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MRversusMRS October 24th, 2014 9:02pm

Counseling session #22: He says that, in general, men make better husbands than women make wives. She says he has it all backwards. What say you?

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reaganblood Mountain View
11/09/14 7:43 pm

I say they're both saying the same thing. They just don't know it.

brenstal Florida
10/26/14 1:22 pm

Neither. No gender is a worse spouse than the other. We all have our issues. :)

brenstal Florida
10/26/14 1:24 pm

That Said, I voted for Mrs. because I felt like Mr. started it.

KingRodney Enjoy the Decline
10/25/14 5:10 pm

Definitely Mr. From what I've seen, men seem to be a lot less demanding than women. Although, it really depends on the people in the relationship.

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aj1545 Cat Lady
10/24/14 7:49 pm

Neither. They're both wrong since gender doesn't determine the kind of spouse you'll be. I picked mrs since he started the convo here.

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FacePalm That Trick Never Works
10/24/14 6:15 pm

I voted Mrs only because women are "trained" to take care of relationships more than men are. Don't get me wrong - men are great caretakers but often lousy at managing emotional environments.

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ovcourse California
10/24/14 5:44 pm

On an individual basis that is true, but overall in general, I don't think so. Look at the age breakdown. The over forty crowd would know better.

ovcourse California
10/24/14 5:46 pm

Oops! That was supposed to be in response to Rosebud.

TomLaney1 Jesus is Lord
10/24/14 5:35 pm

Three polls in a row for Mrs.! Men have no freakin' IDEA how to be loving (Christian) husbands and fathers, and it's only by the Grace of God that we learn. ✞

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Rosebud Ohio
10/24/14 4:52 pm

Neither, the entire premise is sexist. No one gender makes a better spouse, the individual is what makes one person better at being a spouse than another.

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Rosebud Ohio
10/24/14 4:53 pm

(I voted Mrs fwiw, as this sounds like he started the ridiculous convo)

blockey
10/24/14 5:04 pm

Exactly what I was thinking.

Redacted
10/24/14 4:28 pm

I agree with mrs because I am more thoughtful and take better care of my husband than he does for me.

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TomLaney1 Jesus is Lord
10/24/14 5:37 pm

Amen! My wife does the same, however hard I try! ❤️

FacePalm That Trick Never Works
10/24/14 4:26 pm

Both positions are absurd!

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bluerum29 optimistic idealist
10/24/14 4:03 pm

I can personally agree

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Liberty 4,032,064
10/24/14 4:01 pm

That's kind of dumb thing to say one way or the other.

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runschmoopie WNY
10/24/14 3:39 pm

Apples and Oranges.

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jmw7477 Indiana
10/24/14 3:38 pm

Years ago, I would've agreed with her. But, lately, it seems like he's right.

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Maj Worth Economist
10/24/14 3:29 pm

Wow. I think that no matter what the answer to this question is this couple needs to focus on whether or not each of them is being a good husband or wife. A statistic doesn't necessarily apply to an individual instance.

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chickencookie Jihad Joe
10/24/14 3:06 pm

I'm not even going to get involved with this. It takes two.

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WildRice With a side of sass
10/24/14 3:01 pm

I agree with neither. Both are outrageous statements!

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dawl adulting
10/24/14 2:28 pm

How is this couple still together?

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MRversusMRS Marriage therapy
10/24/14 2:34 pm

These aren't all our issues (only very few actually are). We think of questions that we see in other marriages and couples. We brainstorm a lot! We just pretend they are ours :)

dawl adulting
10/24/14 2:37 pm

Oh I didn't think they were all yours in particular but I did think they were all from the same "couple". Thanks for clarifying!

mikeey1962 on SOH where else
10/24/14 2:38 pm

Uhhhh, why tell us, I thought my marriage was great compared to yours, jeepers what a crock...... LMAO..

MRversusMRS Marriage therapy
10/24/14 2:41 pm

We have gotten some negative feedback with our questions with people thinking that our marriage was really bad. However, some of these issues are ours, won't tell you which ones! Sorry of we ruined the experience by telling you our secret.

Kay41 the Midwest
10/24/14 2:45 pm

I think they are great regardless. I don't think it matters whose issues they are. Keep the questions coming!

dawl adulting
10/24/14 2:51 pm

I love these questions keep them coming!

mikeey1962 on SOH where else
10/24/14 2:52 pm

Yea what Kay and dawl said

FacePalm That Trick Never Works
10/24/14 4:30 pm

I simply assumed they were all hypothetical or representative of something you heard at one time or another.
I am going to keep doing so, if you don't mind :)

Maj Worth Economist
10/24/14 5:03 pm

Yeah. The description line says, "Marriage Therapy," so I just figured they were rough outlines of arguments random couples were having in counseling. I love these questions. They're some of my favorites on SoH. :)

TomLaney1 Jesus is Lord
10/24/14 5:42 pm

I never thought that the questions at all autobiographical. I thought the author was one person, probably a marriage counselor. Surprise!
You two are great. I look forward to these polls. ✞

Zod Above Pugetropolis
10/24/14 2:23 pm

I think he is on really thin ice, a few minutes before the spring breakup starts.

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Zod Above Pugetropolis
10/24/14 3:08 pm

Yes, she's fine. He might want to get ready to run though. Around here, not only would she be right about this, she'd be pretty annoyed about MrSmartypants (me) kidding about how he thinks he carries his own weight.

Zod Above Pugetropolis
10/24/14 6:13 pm

How so? Sexism has nothing to do with a realistic assessment of our relative contributions. Hers is by far the greater.
I imagine that the same is true in the case of Mr and Mrs because of Mr's nonsensical statement (which was probably a joke).

mikeey1962 on SOH where else
10/24/14 2:17 pm

Have to go with the Mrs. The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world, or, if momma ain't happy, nobody's happy!! Or, do you wanna be right or happy!

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TomM
10/24/14 2:15 pm

How do you define better.

TomM
10/24/14 2:59 pm

I'm not playing a game, I was trying to understand the question. Is a person inherently a good partner or is it in the eyes of the partner? I would argue if someone doesn't consider their partner good, they chose the wrong partner.

EarlyBird Portland
10/24/14 3:11 pm

Tom- take a look at drawls link below.

TomM
10/24/14 3:55 pm

"Drawl" :-)

EarlyBird Portland
10/24/14 2:11 pm

"In general" women make better wives.
Fact!

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cpaswr just say the letters
10/24/14 2:22 pm

"In general" men make better husbands. Also, a fact!!!

dawl adulting
10/24/14 2:34 pm

I'm with EB- according to this article, men just aren't cutting it as husbands:
m.huffpost.com/us/entry/3129269

EarlyBird Portland
10/24/14 2:41 pm

I have to say, that article pretty much sums up exactly what I thought.
Thanks dawl :)

bethanyq Ess Eff
10/24/14 2:05 pm

Hahaha I can't imagine what conversation could have led to this argument. The statistics show that marriage benefits men more than it benefits women. Whatever the reasons are, them's the numbers.

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aj1545 Cat Lady
10/24/14 7:51 pm

I've read that too. Men get happier and women get less happy overall.