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Colorado303 June 2nd, 2014 3:30pm

Would your parents be mad and/or disappointed with you if you told them you were an Atheist? Or were they if you did?

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MakiMaaka Louisiana
06/04/14 12:49 pm

I have been raised Christian my whole life, I've never believed it. I am Wiccan, and when my mom found out she had an exorcism done on me... Yea.. I'd say shes a little upset..

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elianastar Gab.ai FreeSpeech
06/04/14 7:53 am

No. My parents were mad @ me for becoming an active believer. Obviously something - to them - I did vindictively. Couldn't possibly be any *other* reason - to them. They weren't atheist, just simply didn't care. Until I believed.

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grondini Mainer in NC
06/03/14 10:30 pm

They raised me Catholic, and after MUCH learning & internal debate, I concluded I did not believe (I was about 17). Of course they were disappointed, but not mad at all. They probably thought it was a phase (it wasn't - it's been 15 yrs ). ;)

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grondini Mainer in NC
06/03/14 10:42 pm

My mom still prays for me, and I don't mind. She has always respected my decision, and has never tried to convert me. My Catholic mom is proud of the woman I have become - proof that one doesn't need religion to develop into a strong, moral person.

grondini Mainer in NC
06/03/14 10:49 pm

It's unfortunate to see SO MANY atheists disrespected by family/friends when we "come out". We are viewed as "immoral" and "intolerant" when, in fact, the VAST MAJORITY of us are the most tolerant, ethically sound group of people out there.

melders Entertainment Sometimes
06/03/14 6:08 pm

Yeah, I told my mom when she asked. She was disappointed. My dad fell more on the angry side of things.

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kjs Minnesota
06/03/14 4:20 pm

Oh my gosh yes. My grave would be open and waiting. I am a Roman Catholic.

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waterstar
06/03/14 12:47 pm

I think my mom would only be concerned equating atheist with immorality.

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nicolebliss31
06/03/14 12:03 pm

My mom didn't care so no harm

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rons screw politicians
06/03/14 11:10 am

In the day that was a sin! But my father never went to church (mother did). I excommunicated the church at 14. Didn't tell anyone.

citethesource Socialist and Atheist
06/02/14 10:34 pm

"I wish I never had you." -my mother when I called her for her birthday and she decided to ask me.

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Whichendisup uniquely unoriginal
06/03/14 4:30 pm

I'm glad she had you.

citethesource Socialist and Atheist
06/03/14 4:40 pm

Eh. You have to know my mother. She said it was out of Christian and motherly love because I was now going to spend eternity burning in Hell unless I repented and came back to Jesus.

Growing up in a fundamentalist household makes these kinds of

citethesource Socialist and Atheist
06/03/14 4:41 pm

...responses fairly innocuous.

Whichendisup uniquely unoriginal
06/03/14 6:42 pm

you're a better person than me. and I'm still glad. ;-)

citethesource Socialist and Atheist
06/03/14 9:21 pm

Lol I very much doubt I'm a better person than most, let alone you.

Whichendisup uniquely unoriginal
06/03/14 9:35 pm

I would not be so understanding, this I know for a fact. and you are, at least as far as I know on here, a nice person. you argue for more freedom, not less. that makes you pretty stellar in my book.

StilettoMiss SF med law, meme queen
06/02/14 1:11 pm

My parents understood why I felt the way I did when I told them. My dad is now an atheist. My mom is mostly agnostic nowadays -- especially after realizing how incredibly hypocritical most of her church buddies actually were.

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StilettoMiss SF med law, meme queen
06/02/14 1:12 pm

The only reason why anyone else would actually care is because their own belief system is so precarious and shaky that they need other people to believe as well so that they don't pay much attention to their own doubts.

skinner Wisconsin
06/02/14 12:30 pm

No, my parents are pretty much atheists

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skinner Wisconsin
06/02/14 1:13 pm

In some ways as a Christian I have the opposite problem

Colorado303 Future Seattle Resident
06/02/14 5:18 pm

So are your parents liberal? And do you get along fine with them, do you ever try to convert them, and do you think of them as any less or anything? Sorry, I've always been curios about the other way around

kelsey498 Colorado
06/02/14 12:26 pm

My mom thought it was just a phase since I was 13 when I told her. She has since become an agnostic and understands my PoV more. My dad doesn't agree but couldn't care less what I believe or don't believe.

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krayzewolf New Hampshire
06/02/14 12:17 pm

My father took it bad. But over the years has grown to accept it. My mom was fine with it from the beginning though. :)

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Lelouch Partisan Free Zone
06/02/14 10:47 am

Nope, my parents aren't ignorant bigots.

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Pirate Uses the Tap
06/02/14 10:33 am

My mother probably thinks there are 2 or 3 people like that somewhere in the country. She would lose it if somebody in her family said that they were.

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HayleyS looking up.
06/02/14 10:29 am

Definitely.
I plan on never telling them on not a Christian because I'm really afraid of how they would respond.

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jestana My Minds Eye
06/02/14 10:12 pm

Same. Disappointed if I revealed I was an agnostic? They are disappointed if I skip church!

Atheist A sheep amidst wolves
06/02/14 10:25 am

I haven't told mine yet. I don't really see the point in it. I tested the waters by telling them about a "friend" that was an atheist. It did not go well at all, so I never approached the topic again. They would just worry about me anyway.

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DuckAndCower
06/03/14 10:52 am

Same. Not worth the headache.

jmw7477 Indiana
06/02/14 10:19 am

Anything other than Christian is an issue. My grandma (raised & adopted me) kept trying to convert me (I'm Wiccan) until the day she died.

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Spartacus AUSTIN
06/02/14 10:06 am

Not at all. They don't understand it, but they are not disappointed or angry.

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jvc1133 61535
06/02/14 10:03 am

Just rolled their eyes

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TRJake Pendragon
06/02/14 10:02 am

My dad said "Oh, he's being a typical, shitty, rebellious teenager" and he continued to drag me to church. And then I refused to go after I got confirmed.

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DrCarpenter rather be in Florence
06/02/14 9:39 am

My mother started sobbing... My dad doesn't really care.

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DrDollylonglegs in the lab... again
06/02/14 9:18 am

Heck, I was raised by atheists. I think they'd be more shocked if I came out as some flavor of theist.

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PartyFree Nowhere in Particular
06/02/14 9:11 am

My father would be livid and would probably disown me. My mother would be disappointed, but would not disown me.

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tokala
06/02/14 9:03 am

My dad was upset when I told him I was Pagan. I think he would have been worse if I'd said Atheist.

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EarlyBird Portland
06/02/14 8:53 am

My family is very open and accepting of different beliefs and/or lifestyles.

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DeusOrbus Stay Positive
06/02/14 8:48 am

Nope, we're a family of heathens.

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FemmeAdamWest in the Tardis library
06/02/14 8:44 am

Most of my family, while not being atheists, don't care about religion. I don't think I've ever outright said "I'm an atheist" I think they just got the hint because I've made some strong statements against religion.

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PoOtiUs SoCal
06/02/14 8:43 am

I was raised Buddhist but my parents never enforced it. As I grew older I became an atheist. Years later I find out that my dad doesn't believe in god either. I don't think my mom knows, but doubt she cares anyways. Religion was never a big topic.

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Injectable Mojave Mo Problems
06/02/14 8:46 am

I thought you could be a Buddhist atheist because it doesn't follow a diety. Could you clarify why this was a conflict? Or were you just not into it?

PoOtiUs SoCal
06/02/14 8:53 am

Yes you can be Buddhist and still be atheist. But they still do things that are similar to praying, which I don't do. There's also other customs that I don't follow, so I'm not Buddhist. Honestly I know more about Christianity than Buddhism.

PoOtiUs SoCal
06/02/14 8:54 am

I mean, my parents really never enforced Buddhism on me at all. They were more concerned about me being a good person than what I follow or believe.

Injectable Mojave Mo Problems
06/02/14 3:42 pm

Thanks for sharing.

Rainey 633 Stag Trail Road
06/02/14 8:34 am

My dad was extremely pissed and tried to forbid it. My mom is and was very sad

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Colorado303 Future Seattle Resident
06/03/14 11:49 am

Have they gotten used to it? Or was this recent?

Rainey 633 Stag Trail Road
06/03/14 12:02 pm

It was 5 years ago. I don't talk to my dad anymore but my mom is doing better she will still say things like " one day you'll change your mind" I just let it slide. No use in getting worked up over it

Colorado303 Future Seattle Resident
06/03/14 4:02 pm

Sorry about that. I couldn't imagine not being accepting if I had kids

Rainey 633 Stag Trail Road
06/03/14 4:15 pm

Me too.. I just look at it as a great parenting lesson. If I have kids I know how NOT to be :)

MrLucchese If curious, ask.
06/02/14 8:34 am

Nope, they know I am. They understand that we each draw on our own reasoning and that it doesn't make me a worse individual.

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