Counseling session #22: He says that, in general, men make better husbands than women make wives. She says he has it all backwards. What say you?
I say they're both saying the same thing. They just don't know it.
Neither. No gender is a worse spouse than the other. We all have our issues. :)
That Said, I voted for Mrs. because I felt like Mr. started it.
Definitely Mr. From what I've seen, men seem to be a lot less demanding than women. Although, it really depends on the people in the relationship.
Neither. They're both wrong since gender doesn't determine the kind of spouse you'll be. I picked mrs since he started the convo here.
I voted Mrs only because women are "trained" to take care of relationships more than men are. Don't get me wrong - men are great caretakers but often lousy at managing emotional environments.
On an individual basis that is true, but overall in general, I don't think so. Look at the age breakdown. The over forty crowd would know better.
Oops! That was supposed to be in response to Rosebud.
Three polls in a row for Mrs.! Men have no freakin' IDEA how to be loving (Christian) husbands and fathers, and it's only by the Grace of God that we learn. ✞
Neither, the entire premise is sexist. No one gender makes a better spouse, the individual is what makes one person better at being a spouse than another.
(I voted Mrs fwiw, as this sounds like he started the ridiculous convo)
Exactly what I was thinking.
I agree with mrs because I am more thoughtful and take better care of my husband than he does for me.
Amen! My wife does the same, however hard I try! ❤️
Both positions are absurd!
I can personally agree
That's kind of dumb thing to say one way or the other.
Apples and Oranges.
Years ago, I would've agreed with her. But, lately, it seems like he's right.
Wow. I think that no matter what the answer to this question is this couple needs to focus on whether or not each of them is being a good husband or wife. A statistic doesn't necessarily apply to an individual instance.
I'm not even going to get involved with this. It takes two.
I agree with neither. Both are outrageous statements!
How is this couple still together?
These aren't all our issues (only very few actually are). We think of questions that we see in other marriages and couples. We brainstorm a lot! We just pretend they are ours :)
Oh I didn't think they were all yours in particular but I did think they were all from the same "couple". Thanks for clarifying!
Uhhhh, why tell us, I thought my marriage was great compared to yours, jeepers what a crock...... LMAO..
We have gotten some negative feedback with our questions with people thinking that our marriage was really bad. However, some of these issues are ours, won't tell you which ones! Sorry of we ruined the experience by telling you our secret.
I think they are great regardless. I don't think it matters whose issues they are. Keep the questions coming!
I love these questions keep them coming!
Yea what Kay and dawl said
I simply assumed they were all hypothetical or representative of something you heard at one time or another.
I am going to keep doing so, if you don't mind :)
Yeah. The description line says, "Marriage Therapy," so I just figured they were rough outlines of arguments random couples were having in counseling. I love these questions. They're some of my favorites on SoH. :)
I never thought that the questions at all autobiographical. I thought the author was one person, probably a marriage counselor. Surprise!
You two are great. I look forward to these polls. ✞
I think he is on really thin ice, a few minutes before the spring breakup starts.
But she is ok?
Yes, she's fine. He might want to get ready to run though. Around here, not only would she be right about this, she'd be pretty annoyed about MrSmartypants (me) kidding about how he thinks he carries his own weight.
That's very sexist of you...
How so? Sexism has nothing to do with a realistic assessment of our relative contributions. Hers is by far the greater.
I imagine that the same is true in the case of Mr and Mrs because of Mr's nonsensical statement (which was probably a joke).
Have to go with the Mrs. The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world, or, if momma ain't happy, nobody's happy!! Or, do you wanna be right or happy!
How do you define better.
Don't play that game.
I'm not playing a game, I was trying to understand the question. Is a person inherently a good partner or is it in the eyes of the partner? I would argue if someone doesn't consider their partner good, they chose the wrong partner.
Tom- take a look at drawls link below.
"In general" women make better wives.
"In general" men make better husbands. Also, a fact!!!
I'm with EB- according to this article, men just aren't cutting it as husbands:
I have to say, that article pretty much sums up exactly what I thought.
Thanks dawl :)
Hahaha I can't imagine what conversation could have led to this argument. The statistics show that marriage benefits men more than it benefits women. Whatever the reasons are, them's the numbers.
I've read that too. Men get happier and women get less happy overall.