl. Secondly, it's fucking Halloween!!! The whole point is to be somebody else. He's allowed to be a murderous vampire, but not someone in a dress?

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CzarCastic
10/31/14 6:07 am

Agreed

Rotavele Alabama
10/31/14 8:16 am

Many of us feel this way, and your name applies to it well. However it's inspiration to make a difference :P

CzarCastic
10/31/14 8:21 am

I say we start a riot

Rotavele Alabama
10/31/14 1:34 am

No, sorry. Not in Alabama. In California, maybe if I knew the neighborhood well enough to know he was ok and wouldn't be bullied.

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Skyrim nobody
10/31/14 9:14 am

I'm surprised you said no.

Rotavele Alabama
10/31/14 9:17 am

It was hard to. I want him to be happy and express himself without feeling like society's holding him back from achieving what he wants to do. However it's just too dangerous at this time.

There's still news reports every day of trans-violence.

Rotavele Alabama
10/31/14 9:18 am

As fast as gay marriage took when it took off largely in momentum, it took around 10 years. Hopefully this third time people are used to all of the same tactics bigots will use and it goes much quicker.

Skyrim nobody
10/31/14 1:51 pm

I understand and agree. I wish I could say yes to this, but I don't think I can for now. Especially not in this area I live around.

PartyFree Nowhere in Particular
10/30/14 11:30 pm

While teaching in the middle grades I've encountered boys who will dress up in traditionally female outfits for spirit week (princesses on Character Day, cheerleaders on Sports Day, etc.) and I have always applauded these kids for their effort.

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