Would your parents be mad and/or disappointed with you if you told them you were an Atheist? Or were they if you did?
I have been raised Christian my whole life, I've never believed it. I am Wiccan, and when my mom found out she had an exorcism done on me... Yea.. I'd say shes a little upset..
No. My parents were mad @ me for becoming an active believer. Obviously something - to them - I did vindictively. Couldn't possibly be any *other* reason - to them. They weren't atheist, just simply didn't care. Until I believed.
They raised me Catholic, and after MUCH learning & internal debate, I concluded I did not believe (I was about 17). Of course they were disappointed, but not mad at all. They probably thought it was a phase (it wasn't - it's been 15 yrs ). ;)
My mom still prays for me, and I don't mind. She has always respected my decision, and has never tried to convert me. My Catholic mom is proud of the woman I have become - proof that one doesn't need religion to develop into a strong, moral person.
It's unfortunate to see SO MANY atheists disrespected by family/friends when we "come out". We are viewed as "immoral" and "intolerant" when, in fact, the VAST MAJORITY of us are the most tolerant, ethically sound group of people out there.
Yeah, I told my mom when she asked. She was disappointed. My dad fell more on the angry side of things.
Oh my gosh yes. My grave would be open and waiting. I am a Roman Catholic.
I think my mom would only be concerned equating atheist with immorality.
My mom didn't care so no harm
In the day that was a sin! But my father never went to church (mother did). I excommunicated the church at 14. Didn't tell anyone.
"I wish I never had you." -my mother when I called her for her birthday and she decided to ask me.
Wow, that's rough
I'm glad she had you.
Eh. You have to know my mother. She said it was out of Christian and motherly love because I was now going to spend eternity burning in Hell unless I repented and came back to Jesus.
Growing up in a fundamentalist household makes these kinds of
...responses fairly innocuous.
you're a better person than me. and I'm still glad. ;-)
Lol I very much doubt I'm a better person than most, let alone you.
I would not be so understanding, this I know for a fact. and you are, at least as far as I know on here, a nice person. you argue for more freedom, not less. that makes you pretty stellar in my book.
My parents understood why I felt the way I did when I told them. My dad is now an atheist. My mom is mostly agnostic nowadays -- especially after realizing how incredibly hypocritical most of her church buddies actually were.
The only reason why anyone else would actually care is because their own belief system is so precarious and shaky that they need other people to believe as well so that they don't pay much attention to their own doubts.
No, my parents are pretty much atheists
In some ways as a Christian I have the opposite problem
So are your parents liberal? And do you get along fine with them, do you ever try to convert them, and do you think of them as any less or anything? Sorry, I've always been curios about the other way around
My mom thought it was just a phase since I was 13 when I told her. She has since become an agnostic and understands my PoV more. My dad doesn't agree but couldn't care less what I believe or don't believe.
I never knew you were
My father took it bad. But over the years has grown to accept it. My mom was fine with it from the beginning though. :)
Nope, my parents aren't ignorant bigots.
My mother probably thinks there are 2 or 3 people like that somewhere in the country. She would lose it if somebody in her family said that they were.
I plan on never telling them on not a Christian because I'm really afraid of how they would respond.
*im not on
Same. Disappointed if I revealed I was an agnostic? They are disappointed if I skip church!
I haven't told mine yet. I don't really see the point in it. I tested the waters by telling them about a "friend" that was an atheist. It did not go well at all, so I never approached the topic again. They would just worry about me anyway.
Same. Not worth the headache.
Anything other than Christian is an issue. My grandma (raised & adopted me) kept trying to convert me (I'm Wiccan) until the day she died.
no, but prob worried
Not at all. They don't understand it, but they are not disappointed or angry.
Just rolled their eyes
My dad said "Oh, he's being a typical, shitty, rebellious teenager" and he continued to drag me to church. And then I refused to go after I got confirmed.
My mother started sobbing... My dad doesn't really care.
Heck, I was raised by atheists. I think they'd be more shocked if I came out as some flavor of theist.
My father would be livid and would probably disown me. My mother would be disappointed, but would not disown me.
My dad was upset when I told him I was Pagan. I think he would have been worse if I'd said Atheist.
My family is very open and accepting of different beliefs and/or lifestyles.
Nope, we're a family of heathens.
Most of my family, while not being atheists, don't care about religion. I don't think I've ever outright said "I'm an atheist" I think they just got the hint because I've made some strong statements against religion.
I was raised Buddhist but my parents never enforced it. As I grew older I became an atheist. Years later I find out that my dad doesn't believe in god either. I don't think my mom knows, but doubt she cares anyways. Religion was never a big topic.
I thought you could be a Buddhist atheist because it doesn't follow a diety. Could you clarify why this was a conflict? Or were you just not into it?
Yes you can be Buddhist and still be atheist. But they still do things that are similar to praying, which I don't do. There's also other customs that I don't follow, so I'm not Buddhist. Honestly I know more about Christianity than Buddhism.
I mean, my parents really never enforced Buddhism on me at all. They were more concerned about me being a good person than what I follow or believe.
Thanks for sharing.
My dad was extremely pissed and tried to forbid it. My mom is and was very sad
Have they gotten used to it? Or was this recent?
It was 5 years ago. I don't talk to my dad anymore but my mom is doing better she will still say things like " one day you'll change your mind" I just let it slide. No use in getting worked up over it
Sorry about that. I couldn't imagine not being accepting if I had kids
Me too.. I just look at it as a great parenting lesson. If I have kids I know how NOT to be :)
That's a great way to look at it :)
Nope, they know I am. They understand that we each draw on our own reasoning and that it doesn't make me a worse individual.