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droo February 12th, 2014 7:00am

Could you "just be friends" with a girl or guy whom you love who rejected you?

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Zod Above Pugetropolis
02/12/14 4:45 pm

Sure. I'd already have the highest regard for her judgement and independent spirit, and I'd have been her friend first anyway. It was a bonus that we even gave it a shot, but we probably weren't fooling anyone, least of all ourselves.

2katz I live in Nebraska
02/12/14 1:27 pm

Tried, didn't work well. Hurt too much.

timeout Boston Strong
02/12/14 1:16 pm

When your young, no. That shot in the heart in a terrible thing. Not so much as you get older.

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PeppyHare Do a barrel roll
02/12/14 1:07 pm

I feel like this is a only problem if you're in school. I don't know when but I stopped caring about rejection.

Rosebud Ohio
02/12/14 11:09 am

Yes, I did it several times in school.

drcynic Pittsburgh, PA
02/12/14 10:56 am

It was necessary in school, or I wouldn't have had female friends at all. It usually went like this: "Oh Lawrence, I can never love you that way. It's not that you're not nice, it's just that we're friends. You understand".

drcynic Pittsburgh, PA
02/12/14 11:02 am

"No, I really don't understand. Not entirely anyway". But in order to at least keep my friend, I will say it's alright. Then I'd make a joke and everyone would laugh. No one needed to know rejection still hurts even if it's presented nicely.

kermie gaytopia
02/12/14 7:20 am

Excellent grammar :)

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MrLucchese If curious, ask.
02/12/14 7:17 am

Yes. It's unrealistic to expect that we, as humans, are somehow entitled to a relationship with someone. One of the biggest issues is a difference in expectation. What does each party want from the relationship? That needs to be made clear every step

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MrLucchese If curious, ask.
02/12/14 7:20 am

of the way. We do not control who we do and don't fall for, but when those feelings or lack thereof are made clear, we need to work to tailor our thoughts and actions accordingly.

chickencookie Jihad Joe
02/12/14 6:52 am

I doubt it. Feelings/memories never really leave you especially if you were the one dumped.

bliggs Veni Vidi Vigor
02/12/14 6:15 am

Not at first but after a little while I could. Time heals. I work with my ex wife lol.

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HayleyS looking up.
02/12/14 6:09 am

Yes... But I couldn't talk to them all the time.

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146787456777 .......
02/12/14 2:12 am

not if I was still in romantic love with them no, I couldn't stay their friend, would be like torture

m00lightshadow the moon has returned
02/12/14 12:05 am

Lol yes I could if you think about it a relationship starts as friends and becomes a romantic relationship.

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