Do you ever think SOH is just not worth it? The disagreeing opinions that turn into viscous and personal attacks , grudges held from previous debates, hurt feelings, "friends"you thought you had are not? Are u better off w/o sometimes?
Oh Chicken, you sad, pathetic soul. No I've not received a "warning" oh my what a scary threat that would be. I'm still here because I haven't broke any rule! Just because you think you are above being called out on inane posts doesn't make it so
Hence the long break I kinda took. My heart just wasn't in it. But you are one if the most intelligent kindest people I know CC. Keep it up and don't get discouraged. I owe you a Johnson's popcorn btw. SOHNJ meet up?
I generally like disagreement, especially when I learn something when i'm in the wrong. But if someone goes ad hom because they can't back their argument with facts, I'll just move on to the next poll/discussion. :)
It's like in real life ... People can't hurt your feelings, unless you let them. Before you think I'm minimizing the offenders (I'm not!), I need to tell you more about me.
All through school, I was the kid whom other kids picked on and wouldn't ...
... play with. I was never popular. I have always been overly sensitive. Looking back on it, I realize this only encouraged the teasing.
Now that I am old, I have finally learned to filter my own internal responses to people. If somebody is a ...
... jerk and I don't like him, why should I let that person get to me? I have finally learned to think, "What an idiot" and tune it out.
I think I know the why sensitive people have more of a problem with this app than they do in real life. In ...
... real life, you can usually (not always), physically avoid the jerks. Here, they can keep typing at you. (That's where the Ignore button comes in handy, if you need it.) Still, it really *is* just words on a screen.
My advice to you is ...
... this. Decide whether or not you like the interaction with people you like, expressing your opinions, answering polls and the rest of it. If yes, then ...
Use the Ignore button liberally. Refrain from replying to people who attack you. They ...
... aren't worth it and you are only letting them succeed.
/End of rant from an old grandma, who has learned a lot from life./
Any time I see moronic comments, I just say to myself, "People are stupid," and then I move on.
Yes, this. I said the same thing in an overly long post above this. Your brief comment gets to my actual point.
My real life has been stressful the last few days, so I have voted on SOH, but not much else. I totally have those days with SOH. I think most of us do, CC. If it helps, I love you & I'm your friend.
Very kind of you to say
Cc, please read my lengthy post above this. I hope it helps you to see this in a new light.
Ok, I'm not adding anything anyone else hasn't said already, nor am I telling you anything you don't already know. Still:
Don't feed the trolls. Yes, I know they can say awful things, but it's really just *text on a screen.* Screw 'em!
Just an app. I guess I miss most of the drama.
Lol. I always miss the juicy shit! I believe most users have posted 'attacks' towards others. I've certainly been guilty. In the same respect, I think most users have also respected differing opinions for what they are.
Being that we haven't always had the same opinion. I can't recall any time where I thought you were out of hand. If some other user were to feel that was necessary on my comments or replies...I'd let it be. Some just want to press buttons. I laugh.
I agree. I do try not to attack. Basically, some people try to build up their own self-esteem, by making other people angry. If you do get angry, you are only encouraging them.
I just went for a long while without it and I did just fine. I don't mind it here and there but don't like feeling the need to check it all the time.
It's a microcosm of life. There are all kinds of people in the world. Some bring tremendous kindness and joy. Some make you scream, make you cry, make you mad as hell. We are all a part of the same human family. I deal with it because it's real.
Thats why I was off for a few months, people are too stubborn
What happened? I must have missed something.
Mostly I enjoy it . Occasionally there's a personal attack by someone who obviously has never knowingly met me. That's disconcerting and I do consider only sharing opinions with known humans. Mostly, though, the experience is good.
I go back & forth.
I used to debate but don't really anymore. I still like SOH because of people like you and Tops!!
I won't start dropping names, but I've learned to just take the offensive people with a grain of salt. You don't have to get pulled into lengthy, ugly debates, and there are a lot of pluses to being part of the community :)
I don't think I'd ever actually delete or leave the app but I don't have many personal attacks either. I'm sorry if you do and it sounds like you have some good backup here. As for friends not being friends, I haven't seen that.
Sometimes things like that are only known by parties involved. While anyone else will read as it is, it takes on a whole different meaning and dig to the other person. You have always been a friend to me❤️
Thanks ChickenCookie. I feel the same way about you. :). Hugs.
You take the good, you take the bad, you take them both and there you have...SOH! Seriously though, I ignore the idiots who only talk trash. I would hate to lose you as a user but if you think that's what's best for you, I support it.
You realize you Brittany and disagree on this.
I deleted the app a few months ago, missed the polls and came back under a different name. This time I'm trying not to get myself involved in any discussions, not following so many people either.
Who were you?
I think telling that might defeat the purpose of this person's (so far successful) attempt at a new beginning. :)
Hey I got to meet you, for ever how long we are friends it is, I feel privileged to have known you, as for the other stuff I just ignore them!
Don't let the idiots wear you down. Ignore or just keep stating your facts or opinions. The mental midgets will eventually get bored and go away.
I reading some of the posts. I'm about to cry. Lol.
I kind of like the disfunctional family aspect of this app. You have a cat fight with someone, them you forget about it.
Come to the crying lounge. Drinks at 9:00.
Count me in. I'll be in Toms River tomorrow
Ill be in Manhattan!
Paint the town red.
I'm not even sure what that saying means, but, oh well.
Im wearing white but Im bringing a red sweater.
When I see personal attacks it makes me wish some people would just leave or grow up but it has never made me want to leave. There are enough awesome people and great discussions to out weight the bad. If I was attacked personally that could change.
I typically can't remember the names of the people that I argue with. I know there are a few people that I really don't like very much, but I can never remember who they are, so I don't worry about it.
If it was that important, I would remember.
There are a couple people on here that piss me off, either with their fingerpointing, or their extremism, or just plain ignorance, but I forget who they are or I just say "eh, that's THEIR opinion." Or I may think I'm being ignorant. and brush it off
Calmez-vous CC, don't worry about it, just put them on ignore or call them out on being rude.
You do get more flack than others. people very rarely give me any real trouble, and my views don't line up with many.
I'm sorry, CC. I don't know if/how often we agree on stuff, but I like you.
Thats because I hate Obama..but sometimes there are other reasons.
People give you flack for that reason, or that's why we do/don't agree?
I've felt that way a few times. I started using the ignore option and I have a much better time on here now. I'm sorry you're having a rough time of it here.
Jayfree: "@Okie, we have such different world, political and social views. I apologize to you for hateful things I've posted to you. As for CC, yes I can and will stop the derogatory comments. They aren't ok. Let's us agree to disagree
Jay's comment from Okie's poll.
He is permanently removed from me - Jay. Imo - he should be banned and I don't know why he isn't yet.
What was his reason for signaling me out? An apology wont do wen I gave him no reason for him to say those things to me to begin with. My guess is that he got a warning - all of a sudden he's changed a new leaf? I don't know why he is not banned
When the ones who are have said far less than him. Definitely someone from here.JMO. Strange how this apology happens the day after I asked for help. Coincidence?
Ignore them CC
I tend to avoid arguments, so I rarely have issues with the app. It does bother me a little when other people are asses to each other. :(
Its the wine!
What's the wine?
I don't let Liberals get to me. They have a mental disorder. It's not their fault.
Isn't this comment itself hurtful? Or does it not matter when you do it liberals?
It sure as hell is funny
He just doesn't care. He's a hypocrite, and naive to think that 'liberals' are the Only problem. It's the conservatives that argue social issues while using a glory hole in some secret sex club.
Why would I care what the mentally disturbed thinks of me?
Ok. I was just wondering if people were giving meaningful answers or if this was a "let's make people we like feel better and screw everyone else" conversation.
Veritias - this is not a "lets make nice poll". I am having my own issues, for several months, I do tend to stay away from the "extroverts". But I am overly sensitive sometimes ,some have no idea how their quick, uncalled for statement ,breaks me.
I'm not accusing you of it. I'm accusing cowboy of it.
I hope those problems get resolved.
Veritas' vagina must be bothering him.
@cc. But I think it's worth considering whether democrats feel the same way about being called mentally disturbed as you do about the the comments you are bothered by. One would think you would find that similarly offensive, not endearing.
Boys have a penis, girls have a vagina. And liberals have a disorder?
vert... It's ok if people say offensive things to other people as long as you agree with it.
@Rob. Yep. It's also funny to see the users who have posted some of the most hateful personal attacks and call out polls suddenly play the white knight role.
Oh you mean when Liberals are offensive to Christians and you guys pile on with that "spaghetti monster" nonsense? That bigoted shit is real funny, isn't it? Now you people try to take the high road. That's not going to work with me.
I've never posted anything hateful so I don't know what you're talking about.
Funny enough, I wasn't actually referring to you with that comment. I think Rob knows, though.
I'm never offensive to christens, my girlfriend is one for Christ's sake (lol) and yes, vert, I do.
I don't know what happened but I'm sorry you're upset. Hugs to you ❤️
I'm able to distance myself from online, realize it's just an app or website or whatever and realize it's not worth getting in a tizzy about.
I think chick could use a group hug.
I consider is fun. I'm an older guy and enjoy seeing the viewpoint of the younger. Some are just babies with big brains!
Big brains... I think big mouths.
Ron - you make me happy
Happy is a good thing!
Cookie, put the people who are bothering you, on ignore.
Sm takes a lot more heat than anyone on this app and she is still around because of the ignore button.
That's great to hear cookie! Now you can get back to enjoying the app.
Jayfree should apologize to you. A man of such indecent qualities should not be taken seriously.
It will never happen. She needs to put him on ignore.
Now I see. Freeman is rude and obnoxious to everyone, bar none. He has something dumb and stupid to say all the time. He's a tortured runt. Consider the source and don't let it get to you. He'd knock Mother Teresa if he had the chance.
Pol, which poll did he call her names?
Her "friend" czar is far worse than Freeman. At least Freeman never pretended to be her friend. Czar is an asshole if I ever saw one.
I warned her about him.
Czar told her he "wanted to come in her mouth like all the other guys do".
Kscott, I can't name one off the top of my head. It has been a persistent pattern though.
Czar can be funny at times. He is harmless. Jay on the other hand is bitter.
Oh I thought it was from a poll today.
I don't know the poll that CC is inferring.
Roundsquare, you did not need ton repeat that vulgarity. CC doesn't need to see that.
EB - Rob and Okie helped me with that.
I didn't know about czar doing this stuff. I'll talk to him.
That's great to hear, cookie! Now you can get back to enjoying the app!
Czar is kind of a douche. He's got this whole high and mighty thing going.
I agree with Rob. He won't be as easy to work with as Jay was.
Maybe just a taste of his own medicine is what the doctor ordered.
JayFree is a misogynist. He will never respect women. It shows loud and clear when he talks to and about women.
I don't really see czar around enough to know what he does.
Rob - I'm so happy to hear u think so high of me.
Round - Clearly u don't have the balls or knowledge to make an intelligent comment about me. Find out the truth before opening ur mouth.
Well, well, well... The asswipe shows up to say nothing of importance. Czar you're an asshole. Crawl back into your cave, buddy.
Lol ok pal. As soon as u crawl back into that hairy crawlspace ur father wrecked many years ago.
There are some crusty people out there. Don't let them get you down CC. Just because misery loves company, it doesn't mean you have to let it in. ❤️
What a coincidence. In my poll about republicans I made an offer to jayfreeman about you, just a little while ago.
Cc. Jayfreeman agreed. Go read it in my poll.
Thank you for your help yesterday.
I just looked at the poll. Cant see what he wrote but I am still suspicious. Why isn't he joining the fun here? He follows me for some reason. On my poll on vacation he said he wanted to take me to the slaughterhouse after calling me names all week
Of course sometimes, and that's when you should take a step back and remember it's just an app. When it becomes "you're" world it can seem a bit heavy. It's why I'm not around as much as I used to be. It's not worth getting upset about....
You give "those people" too much credit and their words too much weight. As I just said to Okie, I'd rather FaceTime with Emma than argue with people. Life's too short. Enjoy what you can, and (literally) ignore the rest.
Who wouldn't want to face-time with Emma. I don't understand how anyone can say this "place is just an app". Fir the regulars here we know so much about each other. We may not know what we look or sound like but we know about our kids, our
Jobs and our heartaches. Its not my whole world but I am in enough that certain people mean more to me. Some days bring me more grief had I not been on
You need to just shake yer head at it sometimes and not let it bother you. You take things to heart when you should just roll yer eyes at them.
The real people behind the app make SOH a superior product. The price to pay is hurt feelings when idiots are allowed to trounce. When I see anything like that I POP in and kick ass. It may not shut me up. But at least the real peeps get support.
Xxxxo CC MUAH... What time are the drinks.
Hugs and hearts for you and Kay today, CC.
What poll do I need to go look at?
Don't know any more than they're having a bad SOH day. If I figure it out, I'll let you know.
Me? My day is going great! But, I will take the hugs anyway. :)
People sometimes frustrate me on here. But, that is part of life. We will never all agree.
It sounds like you may have hyper-user syndrome. As much as i love having u here maybe its time for a little break then come back. We all need a break from time to time. ;)
But plz come back. U will b missed!
Yeah, I do but I would miss you, and turn around, plus I know I piss a few people off
It's an app.
I'm not fazed by any negativity or shît slinging perpetuated by complete strangers.
I take this app at face value.
Thank you, sir! ;)
100% yes somedays.
Thank you Ron. I thought you died 10 years ago.
CC this isn't he troll RonaldReagan, this is MJ
Naah. Last I heard that FoMo guy took a Greyhound bus out of Buffalo :)
People are quite mean to CC at times. Don't let them get to you, CC!
You are my guy❤️
CC, you are AWESOME!!! Try not to let the trolls bug you.