You're costume shopping with your 7 year old son. You make many recommendations that is geared towards his gender but he is very adamant about a princess custom for Halloween. What do you do?
I'll be the Anna to his Elsa if that's what he wants
You got to try it Once. It's Liberating!
I don't think the Libertarians realize the irony in their vote...
I want him to be what he wants but i also want to look out for his well being which could be detrimented if seen by kids from his school. I'd probably end up caving honestly.
Double standard much?
Almost every year I went trick or treating as a kid, there was at least one boy who went dressed in a girl costume. Bullying is not a big issue here. The point is to dress up silly for fun
It's a costume, quit being a jerk and let your kids have fun
I would be just as supportive with my son as I was my daughter. However, we would have a talk so he'd understand what he may face by wearing the girl outfit.
I'm just astounded at the results of this poll vs the one we're the girl wanted to dress up as batman
I'd like to say yes, but our society sucks.
I'd ask my invisible son if he was prepared to be bullied. If so. Maybe
If I would get him two. get him one for school and one for trick-or-treating. If I could afford it. I am the mother of a gay man and he always dressed a little different than the others kids not really flamboyant but always had his own taste.
My hat's off to you and your son
Thank you very much. I usually made my own kids Halloween costumes.
agree with zod, b4mytime & partyfree. As long as he is OK & not bullied later, then...
Isn't Halloween when you get to dress up in whatever costume you like? It seems like a complete non-issue.
I thought it was you went as something you're not?
Or when you go as something you secretly are. Like when I let the pirate in me out. Arrrr!
One time I went as a vagina. Should've I been worried?
Pics or it didn't happen! x)
Congratulations on your engagement! She's a lucky lady!!! Nice ring.
Thanks pirate. It went very well
I'd have to change his mind and find a more socially acceptable costume.
Me too. Double-standard, I know.
Me three :(
So ur going to put social norms and what other people think before ur child's wishes or your own?
I call it protecting my child from being bullied.
yes. i agree with early. you need to protect your children. if I knew my daughter would be bullied I wouldn't let her dress like a superhero. but society only seems to harp on what little boys wear. I'd protect my son.
What are you, as the parent going to do the next day when your son comes home crying that everyone is calling him a girl and being mean?
Czar, I'm very sensitive to this because I went through this with my gay daughter, while she was growing up. Kids were horrible to her and she learned very young to hide it.
I get the bullying but as a parent u protect ur kid while providing them with what they want, within reason. So u mean to tell me if he & a bunch of his friends went trick or treating & u and other parents were there you'd still have an issue?
Czar- under those circumstances, no, I wouldn't be so concerned about it.
You described a very safe environment.
So it's the fact that he wouldn't be able to defend himself and the potential emotional and physical damages rather than the kid's wishes?
Emotional damage is my biggest concern of being bullied.
Would you sway your decision in a different direction if the child was older?
Czar- when he reaches a certain age, he'll understand the ramifications and will choose not to dress like a girl.
However, when he's home, he can dress like a girl all he wants. I won't stop him from expressing himself. I'll teach him when it's appropriate.
See above thread. Same difference.
Okay first of all, there is nothing wrong with a boy dressing up like a girl. Secondly, it's fucking Halloween!!! The whole point is to be somebody else. He's allowed to be a murderous vampire, but not someone in a dress?
Many of us feel this way, and your name applies to it well. However it's inspiration to make a difference :P
I say we start a riot
Haha thanks both of you.
No, sorry. Not in Alabama. In California, maybe if I knew the neighborhood well enough to know he was ok and wouldn't be bullied.
I'm surprised you said no.
It was hard to. I want him to be happy and express himself without feeling like society's holding him back from achieving what he wants to do. However it's just too dangerous at this time.
There's still news reports every day of trans-violence.
As fast as gay marriage took when it took off largely in momentum, it took around 10 years. Hopefully this third time people are used to all of the same tactics bigots will use and it goes much quicker.
I understand and agree. I wish I could say yes to this, but I don't think I can for now. Especially not in this area I live around.
While teaching in the middle grades I've encountered boys who will dress up in traditionally female outfits for spirit week (princesses on Character Day, cheerleaders on Sports Day, etc.) and I have always applauded these kids for their effort.